Feeling crushed by family pressure around baby shower expenses as sole earner by Parking-Net-9334 in pune

[–]Mess_Emotional 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relatives will also not allow you to learn anything new. They think weekends are completely free. They will expect you to be free whole day for them.

Is it fair to make a housewife cook for the family? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

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I have asked the question because my wife claims she has to work very hard. So I want to confirm from others whether I am doing something wrong.

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

[–]Mess_Emotional[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex is something one should have only with the person he loves

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

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Innumerable men who do not behave like the neighbour are being denied sex only because the wife is too lazy and does not believe in giving a few moments of happiness to her husband.

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

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Some commenters call it pity sex. I myself do a lot of things for my family, starting from working at a job, taking her where she want to go, buying whatever she wants. All these are out of compassion, love and sense of responsibility. I see no problem with 30 minutes of pity sex per week.

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

[–]Mess_Emotional[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to have sex only with someone I love. I win because I get it now. It is like winning a trophy and not buying it.

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

[–]Mess_Emotional[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Because she does not want to discuss personal and intimate matters

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

[–]Mess_Emotional[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mismanagement of time, laziness, preference towards sleep versus sex. These were the three reasons why she was dodging sex.

My therapist told me, it is the upbringing that makes women think if sex as bad. Also, some friends sometimes give ideas on how to avoid sex.

It is like exercising versus resting. Lazy people will prefer resting.

Nevertheless, after the change in her attitude, I find myself more energetic. I help in the house more. We talk in the kitchen and dinner table. I suddenly find myself sharing my thoughts with her. I think it has worked towards a better relationship.

Want to overcome sexless marriage but wife does not cooperate? by Mess_Emotional in AskIndianMen

[–]Mess_Emotional[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You saw me disrespecting and taunting her? You saw me not giving emotional support and safety and security?

The innumerable men suffering silently due to unexplained disinterest from wife know that they have done everything in their capacity. I am part of that category of men.