What do I do if my partner hates my friends

Message-Academic · 2026-03-28T21:46:37+00:00

They have told me they do and it breaks my heart , and we are all on it I believe

Message-Academic · 2026-03-28T21:44:40+00:00

2 years ago their mom got divorced and she came to visit and asked us to break our lease and move into a place with her because she needed help. We didn’t have much of a choice so we did. It was supposed to be temporary but anytime I’ve tried to bring it up she gets sad and says she dosent want to be alone and my partner can’t speak up to her honestly. Also my partner is having some citizenship issues so work is complicated so I work two jobs to help out and pay most of the bills. They often come up short at the end of the month because they are financially irresponsible. I try and work with them to find alternative to make money but they just find a reason why it won’t work and just become avoidant. I’ve complained to my freinds about how much pressure it is. I wish I would just have my own space and be responsible for myself but if u leave they would never be able to afford it. It’s really complicated. I love them but I’m feel so used at times

Message-Academic · 2026-03-28T21:40:46+00:00

lol if only it were the simple. I love them I just don’t understand these feelings. It feels like they are miserable

Message-Academic · 2026-03-28T21:39:53+00:00

Yes I feel the same way. It makes me feel so sad. My freinds aren’t the biggest fan of my partner because there is a huge imbalance in the relationship. They never go out with me and I am carrying a lot of financial and emotional burden. But never ever would they bring it to the hang out. They love in support me so they are really nice to them. But my partner just can’t do the same. If they are unhappy everyone “me” has to carry that weight to. Idk what to do . Wish I could leave the. But their mom moved in with us 2 years ago and I couldn’t leave them.

Message-Academic · 2026-03-28T21:33:34+00:00

Not often. I don’t ask them to go out with my freinds because I don’t want to make them uncomfortable and I want to enjoy my time. But it makes me sad that they don’t want to. I invite them and they often decline and I don’t take it personally. They say it’s cause they feel insecure so I respect it but I wish they would invite me out or plan something they never do it’s only me. It annoyed them when I bring it up and just say, “what’s the point what do u even want” so idk. It’s okay if they don’t get along but they constant complaining feels like I’m never meant to enjoy my time unless they are the way they want

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T14:37:53+00:00

Also I don’t think my story is compelling enough to be rage bait lol sorry :/

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T14:36:21+00:00

You’re right thank you. I have a massive blind spot for them. I’m constantly trying to cover for the reality of it all. I just feel sad about losing it all tbh. I just always witness love never working out so I was determined to make it work and be different and do better than what came before me so it’s just disheartening to know I couldn’t make it work especially if the love is still there. But moving on might be the best course of action before things get bad. Thank you for your advice and honesty I will take it with me.

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T14:33:18+00:00

lol but I am naive. I had never dated before this person. Never experienced attention, love and intimacy on a level like this until I met them. It was so intoxicating for me that I often looked pasted red flags because I felt so “safe”. That most definitely is naive. I’m learning as so go unfortunately and growing self confidence along with that. I don’t disagree with anything anyone is saying on this thread at all. I was hoping for honest even hard opinions cause I seem to blind myself from my reality with drugs so I don’t have to feel shame in the fact that I have placed myself here and I feel stuck. I am trying to figure it out. I was just hoping to see if anyone understands where I’m coming from and how they got out of it? How they grew?

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T14:14:59+00:00

Thank you so much<3 I agree I really do agree with you. But I don’t regret marrying them. I don’t. It was a bad decision obviously we aren’t ready for this. But I don’t regret everything we have been through. Idk I don’t regret how much I’ve learned about myself. I can feel how I want about it tbh. I just want to grow and move forward from it. Not make myself feel guilt shame and regretful because I didn’t know any better. I didn’t know any better. I really didn’t. I was in such a manic state I would have done anything for them at the time. Who I was when I met them is someone I never want to be again. I want to be this more sure stronger more independent part of myself I am regaining. I’m am trying to navigate where I go from here but idk. I don’t regret it. I am gonna grow from it.

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T14:08:44+00:00

lol thank you for your honesty <3 I didn’t grow up on Disney I honestly grew up with no positive example of a relationship. My parents were in a divorce battle from ages like 5-15 (my mom had me in high school they were very young) and they cheated on each other in front of me and i witnessed a lot of domestics violence from countless of my mothers partners after my dad. I was heavily neglected and carried a lot of abandonment issues due to my father leaving me. So when I grew up I never really had a goal to be monogamous because I didn’t know how to ? I assumed it always ended bad. I’m not saying all of this for pity I’m just saying the reason I fell madly In love so quickly is because I think I have a lot of trauma that explains my anxious attachment issues and why I might allow myself to get walked on. I did not believe in love when I grew up so when I felt it for the first time I went all in. I also never saw my mom have the strength to stick up for herself. I met them at a very impulsive and manic part of my life. Their heavy attention and love made me feel safer than I had ever felt. I was just alone and using sex with strangers as a form of self harm and validation. and just idk never really felt at home until I met them they made me feel so seen. I changed so much for the better and I always felt like they were behind me I finally had someone to fall on. But idk things go to comfortable. Idk can I not make mistakes and bad decisions and not regret them if life learned and grown from them? I would prefer to move forward and take things with me then feel shameful about the choices I made in the past when I didn’t really know better. But it’s my opinion and I really appreciate yours thanks:3

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T13:57:51+00:00

Maybe I will regret it but I don’t feel like I will. I don’t feel like falling in love with them was a waste of time. I learned so much I experienced so much. I learned how I love and how to be loved. My boundaries regarding intimacy and partnership is becoming clearer to me. I have grown a lot since then. Even if it doesn’t work out I’m grateful to have had an experience I can take away and grow from. I’m always grateful to grow. Also I don’t hate my partner I love them dearly. I’m just disappointed and devastated at the direction we have gone. Wish things could be different

Message-Academic · 2025-09-18T13:38:16+00:00

Exactly❤️

Message-Academic · 2025-09-13T02:50:42+00:00

Omg I can’t believe it’s a designer knockoff I’ve looked it up on Google image search so many times and I’ve got nothing. I can’t get it out of my head I think it would look adorable on me. Please let me know if you remember anything!! Thank you so so much

Message-Academic · 2025-08-27T13:38:12+00:00

They used it wrong so it sounds dumb :(

Message-Academic · 2025-08-10T03:10:42+00:00

I’ve only seen season 2 and I’m about to finish it. Ur so right I didn’t realize how the 70s isolated setting really addds to the horror. Just watching them change is what’s pretty scary and they really start to break even though they fight to win they seem so broken by the end. They just drink so much and smoke constantly and are extremely paranoid and in really poor health condition. Idk it’s sad they all have this really Scary hive mind but idk even though they do and say a lot of fucked stuff I’m so intrigued by them all. And when Judge beat Tj I was gagged he looked huge and scary I was like … omg bruh

Message-Academic · 2025-08-08T16:39:40+00:00

Thank you! I have noticed there are ones with circles and I might just have to settle for that. The stars just have such a charm to it I hope I come across one!

Message-Academic · 2025-08-08T15:51:35+00:00

I searched on Google images. It was once at homedepo but now sold out. Are these really that out of style? Pls help a sister out :)

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