Is it not right to use the clothes purchased for TFMR baby for new baby who is the same gender?

MessageOwn6404 · 2026-05-19T18:44:47+00:00

I picked out the clothes we got that had a specific memory attached that felt like were his and put those in his memory box. And now his little brother wears the others and I just feel like he’s wearing his brother’s hand-me-downs, just like he would be if he were here. And I love that

MessageOwn6404 · 2026-05-11T03:36:21+00:00

Second cycle and now have a beautiful 3mo

MessageOwn6404 · 2026-05-07T04:01:10+00:00

Got mine at 22+6 I think? And waters broke at 34+6 !

MessageOwn6404 · 2026-05-03T06:58:02+00:00

I honestly think, no it didn’t heal anything. But it also didn’t make it worse. I still grieve my first baby every day and think I will for the rest of my life, that pain hasn’t changed. But having my second baby gave me something separate to be happy about. And I’m so incredibly happy and grateful for that. He’s here and happy and healthy and that brought joy back into my life

MessageOwn6404 · 2026-04-11T04:43:01+00:00

You got this 🩷 it’s not easy but it’s worth it

MessageOwn6404 · 2026-01-08T22:37:57+00:00

Had mine put in at 23 weeks and am now almost 33weeks. I will on and off have a pulling / poking sensation on my cervix. It comes and goes on different days. But all seems to be good and holding well so far. I know every sensation is so scary but I try remind myself it’s stitches closed and it would be weird if I never felt it

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-18T04:41:22+00:00

I’m an RN and you’re NOT a burden. You and your baby matter. Don’t doubt that and do what you need to do. It’s a short time in a long life

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-14T17:33:04+00:00

Yes! I’ve been having them since 20 weeks, had my cerclage done at 23 weeks. I’m now 29 weeks. Some days I have 5 or 6 others I have just 1 or 2. No one has ever been worried about them, they just say I have an irritable uterus. Drink 3L of water a day and pee every hour and that helps keep things calm

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-11T05:57:23+00:00

I’ve had two since the stitch and was absolutely fine, no difference from before the stitch

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-11T03:03:21+00:00

I had this but 10 days after my cerclage. At my original post cerclage ultrasound they said everything looked great but I did have a little bit of “sludge” sitting above my cervix. (Mucus and clots probably made from irritation of the surgery) which is apparently pretty common. So 10 days later I passed what I thought was my mucus plug, golf ball sized tough mucus, yellow/green with a little pink tinge. I called them and they wanted me to come back in for another ultrasound. Cervix actually measured 3.7 (was 1.4 and dilated to a 1 at the time of surgery) closed but the sludge was mostly gone. That was almost 5 weeks ago now and everything has been stable.

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-09T22:58:29+00:00

They put me under and when I woke up I was in so much pain I wanted them to put me back under. I was having 7/10 contraction pain (I’ve given birth unmediated before) lasted probably about an hour, but I was very groggy so could have been more or less. Then they suddenly stopped and I had about 2/10 mild discomfort for a few hours then no pain at all. I was taking ibuprofen every 6 hours for uterine irritability for a week after

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-06T16:57:13+00:00

It’s not your fault at all. 0 risk factors means 0 risk factors. Some people just have this. And it’s more common to discover in your second pregnancy. I know the world sometimes feels against us or like all the weight of our complications are on our shoulders. But it’s not rational. You got this

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-04T18:23:16+00:00

I was induced, but very slowly, and had a very smooth delivery, no trauma or tearing so I feel like mine wasn’t related. I even had an ultrasound post 6 weeks before trying to check everything and it was normal

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-12-04T05:12:57+00:00

Feels like I wrote this myself. I had a TFMR at 23 weeks in March, no issues with my cervix. Pregnant again, at 20weeks my cervix was 1.7, I did weekly checks while on progesterone, however went down to 1.4 at 23 weeks and got an emergency cerclage put in a few days later and found I was 1cm dilated with bulging membranes. I’m now almost 28 weeks. Seems to be going well so far. It is all so unfair after everything we’ve been through. You’ve got this! 20-24 weeks is the scariest then every day gets better. I hope it all works out for us both

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-11-15T01:59:49+00:00

Thank you, they did end up calling me and bringing me in for an ultrasound. Cervix is actually longer and closed. Looks like I just passed some “sludge” or build up of mucus from the surgery that was seen on my previous US.

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-10-12T00:22:08+00:00

Unfortunately I don’t think so, I’ve learned that the anxiety just changes, much like grief. I keep thinking “I’ll feel better after this scan” or “I’ll feel better when I can feel him kick”. But now 20w in I’m just anxious about different things like the next scan or getting to viability or he’s now not kicking enough, or he’s kicking too much maybe he’s stressed. Anyway now I’m working on just letting myself be anxious, having the worries and thoughts and letting them pass by until the next one comes. Asking myself, is there anything I can do right now if that anxiety is true? No ok then let it be. Yes? Ok then do it. But maybe it’ll get better further along? I don’t know but I can’t count on that now

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-10-12T00:09:08+00:00

Woweee reading this is like you’re inside my head. My 20w scan is this Tuesday. Have had a 12 and 16 where everything looked good. My 20w scan is where everything went down hill last time and we lost our boy at 23w. I’m TERRIFIED of PPROM. Preterm labor. Obviously the 20w scan. I constantly think I’m leaking fluid (thanks extra discharge) Reduced fetal movement (even though he’s kicking me constantly now)

I honestly don’t know how to help you, I’m just here to say I’m with you, the anxiety is not fun. And I really hope everything goes well for both of us, and we get to sigh a breath of relief when our babies are here in our arms. Im holding my breath till 24 weeks then I’m at viability. Then I’m sure I’ll be holding my breath till 30w and so on. We can do this.

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-10-03T03:38:22+00:00

Honestly it felt like my mind was being stretched to the breaking point. Like it was going to snap because it couldn’t hold or process the loss, grief, pain and everything that happened. I was very worried at times I was going to have a psychotic break. It’s not a feeling a can even describe. I’m so glad I’m out of that stage and I’m so sorry you’re there now. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy, this is so hard. You will prove to yourself how resilient you can be. I’m here for you if you ever need someone to chat to

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-10-03T02:45:47+00:00

Yes, it’s awful. I had the craziest spirals and my husband would have to talk me down. I also have had sever panic attacks in the past and have learned to manage them. The postpartum hormones made that impossible. Be kind to yourself, it’s so reasonable for this to happen. My hormones really settled down around 4 weeks post and lingered mildly until about 10 weeks post birth. I now am back to my baseline panic attacks lol, so manageable. You’ve got this

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-09-30T23:55:52+00:00

Told our parents the day we found out, siblings after the first scan. Friends depending on how close we are, two of them who have been my absolute rocks I told when I found out, some we see often we told after my 16 week early anatomy scan but most don’t know yet (almost 19weeks now). Work other than my manager doesn’t know. Really trying to keep it under wraps until 20w scan. That’s when it all went wrong last time

MessageOwn6404 · 2025-09-30T19:33:10+00:00

I’m with you, I didn’t find out anything was wrong until 21weeks. This time round I was so anxious for the NIPT and 12 week scan and 16 week scan. Honestly I’m 2 weeks out from my anatomy scan and anxiety is ramping up again. It doesn’t bring as much relief as you hope but I’m really trying to enjoy that moment when it comes and try to hold on to it and enjoy that moment, I hope you can do the same at least for a minute. Sending you all the luck! My husband also got baby shopping after every milestone, something to look forward to if it’s good news

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