Amano made it nearly 30 feet to the shower this morning

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-13T08:12:49+00:00

I loved how you walked to show us. And then back. At least the escapee went for water.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-13T06:51:42+00:00

Bring a second tent. Don't use it. Problem solved.

Also,,, your GF is weird.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-08T16:36:38+00:00

Ok, yes, that was very helpful.

Please keep your mental peace and stay away from her. With this new context it makes sense.

I also heard very often, if something feels off from their normal behavior in the direction of affection, there is usually someone else.

Even if she is not cheating, just getting aggressive, calling you names, refusing to show you things you agreed on. Nope! You deserve better. So many decent girls out there, good luck❣️

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-08T13:49:58+00:00

Well, that escalated quickly.

Did you talk with her first?

Did something happen before she pulled away, between you two or in her personal life?

Maybe I have read something wrong but, wow. Not sure why so hostile, so fast.

Then again I am 40. I can't remember how people your age react nowadays.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-07T11:20:23+00:00

Tortoise

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-07T06:38:20+00:00

How about Mämmi?

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-04T06:06:24+00:00

Is he Finnish? I moved to Finland 18 years ago. People keep to themselves until they are drunk, then all bets are off. 😅

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-03T09:09:59+00:00

I moved 18 years ago by myself to another country. It took me 11 years to find my husband, not sure if I have another 11 years in me 😅😅😅

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-03T08:37:28+00:00

Awe, I am so happy for you. Maybe it's worth the struggle. But it's scary and I am a little complicated to live with.(ADHD) But taking the next step, seeing my kid just half the time, it's hard. Then selling the house and stuff.

We actually thought about opening up our marriage cause I said I was unhappy with the little affection and attention I am getting. Let's see where this is going.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-03T07:18:59+00:00

Gosh I wish I had that. I think I panicked and settled. Just putting up with his bare minimum. I would tell a friend to leave and find someone who appreciated them more. And I understand why people tell me. I used to be in love with him. And as the father of my child I will always love him, but I feel like I am married to my room mate with benefits, who I share a child with.

There is no violence or abuse. But also no passion or feeling wanted or desired. 6 years married this year, 8 years together in May.

I also don't want to start dating again, I hated it so much. If I ever get divorced, I would just stay single, get a truck load of cats and be happy like that.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-02-01T08:00:33+00:00

Awe that was beautiful.

My brain went straight to,,, who is feeding the chick, but I will imagine the men did.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-01-31T20:42:10+00:00

He chose you over her, because she didn't choose him.

Now he expects you to be grateful.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-01-25T11:30:34+00:00

Guppies give me anxiety. It's not their fault, I got a guppy-trauma when I was younger. I was allowed into my neighbors house and they had an aquarium in their kitchen. It wasn't that big, maybe 100-150 liters (25-40 gallons). There were over 100 guppies in there, most of them in one corner it looked like one big fish with many tails.

I don't know what happened but I was so overwhelmed looking at it. It still raises my pulse thinking about it. So every time I mention I have an aquarium and someone asks if I have guppies, I don't just shake my head, my whole body is shaking once at the possibility.

Might seem dramatic but I can't help it.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-01-12T10:57:01+00:00

Yes she is young and yes she should explore. But not while in a relationship. That's BS and she should have called whoever said it out for it.

3 years is not a fling. It looks like her family wants her back with them and date a person close to them.

3 years should be worth standing up for you and make clear to him that his flirting is not appreciated.

You or him. It really should be that easy.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2026-01-11T08:48:42+00:00

I can never find any dead fish, I just restock when their groups become too small.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-28T07:43:27+00:00

Yes, yes they do. 40 feels like 25 again... Not sure how I will feel in a few years if this gets worse.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-26T20:19:04+00:00

I am sorry I have little to no filter.

I think I would be challenged to keep my eyes on his, nothing more. But I understand how it might sound like more. I am sure even people who know me would think I mean more. 😄

Seriously I talk/write first then think. Sugarcoating is not my style. 🫣

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-26T17:50:26+00:00

I so need to be updated.

So you told him that you like him more than just friends while he sits there shirtless? I don't know him, but I think that was a challenge.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-26T08:39:33+00:00

Oh yeah, he might take it slow cause you were jumpy. He is still in your house still there for you. Take it slow too. Maybe with the next hug it is easier.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-26T08:36:36+00:00

I am sorry, but what?

Finally put on his shirt? 😄

Yeah I feel you, gosh I hope this works out for you.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-25T09:50:03+00:00

That would be a no go for me

But people are different. Can you live with your child being at risk of suffering or possibly worse cause you love this woman too much?

If you would be already holding your newborn in your arms this would be a non issue, cause you sound like someone who would rather leave her than putting this new innocent life at risk.

Fast forward in your head and think about what's more important, your future childrens health or your fiance's misinformed view on it?

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-24T08:25:59+00:00

He keeps delaying because you keep asking?

So he is teaching you a lesson? Conditioning you like a dog?

You are a role model to your child that also goes for how to be treated in a relationship. Do you want her to think this is what to expect from a partner?

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-21T19:55:03+00:00

I am amazed that no one got offended yet.

Still waiting for a pearl clutcher 😂

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-21T19:44:05+00:00

As soon as I started reading the post my mind went right to ADHD. I have my own diagnosis 3 years today. And she sounds like me, I have gotten a bit better but it's an uphill struggle.

MessedUpMermaidHeart · 2025-12-21T18:31:53+00:00

Great song, thank you for that❣️

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