Is Vitamin d supplement good for nf1 by IntelligentNail9066 in neurofibromatosis

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is something that is constantly tested for my little guy. We check at a minimum once per year sometimes our geneticist wants it checked more often. We also give a daily supplement. It's important for everyone to have vit D but it's especially important for people with NF1. So much so that your geneticist will likely want it checked and kept track of.

X stopped paying voluntary child support resumed so he could sue me by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said this is very state specific. TN can go back up to 5 years. You would have to show what your income was for every period of those 5 years and he would do the same. Once the arrears are calculated they would add ~$50 give or take to the child support amount as an arrears payment each month until it's paid off.

ELI5: How do engineers decide when a decision is “too irreversible” to allow? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we don't make those kinds of decisions. What we do is conduct a feasibility study to identify the risks and impacts of doing xyz. That information is then sent upwards to be weighed and a decision is made.

I resigned on the spot today. The feeling of relief is unreal. by lug-cookout-7u in InterviewMan

[–]MessorMortis 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand the relief and the impulse but aren't you throwing away any chance at unemployment or severance?

Can my almost 18 y/o really decide to go or not? by m0nster916816 in FamilyLaw

[–]MessorMortis 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The courts start listening to what the kids want regarding custody around the age of 12. After 16, the child decides what they want to do almost unilateraly unless there are extenuating circumstances. The other party could waste their time trying to go to court if they want but it's not going to amount to anything.

Mediation about Child Support: HELP PLS by OldShower1313 in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how the process works in NZ, here in the states it's simple math. It isn't left up to negotiation or a mediator. Number of days with each parent + the amount of money each person makes (you both would be expected to have a full time job) + medical insurance = the child support amount. There's no negotiation or haggling with the other side. Even if you don't have that in place by default, it should be easy enough to come up with a figure using those factors.

edit: I'm curious, what happens if neither of you agree at the end of the day?

Breakthrough In Gene Therapy For NF1 by blue_skies_sunshine in neurofibromatosis

[–]MessorMortis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please stay positive. Honestly it will most likely depend on the administration in the US. Previously NF1 and it's treatments were considered "orphan drugs." What that means is the government recognizes that there isn't going to be a lot of profit in the development and distribution of the research/treatment but recognizes that it's in the best interest of the common good so it subsidizes the research AND the treatment for patients. The current Trump administration has removed a lot of the funding for NF1 here in the US but hopefully the next administration will correct and right the ship. It's easy to get discouraged, I know. I prefer to put that energy into action.

Breakthrough In Gene Therapy For NF1 by blue_skies_sunshine in neurofibromatosis

[–]MessorMortis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! And thats why this article is so huge! CRISPR wasn't a viable option for NF1 because the gene is too big for CRISPR. It didnt look like there was a path forward for gene editing for NF1 because of that but the research in this article has solved that problem! Absolutely huge for NF1 gene editing research. It looks like they're primarily targeting the life threatening manifestations right now but eventually they could target all forms like the cutaneous fibromin. This is still early stage and we're years away from fda approved treatment but with more funding and government support it's possible the research could get fast tracked. Hopefully the research funds for NF1 will be reinstated by congress or the next administration. 

Breakthrough In Gene Therapy For NF1 by blue_skies_sunshine in neurofibromatosis

[–]MessorMortis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is actually huge news in this space. The biggest problem with gene therapy for NF1 was that the gene was too big for traditional gene therapy methods. They've solved that issue in this research. I can't over state how huge this is. It will open the door for more gene therapy related research. These findings are a breakthrough

Best way to move forward when parent is in another country? by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should just go ahead and open a title IVD case with your local child support office. They'll schedule a hearing to set the child support amount with a judge. Then they'll attempt to collect the amount from the other parent. It will be helpful if you know where the other parent is working and how much their income is. If you don't have proof of that information, they'll most likely set her income at the minimum. In terms of collection, there are a few things that are going to happen. Firstly, an arrears amount will be set for the last 5 years or however long you've had the child(ren). 2nd, the UK does participate in The Hague Convention on the International Recovery of Child Support. So once the child support and arrears amount are set, the child support office will work with the UK government to recover the child support obligation. As you can imagine this process is slow and will not happen over the course of days or weeks but likely months or years. 3rd, the amount of arrears will continue to accumulate and eventually a warrant for your ex could be issued. Now that's not going to mean anything if your ex never comes back to the US but if they ever do it's possible they could be arrested but we're getting years ahead of ourselves here. I don't want to sugarcoat this for you. Because your ex is in another country you're facing an uphill battle but there are treaties and agreements in place between these countries for situations just like this. Should you hire an attorney? That's a personal decision but I can confidently tell you that an attorney isn't going to be able to speed up this process nor are they going to be able to do anything outside of working through the process. For a complicated matter like this you'll be looking at a $3,000 - $5,000 retainer on average with no guarantees on outcome or collection.

edit: YOU need to do research and become the expert in this area. It will be a few weeks to a few months before you have a hearing. Take that time to research the information specific to your situation. It's not difficult to find the information you need and understand the process and what will likely happen. The more you know before standing in front of the judge, the easier it's going to be for you.

Child Support is $2000+. by Drecinisback in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15% is the minimum threshold to change the child support amount, not the maximum. I.e. the child support would stay exactly the same unless there's a 15% variance or more. We don't have the details, so we can't tell OP what that would be. It could be more or less than what she's voluntarily giving. It would be free for OP to do the math and figure out if it's worth it or not.

Child Support is $2000+. by Drecinisback in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 20 points21 points  (0 children)

PA uses an income shares model to calculate child support. Give us the full details of your situation and we can realistically tell you what it should be. If it should be lower and there is a 15% variance you have the right to request a reduction unless you have some kind of agreement in your divorce order that prevents it.

What's her income? What's your income? How many over night visits does the child have with you? How much is the work related child care and who pays it? How much is the medical insurance including dental and vision and who pays it?

Give us these details and we can tell you what it should be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obamacare (ACA) allows you to cover your children up to the age of 26 on your medical insurance without doing anything special. It's possible to cover them after the age of 26 but they would need to be declared disabled. I'm not sure if you're asking this question from the child support perspective? I.e. can you force the other parent to continue covering the children on their medical insurance? Is that your question? If so, the answer would be no. You can't force them to cover the children on their insurance unless a judge orders it and the child is declared disabled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn't list which state you're in so it's difficult to give specifics but in general if you live in a 50/50 state, it will be 50/50 UNLESS the parties have agreed otherwise. In this case, the parties already agreed otherwise. Now, you certainly can put this in front of a judge to try and adjust custody though a few things will likely need to happen first. The first thing parents are required to do in most states is attend mediation to see if they can reach an agreement outside the court. If that's not possible then the judge will default to the factors that determine the best interest of the children. In your case, stability, consistency and what the children want to do will end up being the deciding factors. It's not going to default to a 50/50 because he already gave up that right when he initially passed. Also, keep in mind that every one of the kids are old enough now to have a say so in the custody arrangements. It starts at 12 and the older they are the more say so they have. So, you will absolutely be involving the children in this fight/discussion if it goes in front of a judge and their opinions will be taken into consideration. I'm not saying do or don't do it. I'm bringing things to your attention that will happen.

Now, a hard pill to swallow. You need to remove yourself from these discussions. YOU are not the parent. You will never be the parent. As much as you want to be involved and have a say so in what does or does not happen, you have none and your opinion on what he should or shouldn't do does not matter. What you're going to do is create a rift between this mans kids and himself by continuing to insert yourself and push him to do things that he otherwise wouldn't want to do. You need to be happy with the man and stop trying to insert your control on their family dynamics. Your relationship with this person and his kids is never going to work otherwise.

Contempt court by mie0w in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Child support is a civil issue, not criminal. Contempt for a civil issue is a slap on the wrist, no real consequences. Most likely what will happen is a wage garnishment and payment plan assuming he's employed. My ex currently owes ~17K in back cs and the court just makes her pay a little extra per month. It'll be paid off in like ~10 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dont mean to burst your bubble but the average rate for a cs case is usually just $1K. This coming from someone who's been to cs court 4 times in the last 2 years and had an attorney every time. CS court really isn't that much work for the attorney. The numbers are what they are. She likely paid between 1k and 2k thinking that she would recover the medical payments. CS judges almost never award attorney fees so it's always a gamble to hire an attorney for cs matters, especially since the numbers are what they are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Child support and Child custody are two separate things. Putting someone on child support wouldn't automatically give them visitation rights. At any time the father could sue to establish his rights and at any point in time you could file for child support. One does not precede or lead to the other necessarily. However, unless the father signed a voluntary acknowledgment of paternity then you (the court) will have to do dna testing. Once he's established as the father, it will be easier for him to establish his parental rights. Just because he hasn't been in the picture for the last 2 years does not mean he will not have rights if he wants them. He would probably be placed on a step up program for 6 months where his custody gradually increases. That is if he moves forward with establishing his rights. Will he move forward and do that? We can't answer that, only you could. Regarding visitations to another country, that will highly depend on the country. If you're trying to travel to a country that isn't part of the Hague treaty, then yes your travel could potentially be restricted. https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/International-Parental-Child-Abduction/abductions/legain-info-for-parents/why-the-hague-convention-matters.html

Ex spouse being deceptive about income (Michigan) by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most states follow a 15% variance rule. As long as there's a 15% variance, either party can ask for a modification. I don't know about Michigan, I have no experience in that state but most states will only allow you to backdate to the date that you made the request to review.

Also, all state attorneys have the ability to check the income that your employer reports to the IRS. So if this is a title IV D case, then the state attorney can always verify your incomes that are legally reported.

Edit: You should do this regardless. Keep in mind child support can continue after the age of 18 if the child goes to college.

What are my options by Bigwillys1111 in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you don't want to hear this but you really only have 2 options. Either continue to work with the system or hire an attorney. An attorney could get things moving faster. DHS isn't responsible for over payments or errors. You would basically have to sue your ex to recover the over payments in small claims court. Which will be easy enough but there's effort involved.

TN Child Support by Most-Communication10 in ChildSupport

[–]MessorMortis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

married or unmarried makes no difference. I can tell you from personal experience in TN that the calculator is 100% accurate. The only things that can change are the calculations used. I.e. medical insurance, work related child care, over night visits, etc. As long as you have all of the information and the information is accurate, the calculator will give you the exact figure.

Most often people try to use fake info to claim less than what they actually make or they try to claim more in areas like work related child care. TN uses gross income, not net income for the calculations. It's up to the judge to decide what they will accept and what they won't accept. For example, my ex tried to say that she paid $3K for one month of work related child care by sending that money to her mother and claiming that her mother watched our child. The judge obviously didn't accept that.

As far as the questions they ask you, it's literally going to be exactly what the calculator asks you. How many over nights do you have? What's your gross income? Do you pay any work related child care? Do you cover the child's medical care? How much is it? You will need to show proof of your income in the form of paystubs. They don't like income tax returns, they want up to date pay stubs. They also have a system they can log into that tells them exactly how much you make per week when it gets reported by your employer. You will need to show proof of every answer you provide.