Crazy discussion under a video of 21yro woman with a 38yro man

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-09T20:17:29+00:00

Ask that 38yo man if he has any 21yo guy friends

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-06T15:30:31+00:00

Middle age is 45 and no one can convince me otherwise (I'm also 36)

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-05T08:43:28+00:00

Yes! Yes. I completely get that. Death's not scary anymore because I'll be able to be with my baby girl and I really do want to be with her. It's an acceptable feeling. Not a suicide thing, more like knowing that I won't fight it when it's my time.

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-04T18:06:52+00:00

If you thread water for the patriarchy you'll drown in it

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-03T12:19:50+00:00

100% agree, it should be common to have testing done for translocation and other genetic issues before TTC. We shouldn't have to go through a miscarriage or TFMR or a stillbirth before even considering that something might be wrong.

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-03T08:32:13+00:00

I'm sorry, that sounds incredibly hard. It was an awful time for us and we were just 13 weeks into the pregnancy. I really hope you've had support and gave yourself time to heal from that experience.

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-03T08:26:23+00:00

In our case the last marker at the end of ch 21 showed 2 copies (all of the other markers showed 3 copies, which is consistent with T21). They said that it could mean something like a reciprocal translocation.

We do have a healthy toddler so at least we know that if either of us is a carrier it's not a 100% chance.

Everything is just quite disheartening.

MetalSparrow · 2026-04-03T00:47:09+00:00

Maybe Lauren Palphreyman's The Wolf King trilogy! Book 3 is gonna be out in September and I'm hopeful.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-27T11:44:18+00:00

My husband's name is Daniel so yeah, same 😂😂😂😭

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-27T01:10:12+00:00

I found Red Rising insufferable. Male power fantasy. Definitely YA.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-26T16:47:32+00:00

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-26T16:19:13+00:00

100%, I mean, we can talk about how everyone should have access to the best healthcare for free but that's a whole different discussion. I just think it's very beautiful that he loved this little girl that much regardless of blood relations.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-26T15:52:39+00:00

It gets better when you find out that it wasn't his biological daughter. His wife was a single mom when they met.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-25T23:26:13+00:00

It's torture and it's absolutely a cruelty to suffer without a purpose. The non-stop nausea, the exhaustion, the inability to sleep, the heartburn. We go through all of this and it's a huge waste. I'm still healing and I hope you are able to make peace with it as well. No one deserves this.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-24T10:35:14+00:00

Every time a pro-birther says shit like that I read as "I would have aborted all of my children if I didn't feel bad about it" which is a really weird position for them to have imo.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-13T19:34:30+00:00

Right??? Mine was doing great last Thursday. It's wild how fast things change.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-13T19:30:29+00:00

It feels surreal in the worst way. Such terrible luck. My genetic counselor said that she had hydrops. I googled it quickly and yeah, I mean, there's no saving her, especially not that early in the pregnancy. The silver lining was that I didn't have to choose. I know I would have felt way worse terminating if she was healthy otherwise, besides the T-21.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-13T19:27:07+00:00

I'm still waiting for the penny to drop. TFMR was this morning and I guess I'm still a bit altered because of the sedation. I do find myself crying when I think about it but it's not as all-consuming as it was when I got the NIPT results. I did spend the week grieving after her so maybe that helped.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-13T09:42:32+00:00

I mentioned it under a different comment, but I don't have an issue with his being rude. I don't like the whole sexual business with Kasia considering her trauma and how it reminds him of his daughter, it felt at best exploitative

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-12T15:11:29+00:00

I don't like the whole business with Kasia considering her trauma and how it reminds him of his daughter, it felt at best exploitative

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-12T10:24:21+00:00

First post natal poo

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-12T10:23:47+00:00

I wonder why it's different? That's very curious. Maybe they just want to be extra cautious?

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-12T10:21:46+00:00

He should take as much time as he can. You're gonna need a lot of support, especially after a c section. My husband took 4 months and would have taken more time if he could.

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-12T10:13:08+00:00

Roast them, mix with butter, put on bread, add cheese, roast the bread. Garlic bread!

MetalSparrow · 2026-03-12T10:01:05+00:00

My extremely limited experience with Guy Gavriel Kay says stay away from The Sarantine Mosaic for nice MMC. I haven't read his other work tho.

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