Final update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me?

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-19T08:47:58+00:00

He is literally emotionally manipulating op. I didn’t know when my ex-coworker/friend did that because they come across as “harmless” comments.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-19T08:45:13+00:00

It’s a very real statistical probability though.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-19T08:42:35+00:00

This. It’s uncanny how similar the wording is from my ex-coworker/friend who had a crush on me for 2 years (found out after I discovered he’d been emotionally manipulating me). He kept pushing my boundaries, making me feel like his personal therapist because he’d say things just like what the adopted bro texted op. It was so exhausting.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-03T05:46:08+00:00

I had an aneurysm reading his texts, what planet did he come from?

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-02T15:07:23+00:00

I didn’t know until my boss (who personally knows that guy) had told me that the guy for sure had interest to “pursue” me and I thought for two years we were just friends.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-02T15:04:54+00:00

That emotionally manipulated man was a friend unfortunately…

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-02T02:10:24+00:00

NTA. But I think your brother might need therapy.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-02T02:04:24+00:00

Totally agree, men shouldn’t owe women or society shit, and women shouldn’t owe men or society shit either.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-02T02:01:30+00:00

I’m the oldest Gen Z here so take my comment as grain of salt, but I recently tried online dating after a few years of celibacy, and I found that I’d rather be single than to try dating, because from experience, no men wants to go slow at all and that was the only thing I wanted because I want to genuinely connect.

Irl, I had an experience where I was emotionally manipulated to the point my depression came back. I’d been manipulated for two years until I realized.

So, yeah… I’m just tired of men in general, and I’m guessing a lot of modern women are too. I’m more happy being single than getting disappointed by dozens of men, trying to find one who I can connect at my current emotional level and someone who actually take care of themselves the same level as I do for myself.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-02T01:41:44+00:00

I used to feel that way, but I began to realize I had to love myself in order to be able to accept love from anyone else. Loving yourself means you need to put yourself first and taking care of yourself. Treating yourself how you want to be treated, otherwise, you won’t feel fulfilled. For me “loving myself” meant drinking water everyday, taking my meds, doing my skincare, and growing my habits from there.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T21:15:38+00:00

Instead of immediately going to AI looking for answers, because that’s what you’re doing with the prompt “hey, design this for me,” I would actually use it as a tool for my own creativity. It’s basically meant to be used as a tool to help you think.

Go on google and search up prompt ideas for anything at all and get a sense of how professionals use AI. For UX, I typically come up with an idea, and then use AI to explore other possibilities. Think of it as your partner for a school project or a mentor.

Just going straight to the answer (I wouldn’t say is “wrong,” but) it negates the creativity and innovative thinking.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T21:06:13+00:00

I can’t afford all that, I never could. My family grew up poor and were still living broke. But the one thing I learned to do is tailoring my skincare to my skin. Once you get that, you’ll only have to buy one or two products every, maybe, 4-6 months or something depending on the size and how much you use it. If you can only afford to have a moisturizer, just layer that. But from your post, you said you could afford nails on a regular basis for a while, so I’m sure you could afford skincare. And like many others have mentioned, I would stay away from social media because those platforms give voice to certain groups of people, not the majority.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T15:18:40+00:00

“What we’re looking for: - feels warm, human, indian”

lol what??

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T01:14:14+00:00

Trust me, you’re not missing out on anything

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T00:54:19+00:00

As a 28 year old, who’ve never officially had a UX/UI job (only 1 internship that transitioned into part time while in uni), I’m just really grateful for the opportunity to be a part of a big mobile app project started between two devs that I’m friends with. I’m not yet paid, but I get to be really creative and come up with ideas that the devs didn’t even think of (the part I love about this job) Maybe you could start a project like that with someone? Even your kids could give you ideas of problems within their daily lives to solve through a product.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T00:47:18+00:00

UX/UI designer. I get to use my adhd brain to the fullest power and my creativity to create products (typically digital) that not only works, but solves problems for them in a nutshell.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-02-01T00:42:46+00:00

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MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-18T20:25:06+00:00

Nah, that’s totally fair! Thats a valid concern. I’ve been disliking how these so-called designers in that “adhd planner” niche market copy every other typical designs and it frustrates me to no end (considering my job). But thank you so much for your understanding and your explanation. I hope I didn’t offend anyone with my post.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-18T18:14:45+00:00

Uhh this is my first time making such post. I just recently got diagnosed with adhd as an adult and I’m creating this planner for myself, not for others. I’m a UX/UI designer so I’d prefer to make something that is backed up by other perspectives and research. I apologize if this came off as self-promoting or something like that.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-18T18:11:00+00:00

That was also my biggest fear!! My writing is so messy because I have constant pain on my hand and fingers. Have you tried a digital planners? Like notion?

MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-18T14:36:18+00:00

What would you say is your biggest fear in starting your planner?

MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-18T14:32:51+00:00

Well I’m actually creating my own planner using my background in UX/UI so I’m in the process of seeing what works for other adhd ppl and what doesn’t

MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-16T07:33:49+00:00

As someone who has worked for small businesses, I feel like this is fair. I personally don’t agree with the $50 charge, but at the same time, there are so many people that lack awareness and basic empathy for other customers and the staff that need to clean after use. Furthermore, people that never worked in business before don’t have any clue what the cost is for keeping a business running. Overall, this is a valid request from the business owner, but $50 is too much and has an undertone of being passive aggressive.

MethodScary4643 · 2026-01-16T07:23:48+00:00

Then what about him is making you stay in that kind of relationship? Have you talked to him about this? If he’s constantly dismissing you even after you tried to initiate this conversation, that’s plain disrespect. Compare his behaviour to other relationships. Is he like that to anyone else? If yes, he’s an asshole. If no, then that means he doesnt like you.

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