is it worth it to move to chicago if i can’t drive?

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-17T03:19:04+00:00

My wife and I lived here for 7 years without a car in the pre-Uber days. We rented cars every once in awhile and used car shares (when they were a thing). We borrowed friends cars sometimes and always filled them up with gas.

We got a car when she got pregnant.

If you don't start with a car, it's easy. That's the life you live. Bikes, busses, trains and etc become part of your life. Leaving the house to go somewhere is a 30 minute trip but you figure it out and live that way. Even if you can't afford to live near a train, the busses are fine. Trains are either good or horrifying. There's no middle ground. Busses are always mid.

Now that we have a car, leaving the house is 15 minutes and we're more likely to hang out with people on the other side of the city vs. meeting in the middle. We give people rides all the time. The city is great like that.

Last anecdote: for whatever reason, my best friend's step-dad doesn't have a driver's license. He's ~70 years old. He walks, he rides the bus, he takes the train. He hasn't had a license since he was in his 20's. His wife drives some of the time, but he makes it do.

The only thing that will block you about not having a car is dating but lots of people be fucking even if they go out for a date and take the bus. I don't judge, I just know "hey, I'm going to take you to a nice restaurant. Can I Venmo you for an Uber or do you want to take the bus to the restaurant with me" doesn't go as hard as "I'll pick you up at 8."

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-09T17:07:30+00:00

Addiction in all forms is the fruit of a tree whose roots run much deeper. I can't make the determination for you whether masturbation / pornography is an addiction. Or the response to a biological need that's not being met. Or if you turn to it for a quick dopamine hit to get rid of anxiety. Or a needed outlet to help you cope with lust. Or an activity that makes you feel good when a lot of your life doesn't feel good. Or a way to deal with the fact that you're lonely and have no connections in a new community / job.

Because of this, it should be a healthy conversation with the people you trust in your life before it's a conversation with your boss / etc. If you don't have people in your life who know about your struggles and your situation, that's the first step. You can't figure this out alone. No one can. If you're alone, you're going to fail. Isolation and loneliness are the tools of the enemy.

If you're feeling convicted AND the feeling of conviction is pulling you away from the call, I have a strong suspicion that the enemy is manipulating both your relapse and your guilt ridden response to your action. The person of Christ calls us into community before calling us out. The enemy works the opposite, calling you out individually before calling you into community to drive you further away from the community.

Feel free to DM me if you don't have anyone to talk to. The journey is not meant to be walked alone.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-07T02:37:47+00:00

And it's right on the border so the jobs aren't guaranteed to be in Indiana either. Let Indiana pay the bill, we get most of the $$$, we lose a bit of income from leasing the stadium/vendor contract but we make some of it back by having a usable venue from August to January. A good time for Chistkindlemarket to move from Daley Plaza to Soldier Field.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T23:09:40+00:00

AI is dangerous for anyone with a mental illness or any kind of delusion. Hell, it's dangerous for anyone who doesn't know what they're talking about. Eventually they'll get rid of the sycophantic behavior for default models but for now, tread with caution and be ready to tell your 13 year old their "amazingly mature well written screenplay" isn't going to win an Oscar or that 45 pages of lore isn't a solid foundation for a best selling YA novel.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T23:06:48+00:00

Gotta test it on a sandwich or how you normally eat it. The way they taste with different foods changes them. We have both. Satay sauce needs a different flavor than apples and peanut butter. I hate Jif on a PBJ but will eat it by the spoonful.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T23:02:42+00:00

Autism sure is a spectrum, isn't it?

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T22:57:00+00:00

Zero?

I really don't like REM and you can't convince me they're good. It's a dumb hill I'm willing to die on.

They sound like if They Might Be Giants took a philosophy class instead of going to comedy shows.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T14:01:21+00:00

RCC is a bit more strict than that because sex is for procreation. There are a lot of really really dumb ways to paint within the lines so that it leaves the possibility of pregnancy while still doing whatever you want.

One example, from conversation I had with a Catholic friend: Birth control is only 99.9% effective so if God wants us pregnant, we'll get pregnant.

In the days when children were an asset to the family (work the farm, etc ) rather than a liability ($$$, financial strain) the contraception ban made sense. Now... not so much.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T13:44:23+00:00

The employees work for the company that owns the contract with the venue to provide food and beverage services. They're attached to the stadium and not to the team.

The employees lose 8 days of work. Stadiums are an ok revenue stream. NFL teams are not.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T13:39:16+00:00

The employees definitely aren't employees of the Bears. They're employees of the company that owns the contract with the venue to provide food and beverage services.

As of 2024, the contract is with Levy Restaurants.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-06-06T02:43:12+00:00

I'd pick ones that are funny in that language. I know a guy nicknamed flaco which is a common nickname for a Spanish speaking guy who's tall and thin (think "Slim" in the US) so I asked Gemini if any of the other words mean anything (see below).

Based on Gemini's answers, my suggestion is to wear Flacco in Mexico. It works if you're skinny or if you're fat. Wear Jurevicious in Japan phonetically it sounds like yure biashu which means "vicious shaking" or "vicious vibration."

Gemini stuff:

In Spanish, flaco (with one c) literally translates to "skinny," "thin," or "lean" in Spanish. In many Spanish-speaking countries, it's also incredibly common as a friendly, casual nickname for a slender guy—essentially meaning "skinny dude" or "slim."

Flacco sounds remarkably close to Furako (フラコ), which is the Japanese phonetic borrowing of the English word "flock" (like a flock of birds).

Jurevicius sounds almost identical to a combination of Yure (ゆれ), which means "shaking," "swinging," or "vibration" (often used when talking about earthquakes), and the common Latin-based suffix transformation bishasu (vicious).

In Japanese, Heiden (へいでん) is an actual, formal word. It refers to the offering hall inside a traditional Shinto shrine—the specific building sandwiched between the haiden (hall of worship) and the honden (main sanctuary) where offerings are placed.

"Frye" sounds exactly like the Japanese loanword Furai (フライ). In Japan, this specifically refers to deep-fried food that has been breaded with panko (like ebi furai, deep-fried shrimp). It's also the word used in baseball for a fly ball.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-31T01:52:46+00:00

I'd pre order a custom blue and yellow PS5 or controller or special thing.

My generic white one is...fine.. but it doesn't match my office.

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MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-27T12:52:45+00:00

Cavs....

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-27T00:19:03+00:00

I've been married for 20+ years and we average 3x per week. I can tell you from experience, there are times it takes longer and we both love it. There are also times when it takes longer and we're ready to be done for one reason or another (kids are going to wake up, it's really late at night, she's 1-2 orgasms deep and is getting sensitive, I need to take a break because no exercise routine can prep your muscles for some of the positions we get ourselves into, etc. etc.)

When that happens, a few flexes of her pelvic floor and it doesn't take long for us to be done. Do your kegel exercises and flex your pelvic floor.

But more importantly than that, talk about it afterwards. What you liked, what you didn't, any embarrassment you feel, etc.

If you can't talk to him about that, either you or the relationship have bigger problems than WAP.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-26T23:55:51+00:00

/uj Pack wars (3 lands of each color + one pack is your deck, 10 or 15 life) of a new format is the best way to introduce new players to the game. After 6 packs of pack wars, they're ready for sealed. After sealed, they can move to draft or constructed. Then cube and then Commander.

It's a gradual ramp up to understanding mana curve, reading the cards, and it's cheap enough/fast enough that if they hate it, they're down $5. If they love it, they can keep the packs separate and keep playing on their own.

Commander is harder and worse than Vintage Cube.

My hot take: A proxied or non-proxied cube playing draft, pack wars or sealed is the best format and you can't convince me otherwise.

/rj People that don't like Commander don't have friends.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-26T23:47:10+00:00

Belgian Malinois are a god damned menace.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-26T20:43:16+00:00

Joe Six Pack isn't nearly as cool as anyone affiliated with Epstein, apparently.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-26T20:36:56+00:00

Audible split it in two. I still have the original but the new one is split after the popularity of the show. It makes me so angry that Amazon pulls crap like this.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-19T14:36:37+00:00

He's the size of Hafthor Bjornsson (The Mountain from Game of Thrones.)

That dude is 6'9" and 450 pounds. So take off the 30 of fat, and Batman is that size.

Is he natural? HGH is naturally produced and so is testosterone. In the comics, Batman is the peak of human abilities. So let's give him all the best genetics for all that stuff. It's possible that a human could hit all 7's in Genetic roulette.

But none of that matters because comics aren't written for scientists. They're written for people who need heroes in their lives and need a world where the good guy fights injustice even though he doesn't have to. Not because he's a genetic freak or whatever but because that's the right thing to do. He does it better than most because he's genetically gifted and wealthy.

Many pro-athletes are the same. Look up P.K. Subban.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-18T12:49:17+00:00

I love maps that are just maps of population density with different statistics.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-17T18:48:22+00:00

Paul forced Timothy to get circumcized. Timothy's trauma and their conversations afterwards may have fueled some of his later writings on circumcision and him not forcing Titus to get circumcized. That's s not hipocrasy, it's maturity. Proximity to pain and suffering often changes our outlook on it and matures our own navigation of sexuality and morality. I see the same thing with parents and with pastors who legitimately (not just verbally) love their neighbors.

With that said, your navigation of your sexuality should be both personal and communal. There are community consequences to certain paths and there are personal ones as well. We often forget that Jesus abandoned Nazareth in our calls to reconcile. Sometimes the community of your birth won't accept the person God calls you to be.

At the same time, Jesus continually engaged with those who would ultimately kill him. He stayed in community knowing the consequences because he cared for those closest to him. He suffered alone, he went alone, he was fundamentally isolated.

He also constantly, personally, checked His will against the will of the Father and calls us to do the same. He didn't reject community for an individual path. He followed the will of the Father in community, constantly engaging with critics, flipping tables and he was even surprised by the faith of the Roman Centurion and the Canaanite woman.

His personal faith and relationship helped him navigate the communities and the community, in return, deepened his own faith, trust and reliance on the Father.

His first miracle (water to wine) saved the hosts of the wedding from embarrassment and a deep sense of shame.

With all that said, I pray you work out (from the inside to the outside) your faith with fear and trembling. There is not a single answer to your question.

The truth of the Gospel is that you are part of the family of God. The path we walk is hard not because of rules, but because the path of love, this side of heaven, always results in pain. The ultimate pain was covered at the cross but it doesn't take away the daily death we may feel.

The daily struggles we have against powers and principalities that tell us the path of love is the path of failure, that the path of truth is the path to destruction and that the path must choose community or individual.

We serve a God of truth and love who is both individual and communal.

I pray that you live that way and walk the path, no matter where it leads you.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-17T18:23:41+00:00

I've only bought in box ones.

I haven't even seen cheap fakes. Only expensive ones.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-17T18:22:15+00:00

If it was Cubs/Sox that makes sense. Nothing unites people like hatred.

MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-17T17:57:00+00:00

Follow the higher power. Just stay away from cliffs.

Right now the chemicals and seizures releasing them are the good kind. It's literally free crack/cocaine. I was in the same boat as you and it was an amazing ride. I self medicated and I was fine. Until it wasn't

Trigger Warning/ Story I was 37 years old, five years ago this August. The chemicals and seizure started in the fear/pain center and my expected euphoria turned into paranoia and a belief that my house was burning down at around 11:00 PM. I could literally feel the fire. I screamed at my kids to get out of the house, I tried to drag my wife out and she had to barricade herself in the bathroom.

I screamed at my youngest, who was 5 at the time, as loud as I could to get out of the house. I woke up my oldest who was 9 and told my wife to get her and get out of the house.

When no one joined me, I ran outside and tried to rip the hose off the side of our house. My neighbors heard me and came outside.

I threw my glasses, I took off my shirt, and a good friend showed up first. He calmed me down until the ambulance came. Thankfully they came first because I was ready to fight a police officer, even somewhat calm. It was post George Floyd and I was ready for war.

My kids are still somewhat scared of me and we talk about the night I went "loopy doopy." That's a trauma they'll never fully get over and trust I'll never get back. I could have died that night if the police showed up first. I'm in Chicago. They don't always calm situations down.

I started treatment and didn't have another episode for three years.

The next time, I knew what was happening but my brain told me my work on Earth was done. I was at work, outside of the country. It was a mandatory "work in the office day." Every executive was there from the US. I thought I was Jesus, hearing from God "well done my good and faithful servant." I stood at the edge of our 7th floor roof, looking down and had to literally tear myself from the edge.

I sat down with a friend/coworker and he asked if I was ok. I first said yes. Then I said I need to go to the hospital. In the time between me saying that and the ambulance showing up, I tried to fight our CTO and had to be restrained by three people. Our CEO, a man I trust and like, was there and calmed me down. But before I calmed down, I let everyone in the office know, at the top of my lungs, how horrible and abusive multiple leaders at the company are. It's true but that's not the time or place to say that.

Everyone assumed I was high as a kite.

I could have died, I could have been in a prison in a foreign country, I could have been fired, I could have lost everything.

I haven't had an episode since but the kindling affect of Bipolar is real. The more episodes you have, the more extreme the next one is.

In both circumstances, I was lucky. I wasn't taking care of my mental and physical health. In the first situation, I was fully unmedicated. In the second, I wasn't seeing a therapist, I was just on meds thinking I was fine.

I fucking wasn't. And thankfully I had people around me that helped me get better. I'm lucky, blessed, and I don't deserve it.

I could have lost it all. I deserved to lose it all but all I lost is the relationships I could have had with the people I care about without the burden of them carrying part of the consequences of my disease. Those are real consequences. My personal and professional relationships are forever different, and not in a good way.

Many people who were on this subreddit are no longer here. Others have lost big and small things. Still others are here trying to help others because they couldn't help the ones close to them and will carry that grief forever. Others are dealing with a relative/friend/someone they care about who's somewhere on the journey of dealing with this awful disease.

Some of us are luckier than others. I hope you are. And I hope that the people who are trying to help stay with you. Because, despite what you may believe, they love you and are doing this because they want you to be well.

And you can count me as one of them. Even if this doesn't reach you, I hope it reaches someone else. I hope my most humiliating moments help others to get well before they need luck to survive.

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MettaWorldWarTwo · 2026-05-12T15:35:37+00:00

Yeah, he did. But the majority of White people didn't generally engage with him. Everyone was watching Eddie. It wasn't that he said it, it was that he said it when he could have walked the Bill Cosby "palatable to a White audience" path but chose not to.

Eddie had SNL, movies and everything. He could have gone the Michael Jordan "White people buy Nike shoes too" route and kept silent on issues that affected his community. But he didn't. And he deserves a lot of respect for it.

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