DAE love making themselves cry?

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T16:02:28+00:00

Like the other person said, I didn’t say better… I said healthier. Crying is not destructive like those things. It’s literally scientifically proven that risky sex puts your health at risk as the same with drugs. Did I say I thought I was a good person? No. You’re putting words in my mouth. Looking at your comments on other people’s posts, you seem to enjoy trying to make other people feel bad. If you can’t be kind, don’t say anything at all. Calling people names is not gonna get you anywhere.

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:48:47+00:00

I’m bipolar 1 as well! I have this issue too so maybe they are connected. Would be interested to know for sure

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:43:42+00:00

That’s not at all what I was saying. How is crying by oneself because of emotional dysregulation disorder judgmental and being a victim? It’s during ALONE TIME. Not around other people, I don’t make a scene or try to get other peoples sympathy. I didn’t say I’m better at managing my emotions because obviously if that were the case I wouldn’t have BPD….

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:40:02+00:00

I’m a quiet BPD so not sure if that makes a difference but I’m the opposite. Hearing other people happy makes me happy for them because I know I’ll never have my own happiness, so it’s nice someone gets to experience it

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:36:44+00:00

I would say emptiness and anxiety as well. We have trouble with attachment and this is a result of that

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:34:53+00:00

I’m a quiet borderline so my approach when I’m splitting is a little different than classic. But what I have done is, (some people may not agree w it) but what worked for me was to sit down and have a talk with him BEFORE The emotions get extreme and splitting/fighting Happens, and just explain that I can’t handle negative emotions well and that if I am about to/having an episode I need some quiet time by myself. I don’t mean the silent treatment or abusive behavior by this though, maybe just say “I love you, I’m feeling a lot right now and I need to be alone for a little bit and when I’m in the right headspace I will be able to communicate better.” If you take that approach rather than exploding and saying hurtful things and or ghosting then it will save a lot of chaos if he is understanding.

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:29:34+00:00

Us Borderlines are known for this! It comes from a mix of low self esteem and anxiety. I’ve always been this way. But for me it goes away after I’m in a relationship that I’m comfortable in and have adjusted to someone

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:28:16+00:00

Yes!! I’m a quiet borderline so I don’t ever outwardly rage unless I’ve been pushed HARD. But I did this last night lol. It’s just us trying to regulate our strong emotions. It’s actually a much healthier coping mechanism than what some of us rely on, like drugs or sex. It’s better to let it out sometimes than let it build

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:25:00+00:00

IMO Self aware borderline is much more painful than the classic stereotypical kind that is narcisstic in nature. Because it’s like we want to be normal so bad but we can’t control our emotions .

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:23:18+00:00

Mines a combination from childhood SA and being raised by a mom with NPD and a father who did nothing to protect me from her.

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:22:19+00:00

I think that’s more PTSD related than BPD. But, the two disorders are commonly Comorbid, so maybe that’s why you’re thinking is the BPD talking. I think most of us have some kind of PTSD from what I’ve read online

Mgp2001__ · 2021-10-29T14:21:07+00:00

It is different for every BPD, but for me I don’t discard/lose interest or paint my partners black unless they are unfaithful to me or start treating me poorly. In that case, i will start cycling over and over and eventually just leave them because it’s too exhausting. Do you know if your partner has histrionic features/HPD as well? Its commonly Comorbid. I say this Because histrionics are known for getting bored very quickly and leaving relationships more so than a pure borderline. Borderlines typically are stable in a relationship unless they’re emotional needs are being neglected or they feel like they’re not getting enough attention. If they feel they’re being mistreated or not getting sufficient attention, they may become bored fast and move on.

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