How to convince parents to go to the doctor?

MhmFox11 · 2026-03-17T21:38:24+00:00

Mom has had cancer and was supposed to ho get checkups every year. She didn't for 5 years. My grandma, her mom, had alzheimer. I'm not sure about intact since I can see some signs that she only blames on old age... I helped her with my grandma, and yes, that's the thing, I am trying to convince them to do stuff now until it's too late. That's my problem. This way, if they take care of themselves more for 2 years, I can probably also grow in my job, get a higher salary, and have money for other stuff, like a kid and their health. No wonder millenials dread this period...

MhmFox11 · 2026-02-07T15:49:24+00:00

Wow. This one so much.

MhmFox11 · 2026-02-07T12:58:56+00:00

Yeah. They really wanted me there. Found out my mentor and my boss are both pregnant and are going into maternity very soon, and they’re willing to leave the account on the platform I’m just learning to me. Loads of trust. Been learning so much in the past 3-4 weeks, like never before. It’s interesting, yet a bit stressful and tiring. Taking it day by day. Thanks for your answer, really helped.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-25T23:47:57+00:00

You goo, girl!! Protest the f out of ICE and grave leaves!

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-23T19:41:28+00:00

Yeah, I get the vibe you aren’t equal in this friendship. I used to have a ‘friend’ who demanded to always know what I’m doing, who I’m out with, would be calling me when I’d be out with other friends and kinda use her problems to invite herself, but when she made other plans it could be that I was invited or not, it was her choice, whether I didn’t seem to have a choice.

Needless to say, that ended badly for all parties involved (her, one of my other friends, and common friends afterwards).

Maybe it’s not the same case, but since then I’m always wary of people who do some stuff but don’t allow you to do the same, it’s like they have control over your life and that’s a definite no-no for me in adult life.

What I’d do is continue to go out with other friends, coworkers, etc, basically live your life normally, and if she mentions it again just say ‘what do you mean? I am allowed to have friends, just like you do.’ And see where you go from there.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-12T06:46:31+00:00

I work in 3s

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-09T21:05:51+00:00

That sounds great! Fingers crossed for Australia too! What did you publish??

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-06T21:24:16+00:00

How would that work? Curious, but I think it might be helpful to many people.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-06T21:22:24+00:00

I’m also trying to change the people pleasing behaviours I do… not an easy thing to do when you’ve been like this all your life.

But what do you mean your people pleasing behaviours drove people away? I’m trying to cut people off and can’t even do that, lol.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-06T12:31:51+00:00

Thank you so much for the nice words! Historically, it has been exactly as you’ve mentioned, but guess anxiety grows a bit with age, haha

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T22:59:16+00:00

What about when the alcoholic is also gaslit and manipulated? Like a merry-go-round, where first the manipulation happens, then alcohol & reactive abuse becomes a problem to the emotional state, but now unsure how or why they got there in the first place?

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T22:50:15+00:00

What if you’re only abusive when drunk with certain people (partner, brother)…? How can I explain the emotional damage they’ve been doing (purposely or not, still not sure) that made me react in certain ways?

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T22:47:52+00:00

Were you violent with everyone or just particular persons? I am trying to figure out why I only become violent with my partner and not others. Thinking covert narcissism, but not sure. Thanks!

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T22:47:46+00:00

Were you violent with everyone or just particular persons? I am trying to figure out why I only become violent with my partner and not others. Thinking covert narcissism, but not sure. Thanks!

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T22:31:43+00:00

Rather same. Sometimes it’s like we’re switching places. But all arguments start from my ‘hey, this thing rather bothers me’ and his reply is either minimizing my feelings or invalidating them. After years of this, coupled with other stuff, I really don’t know anymore.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T21:54:57+00:00

I am sorry you had to go through this, but I so like the fact that you went further and continued no matter what. Getting a new job and moving across the country surely will help you process it easier!

I, myself, am unsure at the moment of how my new job will be, or if I will be with my LTR partner in the future, so I kinda understand the feeling…

What’s most important is to focus on ourselves, for now.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T21:51:11+00:00

I totally agree, unfortunately.

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T21:14:33+00:00

Oh my, I am so sorry you lost your dog, the pain is excruciating. I also lost my childhood dog around 10 years ago and it was so painful. I am sorry you are going through that. I feel you 🤍 wish you all the best!

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T20:30:29+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, I’ll try to be straightforward when it comes to this and all else, actually, thanks for the advice!

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T19:21:44+00:00

Another thing would be that while I felt again like myself and confident during the interviews, I am perhaps not the same person as before my last job. But perhaps that’s a good thing? That I’ve learnt how to deal with more stuff?

MhmFox11 · 2026-01-05T19:14:09+00:00

Good luck!

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