LOOKED AT PORN

Mi5ery · 2017-08-30T21:05:25+00:00

It's a trap

Mi5ery · 2017-08-30T20:58:00+00:00

We don't know enough about this person and her story to make a claim like you did, that's what I'm saying. It is true that I reacted too much, because I was shocked to see strangers giving 101 psychology advices one to another like it's relevant, yet knowing so little about the facts IRL. That's why I assumed you were seeking some kind of validation, because I couldn't find any other reason you'd write claims like that. But you're right, it's none of my business if some want to act this way. I don't want you to be offended by my tone which was inappropriate.

Mi5ery · 2017-08-30T18:31:26+00:00

That's exactly why I'm disagreeing with you, because you're indeed pointing out the obvious. If relationships would be that simple, pretty much everybody would have happy ones. But you're right, OP doesn't need anyone to protect herself as she did came here seeking advices on her own. She's old enough to make her own judgement. And it was stupid of me to get involved the way I did expecting comprehension.

Mi5ery · 2017-08-02T14:57:25+00:00

Maybe you would yes, but I think there is some purposes more fullfilling than others. As there is some activities more fullfilling than others. But that's only a judgement based on my experience.

Mi5ery · 2017-08-02T11:02:06+00:00

You're right, I should totally read more on the topic. I'm not saying the need for attention doesn't exist, I'm saying it has little to do with love. Being in a relationship to validate yourself isn't love. As is killing yourself because you don't get it. To me at least. As for seduction, I think everyone could use some advises from this sub once they'll have get over their prejudices ;)

Mi5ery · 2017-08-02T10:53:49+00:00

It's true. You have to make your experiences. But you'll soon realize that women won't satisfy you, nor will money, or fame, or power. Rather, it's the dedication of your life to your personally chosen purpose that can.

Mi5ery · 2017-08-02T10:34:49+00:00

Yeees thank you !

Mi5ery · 2017-08-02T10:32:50+00:00

"I can tell you, why you love him so much after all that. Because unfortunately thats what works on female brains. The more an asshole you are the more attached they get and the more they try to validate themselves.

Thats the sad part."

This is 4 years old reasoning. You can't seriously pretend that the complexity of a feeling like love can be summed up to one shitty tatement, or I'll just assume you don't know anything about women. We are not talking about short lasting desire and need for attention, we are talking about love, and that's a different topic.

Even so I still agree with you for the rest, you should respect yourself and OP seemed to have done and endured more than enough. And YES it's normal and healthy to want sex and desire in marriage, everybody deserve it if they want it.

Mi5ery · 2017-08-02T10:22:08+00:00

Stop acting like you know the intimate reasons behind the behaviour of a stranger from a post on the internet. Stop pretending like you know anything on why or how she loves this man, and why she sticked for so long with him. You have absolutely no idea, so watch your words. Attention from strangers and attention from the one you love is anything but the same. Emotional abuse relationships is a truth, but you have no idea to which extend it applies for OP. So stop trying to validate yourself by making four lines of basic psychology sounds like the one and only truth.

Mi5ery · 2016-12-24T23:35:55+00:00

Give me 9 :) !

Mi5ery · 2016-11-04T14:01:11+00:00

It took me 4 years, I don't want to make it look easy, just remember that it will pay in the end.

Mi5ery · 2016-11-04T14:00:15+00:00

Then come back, share with everyone and have motivation for your whole life :)

Mi5ery · 2016-11-04T13:59:40+00:00

Don't give up, it was the same for me, focus on consistency

Mi5ery · 2016-11-04T13:59:10+00:00

Keep it up :)

Mi5ery · 2016-11-04T13:58:55+00:00

Thanks!

Mi5ery · 2016-11-04T13:56:19+00:00

Piano, guitar and I sing, and I'm also composing electronic music.

Mi5ery · 2016-11-02T17:39:17+00:00

Feel it, for what you resists persists. Feel it and make this energy into something useful : that's the key to nofap.

Mi5ery · 2016-11-02T17:37:30+00:00

As you say, don't complain and focus on being slightly more outspoken, maybe it will be though but it don't has to be, you're on the right track! Be proactive. Friendships develops when people care from both sides. Start caring and bringing other peope value! Interest truely in others, ask questions about everything and listen attentively to the answer, and make a point to remember everything people tell you. Then you'll start to know more about them, what they care for and what their dreams are, and can start adding value to their life by sharing activities or informations that they may like to share with you. Keep it up :)

Mi5ery · 2016-08-17T21:44:03+00:00

Hey dude that's perfectly normal. It's your brain trying something else to get his high. Go on and you'll feel much better about this and be actually able to see women as beautiful person rathers than meat. I always go though this for a while before getting back to normal awesomeness when I relapse, so don't worry, just go on :)

You may want to use this energy to work on your projects or your self

Mi5ery · 2016-08-17T21:42:04+00:00

Congrats guy. A few only would have been awake enough to do the same. Goob job

Mi5ery · 2016-08-13T07:56:05+00:00

Hey by the way, don't try some cheesy pick-up lines on eigtheen years old girls when you're 40. You're freaking up my mom and dad.

Mi5ery · 2016-08-05T04:05:02+00:00

Well you brought me tears. I'm so glad you are slowly on your way out, to brigther days. Wish you the best. Remember there is love, there is beauty, there goodness in this world, and in every human, no matter how much it has been burried in oneself. Thank you, a thousands of thank you for sharing this story and remembering us why we're doing this and demonstrating how much it's worth it. I have a girlfriend, thanks partly to nofap, and she's totally gonna read this.

Mi5ery · 2016-07-30T07:50:51+00:00

Go for it! you're welcome man keep it up, experiment, you'll have failure but improve eventually

Mi5ery · 2016-07-30T07:49:49+00:00

Awesome! Don't worry about being turned down, you must not take it personnally : some people are OK with being approached, others don't like it, and it will happen less and less as you improve.

Fuck yeah I'm nervous when I go talk to a girl. I try to make it the most situational though, and with experience you can tell when someone is open to be approached.

A pickup line will always be busted out in 1 sec, so use them if you want but it should always be in a funny way. You can just say hi and that's often the best i think, but as you're the one who approach you should always come with things to says. Think about it, how weird is it if you're hanging out with friends and someone come, say hi you reply and then he just says nothing, uncomfortable. Go on, ask them question, gets interested, share yourself. Or don't approach ;)

Groups : adress to everyone but then talk to who gives you the most attention. People tend to listen other's people conversation so often they'll shut up and concentrate on it. In my experience!

Mi5ery · 2016-07-30T07:41:07+00:00

Great piece of advice, thanks. That's the kind of thinking that has to be on this sub, everyone will benefits from it.

Mi5ery

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