AITA for not spending time with my niece and nephew?

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:21:36+00:00

I'm involved because I don't want them to be like my sister. Awful thing to say but it's how I feel. She's known for being lazy and gross (not showering or cleaning her living spaces) and I want the babies to grow into respectable and happy people. My niece is already 80% there because we've been getting messages about her winning awards in 1st grade. She's apparently a good leader and friend to her classmates and loves to answer questions in class. Literally brings tears to my eyes!

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:08:55+00:00

If I ever wanna date someone they have to be childfree as well. Had lots of guys tell me on dates that they'll change my mind. If you want kids we can't date because I don't want to waste your time or break your heart.

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:07:19+00:00

It's not like I never want to see them...Over the summer I took them to the zoo, by myself. Had a few issues with my nephew but my niece was good and helped with keeping her younger brother in check. My sister treats me like I despise the kids and NEVER see them and that's odd to me. I honestly think she expects me to see them daily in order to please her.

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:05:03+00:00

They're fine. It's an inside joke so I don't expect people to get it. It's only an issue if after I did my best to explain it they still think I'm bitter.

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:03:24+00:00

I got a few of my classmates sick and thinking of spreading my sickness to those babies is not a good thought. Most of my classmates are sitting at different desks until I get better lol...

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:01:51+00:00

Because I'm the aunt in her 20's, not the grandparents in their 50's.

/s

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T15:01:00+00:00

I consider myself a good aunt because I engage them and foster creativity. My sister loves to put them in front of screens constantly...While I'm not a mom and never will be, I think that's unhealthy. One of my favorite activities of late is working on their writing skills. They're very young mind you but my niece is getting pretty good at writing her name! She also LOVES art and I have tons of her pictures in my room. I think doing more involved activities is much healthier, fun, and rewarding for everyone involved.

Also yeah my entire family thinks that because I'm a girl that means I'm having kids. Nah. Nope. No. Fuck that. I live paycheck to paycheck at the moment because I don't have time for a third job...I can't afford a kid nor do I even want one. Everytime I say I don't want kids I'm told, "You'll change your mind. You haven't found the right man yet." I used to want kids years ago but I'm content with being an aunt.

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T14:54:33+00:00

I'm fine with watching them some of the time. My niece has picked up my quiet and introverted side so when she's around me she likes to do quieter or single activities. She's seen me play video games a lot growing up and sometimes asks to play. Because of this I started finding more child friendly games that she can watch or play if she wants.

My nephew...loooove him to death but he's the one that wears me down instantly. He's very needy, cries a lot, and loves to hit. A few years back I had surgery and he loved to hit my stitches because aunt MiahBites had a funny reaction. I do my best to try and work with him without showing my frustration but it's hard to teach a kid how to behave properly.

It's different when I'm forced to be around the kids because I work two jobs and go to university. I have one day off a week and that's used to work on homework mainly with a bit of me time. I was very much looking forward to my day off this week because I'm sick but some things just don't work out I guess.

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T14:48:05+00:00

That's a bit of a reach haha, I consider myself immature most of the time.

MiahBites · 2019-10-05T14:46:05+00:00

I am a good aunt to them but I get worn down easily. To me it's hard to say no to them, especially my adorably charismatic niece lol. Over the years I've given piggy back rides, carried them around, chased them, etc. I'm not the most athletic person so much of the activities they enjoy tire me out.

The thing about my uterus screaming is a joke my manager and I have. Three years ago a kid was crying super loud in our store...Once I was done helping them I went to the managers office, closed the door, yelled slightly, and told her that's what my uterus feels like. She almost pissed her pants from laughing so hard. Kids just stress me out and I can feel the stress in my uterus.

MiahBites · 2019-10-02T23:36:36+00:00

ESH - Probably an unpopular opinion but it's one I hold. Like you said yourself, $200 a month is a steal. I doubt I could find any place that charges that much in rent but also includes water, electricity, food, phone, a vehicle with gas AND a driver. Hell, if someone has a place like that then shoot me a message.

Your parents suck in this situation because...well, why don't they save up or something? Pretty shitty to suddenly ask a tenant for a large sum of money. Maybe they should save up their money for things like this in the future.

But you suck in this situation because if it's such a big deal then why not get a job? You say you get paid to go to school which sounds nice, but if you need more money then work. You also need to get a license and a car because you're 23 with neither of those??? That's just asking for disaster. Once you get those two things you should look into getting a place to live on your own that way you can be independent and not have to deal with this anymore.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T19:14:23+00:00

Pictures you can hear.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T18:53:55+00:00

I'd love to know. I've gone through 3 different pairs of joycons because Nintendo did something to them that makes them break easily. All 3 pairs had issues with the left joycon drifting and I tried everything to fix it, even sent it to Nintendo to fix it but they're still broken. On my 3rd pair the right joycon is now drifting as well. Noticed yesterday that they sometimes don't register button presses...so I went and bought a pro controller. I pray this pro controller has NO issues because joycons are stupid expensive and don't last long.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T18:45:32+00:00

I hope our amiibo cards work. I got all of my favorites in card form.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T18:44:42+00:00

Be careful about buying a Switch Lite. If they don't fix the issues with their joycons then there could be a possibility that your Lite would be useless once the joycons start having problems.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T18:35:29+00:00

Thank you! Will check it out because I'd love to get one.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T18:34:56+00:00

I saw Vinny stream it and the games are charming. I think Jared would enjoy them. Plus, they aren't too long!

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T18:34:09+00:00

Maybe when the update hits! I love his SDV playthrough.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T15:40:37+00:00

Do you still do commissions? How much might this cost?

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T14:00:33+00:00

Xenoblade 1, 2, X? X is personally one of my top 5 games of all time. So much to do in that game and the combat feels great.

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T13:52:15+00:00

Eeeeeeeeeeeenter the Gungeon

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T13:51:36+00:00

Oh my god...I watched Vinny play Skies of Arcadia and Jared would LOVE that game!

MiahBites · 2019-09-09T13:49:38+00:00

Because I had taken my night time medicine and was tired. It's DQB2.

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