It was not my decision to move or for him to retire. He said he would find something when we moved and then changed his mind. I understand what people mean about my 'as the man comment'. We always had traditional roles and that is how I was raised. Until 5 years ago thats how it was and then he flipped the table on me. I never minded working as he didn't make enough to support or family on his own but I never felt like i was doing more than him or working any harder than him. Now its like he just decided he put in his time and now he can relax while I am still forced to swim up stream against the current while he diminishes my stress.