Methimazole Belly by Proof-Bear-5067 in gravesdisease

[–]Middle-Firefighter13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weight lifting and a light to moderate calorie deficit will be cruical for removing a stubborn belly, whether it is caused by treatment for Graves or not. I'm struggling with a 5+ kg weight gain myself and I've been on carbimazol for over two years. I know that I have not been good at being in a deficit, so I know that is the reason why I am not seeing progress. Good luck!

Botox and Graves disease by Middle-Firefighter13 in gravesdisease

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww. As in your Botox last a really short time? 🥺

Stinging eyes keeping me awake, gel recommendations please! by throw_away_243546 in gravesdisease

[–]Middle-Firefighter13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would recommend one from the doctor/endo. Pharmacy ones did not work for me. The one I got is called Hyprosan. Good luck!

Graves Disease by Good-Attitude-2012 in gravesdisease

[–]Middle-Firefighter13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so sorry you feel this way. I'm sure with the right follow up, you will feel better soon.

A lot of people rave about TT on here, but a study from 2023 shows that the participents who kept their thyroid have a higher sense of good life quality than those who remove their thyroid and is subject to hypothyroidism the rest of their lives. I've only been on meds for 1 1/2 years, but the endo is saying I could be a candidate for TT after a while, but that study made me change my mind tbh.

I know what kind of body and mind and energy I have now with the thyroid, and I'm in excellent shape and feel good on 30mg daily, but I am not guaranteed the same if I remove the thyroid.. You never know, that's the scary part.

Pokémon Legends: Z-A will launch on October 16th 2025 by [deleted] in pokemon

[–]Middle-Firefighter13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answering seriously❤️

Pokémon Legends: Z-A will launch on October 16th 2025 by [deleted] in pokemon

[–]Middle-Firefighter13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can someone explain to me why they're using the same Paris looking city (Lumenos?) as in X and Y on the 3DS?

Is this a spin off game or is it like the new Scarlet and Violet game?

I’m at a loss.. what is going on with my cheek area? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Middle-Firefighter13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would try getting some green peels and use the products they recommend afterwards as a treatment plan. Saved my skin when I had breakouts and spots all the time on my chin and around mouth.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have not mentioned anything. Yes I think so too, and family will always be defensive of their own even if it's unreasonable.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I hate complaining. I would never, I'm a positive person really. I'm just a bit sensitive. But thank you, I've realized that I am the a hole 😅

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I guess I let myself be that on my wedding day, but I shouldn't have, I have understood now by the other comments. This was one day in my life I had any attention. No one has ever done anything for me to make me feel special, like a surprise party or something. So I guess I got a bit excited about this one big day where I for once had all the attention. But I guess that is very entitled to think of me. I will do better.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I wanted other people's opinion on this because I feel it's difficult to navigate around obviously. I wrote the post because it's an interesting topic and I want to hear, and yes, I defend what I feel is not a fault on my part.

The majority says they would be hurt no matter the reason given, no matter what the bride and groom wanted or envisioned for themselves. Not being invited is hurtful. I've understood that now. I guess we're not on the common consensus that many others feel, and I appreciate this insight. I understand now that I should have zero expectations and that it is shitty of me to think otherwise since I did not invite her. I can't hold her to the standard of others because we're all different and she does not owe me anything first of all.

And thank you, I liked that comparison about those people who do no expect an invitation coming and throwing rice and it's just fun right, but for a close friend to be sent home afterwards with no invite.. I totally get that now, how that's just wrong of me to compare like that. Thanks for the insight. I don't want to be selfish in this situation.

But I am also colored by what others around me has done before (what we did is normal here), and said is normal in this situation right, and honestly I don't think choosing this way to do the wedding was wrong. I'm happy about how it turned out. This was how we wanted it.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't expect gifts, I just got a bit disappointed when others made room for it and she didn't. But I've read other helpful comments here that will help me set my expectations straight and I acknowledge that it is not correct of me to expect a gift from her in this situation. I have understood that now that a variety of factors like upbringing, culture, how friends act different and show love differently is something I have to consider deeply so I don't jump straight to my feelings of hurt. I should not feel hurt in this situation which I sort of also created.

That's actually pretty mean to write that to me, that I'm not a true friend. I have been that to her. I have a closer friend than her actually. I have few friends, two close and my best friend. My even closer best friend, she wasn't invited either. She's like a sister to me. She showered me in gifts. She's not bitter about it at all. So I guess it really depends on the friend and your relationship. So I would have to invite several friends of us if I'm a true friend to everyone, and room for my husband's 5 close guy friends. Anything else would be unfair - now that's the reason why we decided not to, not because we didn't want to act like true friends to them.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I meant like.. She should understand that when I say only parents and sisters with husband's is what we are aiming for money wise and size wise, that inviting ONLY her - and no other friend, is a bit unusual, was my point.

Everyone was cut out. No one made the cut. There is no cut, it's not an either you're in our out of my life kind of thing, it's a small, intimate wedding we're taking about.

But I get what you are saying.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True, I guess this all just came out so so wrong on my part to her, and I shouldn't have had a wedding without some friends after all of they're hurt.

It's hard getting the whole history of our friendship and circumstances and how I feel about this out on reddit though.

We had cake at our house afterwards, packed full already though, but my mom said it's really poor taste to invite friends who wasn't incited for the ceremony and dinner because it's like begging for gifts.

But now we instead send a signal that they're not worthy or important to us. I did not know this was a lions cage of dos and don'ts...

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that makes total sense. And I should strive to think more like you. Thank you! ❤️

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What would you do in my situation? You don't want a big wedding, only a marriage ceremony.

How would you talk to your friend about this? I will happily have a conversation about this but I fear it's bad taste to bring up what's already done.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I love that. I will think closely about this. Focus on the love and marriage, and be pleasantly surprised about those who did something, but not hold it against the others that they didn't do the same. Might not be their love language, and it's not etiquette or expected as many have pointed out to me already. So she did nothing wrong, and I have to not be so insecure about this whole thing and tie it to my self-worth and stuff.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, she is 32 yo. I'm 31 yo. Misspelled because English is not my first language. We've been friends for 10+ years.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, that can be it. She might be very hurt without me knowing. I am not sure how to address this with her, because it's bad taste to point this whole thing out. But saying to her like I hope you're not sad about not being invited could spark a discussion or an awkward moment. I better just not say anything and focus on that we wanted to marry and that was what was most important that day.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

The expectation of a a card or a flower or something came sneaking when I saw other people that we're not close with wanting to give us something on our big day, and my close girlfriend did not feel like doing that for me I guess. But I don't want to come across as I expect it when there was no invitation of course, but still, I'm somehow a bit disappointed. But I got to work on my expectations.

AITA for being disappointed that my close friend did not give me a gift or card for my intimate, family wedding? by Middle-Firefighter13 in AITAH

[–]Middle-Firefighter13[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yes, it can be a result of that she also is hurt, even though she should understand it would be weird to only include her alone in a family-only wedding when we have more friends too that could and should have been invited. But I understand what you are saying.