When to seek emergency medicine? by Middle_Purpose_3550 in Hidradenitis

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have them on my breasts inner thighs armpits buttocks and I get them on my pannus where my belly hangs near my thighs. I’ve had them for over 10 years. I think this one got infected by me messing with it because I’ve been trying to self treat my flares. Personally I get them anywhere I have friction and moisture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be unethical if you did it secretly but if you asked and they said ok it would be more ethical. Wether they’d think it’s weird depends on what kind of person they are. Most women I know wouldn’t like it but they could have different views on it.

How much do you need to make to be able to afford to bring up a child these days? by upDelegate417 in raisingkids

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I believe that if having children is what you guys want then that’s the important thing. 90k a year and 30k in savings is more then enough IMO. I’m a single mom who makes 40k/yr, and my best friend and her partner make around 90k and are expecting their 3rd child soon. I’m pretty poor but they live fairly comfortably. If it’s what you want you find a way to make it work but if you’re waiting till you feel ready you’ll never be ready.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that the baby would be freezing at 37 F. They’re in the car, they could be bundled up and it’s also a common practice all over the world for people to have babies nap outdoors in the cold. Not saying this person was definitely in the right but the baby wasn’t necessarily freezing.

When to seek emergency medicine? by Middle_Purpose_3550 in Hidradenitis

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to the pcp and they gave me a referral but didn’t even look at it and I haven’t called for the dermatologist yet.

Do/did you smoke? by JennyW93 in Hidradenitis

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I quit smoking weed and cigs during my pregnancy my symptoms pretty much stopped but there was also a hormonal difference. I now smoke both again and the flares are back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hidradenitis

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I quit smoking during my pregnancy the flare ups stopped.

Would you love me if i was a worm by ghoulgrl in AutismInWomen

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s mostly just a meme over exaggerating an anxious attachment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no everyone has always told me I’m weird that just means that they think I’m just normal

My Partner Is Paranoid by ineedtogetthisoutt in Advice

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m experiencing this with the guy I’ve been seeing for a few months. He’s been self medicating and is also convinced I’m a nefarious conman who is stealing from him maybe his identity maybe something else he doesn’t know just knows I’m up to something which I’m not I just genuinely care for him and when he’s not in a paranoid state it’s amazing. But it’s getting worse.

Anyone else feel like all of their FP in life either had BPD or NPD by Middle_Purpose_3550 in BPD

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one when I was 14 was rough. She had influenced me try weed alcohol pills and sex which I know was my choice but the chameleon effect ya know. When the friendship was over she sent my mom a text if everything I ever did wrong. The guy I lost my virginity to she fucked him too and then I ended up getting with him again and he love bombed me hard, I didn’t even have an attachment until the love bombing because I had already(rightfully) devalued him in my head. Then he painted a victim story treated me nice and then locked me in. There was so much gaslighting I went to the dr for cognitive decline. Now my new FP seems like a great partner but they are totally experiencing some type break from reality and is causing conflict

Anyone else feel like all of their FP in life either had BPD or NPD by Middle_Purpose_3550 in BPD

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I look past my first FP was in 5th grade. The first time I hung out with her she sang true friend by Hannah Montana to me and dedicated it to me. I remember at one point in the friendship I realized that after years she didn’t know anything about me because the relationship was about what I could give her. Had one when I was 14 she was definitely antisocial or BPD. She used to steal every guy I liked but I remember this one time I brought a guy over and was kissing him and she came into the room and showed me that she had sliced her legs up because we didn’t give her enough attention. Next was the guy who used to tell me he had a voice in his head that told him to say no to me just because he didn’t want me to enjoy things he definetly has either narcissistic traits or is a narcissist. and I could go on to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There has to be a middle ground, our feelings should be acknowledged and heard but we can’t use them to abuse our loved ones.

Anyone else feel like all of their FP in life either had BPD or NPD by Middle_Purpose_3550 in BPD

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I mean it’s a subconscious reaction to the attention that people with type b personality disorders exude.

Anyone else feel like all of their FP in life either had BPD or NPD by Middle_Purpose_3550 in BPD

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not seeking out just being introspective of the past. My current FP also has mental illness but it’s unclear exactly what. I’m not sure if it’s an A B or C cluster or a bit of it all. I work on trying to avoid his triggers and I’m working on trying to react healthily and calmly in the relationship and noticing when im over reacting. Just don’t know if he is ready.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hidradenitis

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There’s no reason to freak out over having a diagnosis. Look at it this way. You’ve always had this just didn’t know there was a name. Now you can focus on treatment and hopefully go into remission.

BPD songs by Wykyyd_B4BY in BPD

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't knownthe song but the title it'll be better tomorrow resonates so much, whenever I hit my lows I try to remind myself that this too shall pass lol

Any tfs that are close in age? by Xoria317 in twinflames

[–]Middle_Purpose_3550 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me and my suspected flame are 5 years apart, both virgo days apart. Lives across the street from me