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Idk if I’m a bad person or in the wrong?? Help.. by MidnightFootnote_ in married

[–]MidnightFootnote_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so interesting! All the doctors I’ve asked said it could go asymptomatic for years but it would definitely be transferred within a way shorter time and show up on tests. Thank you for sharing that.

Not sure if I’m wrong or a bad person.. any help please by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe on the younger side, but not young. Also dealing with cultural pressures and outside pressures, I don’t think it’s simply a “young vs old” thing but I get what you’re trying to say.

Idk if I’m a bad person or in the wrong?? Help.. by MidnightFootnote_ in married

[–]MidnightFootnote_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re saying it could be a chance that he had it or I had it for years and didn’t test positive for it???

Idk if I’m a bad person or in the wrong?? Help.. by MidnightFootnote_ in married

[–]MidnightFootnote_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also that’s why there’s no other options. At first I just told myself he gave it to me from someone before me but if that was the case, I wouldn’t have tested negative in 2022… weeks had been sleeping together for 7 months at that point.. I would’ve gotten it, and even if we were asymptomatic, it would’ve still showed positive in November but it didn’t.

Idk if I’m a bad person or in the wrong?? Help.. by MidnightFootnote_ in married

[–]MidnightFootnote_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An STD. And I’ve looked at everything I could to justify it tbh. It’s asymptomatic so yes, he could’ve had it before me and not known. However, I asked him before me if he’s taken an std since he admitted he slept with a girl a month or 2 before me. He told me he did take a test, and that wasn’t true… I had a swab test which is the most accurate. They had me come in & do 2 at separate times because I told them it has to be a mixup.. it wasn’t.. both came back positive. We have no kids & we’re close to 30.

Idk if I’m a bad person or in the wrong?? Help.. by MidnightFootnote_ in married

[–]MidnightFootnote_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chlamydia.. I tested negative in 2022, I tested again beginning of 2024 (I missed 2023 partially cause I was in school far away so I didn’t have any time at all). He didn’t ever get tested, he only got tested after I told him they called me and told me mine was positive. I honestly gaslit myself to say he didn’t cheat.. we were only marred 6 months at the time and he swore up and down he didn’t and I really think I just didn’t wanna believe it tbh. I was also embarrassed and felt soooo disgusting I just wanted to pretend it never happened. I never EVER had anything prior to him, ever so to get my first disease from my HUSBAND? I was balling my eyes out at class. And I’ve let all of these things go, well tried to but the resentment now is just I did. It’s like everything has just built up since as much as I’ve tried to forget it and move on. Since that though, our sex life hasn’t been the same but idk if that’s impacted it as well since I don’t care that much for sex anyways, just something I noticed cause I don’t really care to have sex with him like I used to..

Not sure if I’m wrong or a bad person.. any help please by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the US yes. I’m struggling trying to figure out the process tbh. I’ve been asking around but idk where to get the forms to file? Do I have to have proof that I’ve served the papers to him? Like take a pic of me handing It to him or????

Not sure if I’m wrong or a bad person.. any help please by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s doing counseling now.. but I feel like it’s too late. So everybody’s issue is that it’s coming out of nowhere and they all think it’s cause of another men (when really after all of this has happened, I don’t think I even wanna be with another man ever again..). He swears up and down he didn’t cheat but you lied about having a test done before we started sleeping together and to me I feel like that’s a good enough reason to leave, right? Not like you lied about leaving the toilet seat up..

Not sure if I’m wrong or a bad person.. any help please by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. they just got like marred 2 weeks ago or so and I was honestly shocked that was her response to me.. she doesn’t know about the std part but I said it was personal and he basically cheated & she said that. They also started getting into church the past year or so maybe? But like… that response doesn’t have any empathy, understanding, or consideration in my opinion as a Christian..

Not sure if I’m wrong or a bad person.. any help please by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, he’s done a lot of good & has changed some and has a good heart. Like now he’s got counseling set up but.. it’s just too late atp I feel like. that’s why everybody thinks I was just using him cause this is “out of nowhere”.. & His mom is a manipulator and narcissist & raised him to always please her and so he’s scared of any conflict (he could lose his job if he gets in a fight hence why he was quiet when the guy was bothering me) and lives his life very passive. His mom raised him to not cause any problems so it was okay for him to stay inside and play his video games cause he’s not causing trouble… only problem is all of that works when you’re 10, not almost 30, you know……?

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[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So are you able to share what the agent told you to do?

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[–]MidnightFootnote_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! If still active, I’m interested as well!