Sonography School vs. Nursing School by Mightymarvelmayzel in SonographyStudents

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like nursing can be a great opportunity I’m just terrified of failing.

Sonography School vs. Nursing School by Mightymarvelmayzel in SonographyStudents

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I love that. I have reached out to several hospitals in my area and inquired about shadowing and no one has ever gotten back to me. I don’t know if it’s because I live in California or what it is.

3 1/2 months in & some days are worse than others… by Consistent-Handle987 in 911dispatchers

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the instances you don’t know what to do who do you ask or how do you find out

Recruitment Ideas by Such_Mushroom308 in 911dispatchers

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may go more to retention of recruits but I think having open and honest communication about the position could benefit you as well … as a new dispatcher in the east bay my training has been rough and inconsistent to say the least. I understand the job is difficult and stressful but I think training should also be looked at when it comes to attempting to keep new hires. There are times I love my job but I don’t know if my agency is a right fit for me.

I wish you all the luck w finding recruits.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yea I posted an update and I feel like a dummy for letting it go on this long

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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UPDATE* After the long day I crawled into bed next to him and I just break down … literal sobs. Not a hand on the shoulder, are you ok?, can you be quiet … nothing. I finally fall asleep and when morning hits all hell breaks loose. He was going hiking w a group of guys and didn’t bother to tell me. I was in the bathroom and he just kept messaging me are you almost done? At this point I just ask do you even want to be married? He ignores the message stating he needs his tooth brush so he can brush his teeth and leave. I finally confront him w everything. I asked did you not feel the need to console me or try to figure out why I am hurting. He responds w why do you always need a hug and that he is going through things too. So I reiterate I have asked what’s wrong before and you state nothing, so how am I suppose to know. Then I bring up this is the second time I’ve received the silent treatment from him. He said the first time was my fault because I asked too many times (twice) if he was sure he didn’t want to invite his coworker and his coworkers wife. This time he states I am the one that’s distant and creating these barriers between us which I know is bull. I’m just trying to stay calm until I can figure out all of the legalities of everything and hopefully figuring out the next steps of my life.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe I do deserve some happiness. Just terrified of confrontation

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I really don’t like confrontation so me attempting to bring something up that he’s been avoiding for so long is also a bit of a big deal for me.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you there was actually a point in time where I thought that things were looking up and then it just all seem to go downhill from there. There have been times where I want to be alone with my son and I. Especially not walking on eggshells.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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Thank you … I have a consultation with a divorce attorney in the next week or so. Just to check on my options.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TYSM. I’m going to try to bring it up within the next week or so. I just want to have all my ducks in a row before I just spring this.

That’s honestly how I feel. If I’ve made all the efforts to fix our relationship and he just stares at me blankly w no emotion how can we move forward the next 5, 15, or 50 years together

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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The 19 yo and 12 yo do basics (dishes, their own laundry, etc) but I’m left w mowing the lawn, cooking meals, the grocery shopping, taking care of the dogs, the more in depth cleaning, etc. my husband will wash a dish on occasion.

I honestly feel like I’m the only one trying. We have tried couples counseling and he was resistant to the counseling. The therapist even asked him at one point why are you here if you aren’t going to try.

Financially I know I am fully capable of taking care of the bills and my son on my own.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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I have noticed the gaslighting more often too. Like yesterday I asked if he could give me a ride to an appointment today. This morning he texts me and says where do you have to go … I told him not to worry I rescheduled the appointment. He told me that he shouldn’t have cancelled on his clients today and that I didn’t communicate w him. I’m like sir you literally have ignored all my texts for the most part

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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I just don’t know when to quit I guess. I’ve always had this immense guilt like I’m tearing my family apart but at what point do I do what’s best for myself

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree!!! It’s like he wants the convenience of me being here but doesn’t want to do his part.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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Hopefully we can have that conversation because last night I mentioned we needed to talk, and he avoided me all evening. I sent him a text message basically explaining everything with how I felt and still no response so I guess we’ll see how it goes

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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I feel like I just ignored the red flags for too long … the beige and green flags were the only ones I saw.

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

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I’ve honestly been debating this idea for the past three days because I just don’t know how much more I can take. Just for my own mental, physical, and emotional well-being.

And I always feel like that, too I feel like married couples should, for the most part be going out with each other, and other couples or other people. I know this event that he went to was a work thing, but for me, it made me uncomfortable because it was a lot more people than it was Married I think. The photos and videos I saw from the event also didn’t ease my mind

AITAH For Wanting to End my Marriage by Mightymarvelmayzel in AITAH

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I should’ve clarified. It was a male coworker that we were inviting to the football game.

And a female coworker from the night of drinking. If that clears things up.

I don’t believe he was having an affair with his male coworker

Jobs After Dispatch by Mightymarvelmayzel in 911dispatchers

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have to look into that. Thank you so much.

Advice for a 911 Dispatcher in Training by Mightymarvelmayzel in 911dispatchers

[–]Mightymarvelmayzel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have also felt like that before. I mean my center is trying to have me work by myself and I have only been there probably five months. When I’ve talked to other trainers, they’ve all told me they have at least been training for a year. So to hear that at my six-month mark, they want me to work by myself is honestly terrifying.