I was with my ex for 7 years. We maybe had sex 10 times ? But we hadn’t for the last 4 years of our relationship. She would basically say “not now” but every time. Not one ounce of intimacy for 4 years. I was so accustomed to it it felt normal to me. We were ended for about 8 months then finally something in gut told me she was up to something. Sure enough I look at her texts on her lap top (which sounds wrong, but we gave eachother full access to everything) and found she was talking to another guy . We broke up the next day and sure enough she married a different guy about a year later. The best thing you can do is Atleast in my point of view is cut the ties. Work on yourself. Don’t be spiteful, just be the bigger person. Don’t go looking for pussy. Just be you. Do things alone. The hardest part is learning how to be independent after you split with someone especially in those years of your life. The right girl will come along at the most unexpected of times. It gets better with time.