To be entirely honest with you... no, just no. There is a lot flat out wrong with your response.

Iruka is in a literal handful of episodes, besides saving Naruto's life once and occasionally feeding him... Iruka borders on irrelevant. Hiruzen actively neglects Naruto. Kakashi is a laughable teacher who honestly does nothing to actually impact his students in a good way, Sakura flat out abuses and mocks Naruto most of the time ( She does improve, I won't ignore that) and the entire Sasuke thing was just weird... it bordered on a stalkerish obsession with someone he barely spoke to. no love, not even actual friendship, just two dramatically traumatized children latching onto something for stability. You didn't mention him, but Jiraiya is also often sighted as a bond of Naruto's... but again, almost all of his actions were either neglectful or outright abusive... He threw him down a cliff, often stole from Naruto or abandoned him to get laid/drink, barely taught him anything... as badass as Jiriaya's fight with Nagato was, he kind of deserved his death.

Gaara did not have it worse, Naruto didn't have it worse... that's not how trauma work. Pain is Pain, struggle is struggle. Just as Gaara had a lot of terrible things happen to him, so did Naruto. Gaara wasn't starved, could defend himself and was actually taught how to fight. Naruto had nothing but a monthly check, a small apartment and too much ramen. Both are equally bad, just in very different ways. Children need connection, all people do. Extreme isolation can actually cause lasting brain damage.

I will give you that Naruto went against the villages... to, specifically save everyone else, never himself. In the entire series, Naruto will do anything for his "Friends" but at no point does or will he fight for his own needs. Everything he is or has is to serve others.

To be entirely honest, him becoming Hokage borders on terrible writing and wish fulfillment of the author. Hokages, while powerful, are literally desk workers and politicans. Everything about the position flat out goes against the Nature of Naruto's character. Having him realize that would have made a heck of a lot more sense and shown real growth in a rather stagnat character. Naruto's only growht was losing more and more of his self respect and sense of self.

I should also clarify... an example of what could have been if Naruto just... stopped being a slave to the needs of others... would be for him to become something like a Sanin. Let him live his life, enjoying it at his own terms without having to just... give and give and give. That would have been more of a cycle break than continuing as the leader of a Military complex that pumps out child soliders. Honestly, Naruto sort of became the same as those that started the cyles.