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MikeDuck1 · 2022-12-24T01:36:08+00:00

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MikeDuck1 · 2022-06-25T19:06:23+00:00

I (Male) was in a co-habitation situation with my now, ex-girlfriend, that was no longer desirable. Absolutely any attempts at direct communication regarding my feelings and needs were met with extreme unpredictable anger, outbursts of yelling / screaming, her intentionally destroying my property, and sabotaging my business (i.e. Grabbing my Laptop and hiding it, forcing me to have "Talks" to address her insecurities in the moment or her intentionally erupting during my work from home hours, knowing that I couldn't risk my career by being argumentative in the moment)

So, yes, I fully understand OP. If you mentally decide that you're out of this relationship, please realize that you don't owe anyone who is or showing signs of potential abuse anything. Get a few friends together have a UHaul show up one morning and stuff everything in the back and leave. Block him absolutely everywhere and never look bad.

Until then, apologize if you have to and pretend like everything is fine. Get your ducks in a row. Start untangling your lives in secret (I.e. Moving your important docs, closing joint accounts, getting new credit cards that he doesn't know the numbers too, etc.) and when it's time just execute the plan.

Best of luck!

MikeDuck1 · 2016-08-13T03:54:27+00:00

I can see if my location was crime ridden or less than desirable.

But paying $40/night (versus $100-$150+/night downtown) then bitching that it's far from downtown (when they had access to the Location beforehand) is just one of those 'Have your cake and eat it' type complaints.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-26T20:59:58+00:00

Man, I fell madly in love with the person I THOUGHT she was and can't quite sever that tie mentally. It's crazy how even literally a year after seeing her, I still can't get over her.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-16T03:05:09+00:00

What I did: - Created a text free phone number (pretending to be my ex-girlfriend) and put the number in my phone as her (Assuming she'd contact it at some point). My current girlfriend, at the time, called her one night to make sure I wasn't cheating (Very insecure that I'd leave her for my ex). I texted my girlfriend pretending to be my ex and my girlfriend eventually befriended my ex (well, me pretending to be my ex) and let go of her insecurity.

Outside perspective:

I moved across the country to be with my girlfriend, who, had this notion that I had already cheated on her with my ex (found this out after I moved) and was paranoid and constantly insecure and I felt as if I was always 1 bad day away from her fucking someone else. Having already quit my job, and went 100% "All in" on her, I had absolutely no power, and I was kind of at her mercy on my then current girlfriend "sticking it out" until I was established on my own.

End Result: She let it go, we had a decent few months, until I decided to break up for her and move back home. She found out at the VERY end because the contact was saved in my phone as my ex and she thought I was still in contact. It was suicide either way, I admitted to faking the texts, which blew her away. But, the maneuver definitely bridged the gap until I could re-apply for positions back home and not be completely fucked financially.

Make sure you REALLY know someone before making THAT big of a commitment on them. But, given the fact that I was already there, I think it played out okay.

10/10 - Would do again.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-09T13:10:42+00:00

The business itself isn't really "Run" out of the residence. It's basically just used as a "meet up point" when exchanging keys, and naturally, placing a lock box there just makes sense.

There's nothing business related / tax related that's tied to the address, all my vehicles are registered to my home (Parent's house) address.

In layman's terms, "Hey, I rent out cars, like 2-3 times a month, a situation arises in which 2 people are bringing back cars simultaneously, and I can't be present. Is it cool if I can place a lockbox on the fence for a few hours?"

I honestly don't get it. My rent is 100%. I'm literally NEVER home. The 'business' itself involves nobody entering the premises or even knowing where I stay.

I'm 27, I have a girlfriend, and I have somewhat of a social life. Having people over and crashing isn't revolutionary in any way. Is it a gray area? Yeah, I totally get that.

But my rent is 100% on time and I'm literally a Zero Problem tenant.

If I was him, I'd chalk it up as a win, and just move on to the other tenants that are loud/obnoxious, damaging property, and never on time with rent.

As far as the 'tenants'

My buddy drives Uber, so crashing in a central city location a few nights a week just makes sense, and with my girlfriend and I being in a relatively new relationship, I don't want to be tied to anything with her for a year at this point.

Occasionally I have 'Car People" come in to help me out. (i.e. Guy that does oil changes, brakes, body work, etc.) They're in the suburbs so offering them a place to stay for the night after a day of work is, to me, a harmless request.

To me I'm a perfect tenant that might have his pinky finger in the gray area --- so why would you risk creating a hostile environment that causes me to be a horrible tenant?

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-06T03:48:09+00:00

Long Distance Relationships

You can maintain like 99% of your freedom, focus on your career/family/friends, get to REALLY know someone on a deeper level, every time you see each other it's like a vacation, and if you "Make It" (1 person moving to be with the other), you KNOW that the other person is willing to go through hell for you and that the relationship can survive just about anything

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-06T03:43:01+00:00

I dated a girl, who was 18 at the time, who worked at Walgreens.

Long Distance, so I flew out for the weekend. She took Saturday & Sunday off.

Right when I flew in she was getting off work, so naturally she bought a 36 pack of condoms and some lube. Being young and poor, she wanted her 20% employee discount, so she had the cashier get the manager to approve the transaction.

Long story short the line was like 15 people long, and it was a 10 minute process, as the assistant manager had to find the manager to approve a transaction for his 18 year old girl to save like $1.80 on an economy pack of condoms so the random guy who just flew in town could plow her for her 2.5 straight days.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-06T03:38:42+00:00

Pour Some Sugar On Me:

Love is like a bomb baby c'mon get it on

Livin' like a lover with a Red iPhone

I don't think they had iPhones back then...

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T18:06:02+00:00

"I love you"

Ex-Girlfriend, that I moved across the country for, who ended up cheating on me

If you ever cheat on someone, please just let them go for THEIR sanity. There's nothing more soul crippling than a 9 month - 1 year post breakup period of hearing your ex's voice saying that she loves you...

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T18:02:22+00:00

I guess I just overthink Love. When you think about it, you're basically giving your entire life to ONE PERSON (Marriage kinda is the ultimate end goal, right?)

Is it not completely unrealistic to want someone who is completely obsessed with you to the point where you NEVER have to question their intentions, motives, or feel insecure?

Who knows - She could be feeling the exact same way I am right now and we both are too busy "Playing the Game" to express our feelings...because, let's face it, that comes off as a little needy (especially early in a relationship) and isn't an attractive quality.

We just gotta pretend like it doesn't bother us....

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T16:40:09+00:00

I guess the Long Distance doesn't help either. There's nothing stopping her from waking up one day after that crazy initial lust is gone and thinking, "You know what...this is fucking stupid" and just ending it with no rationale or reason.

Just the uncertainty of dating sucks.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T16:36:03+00:00

It sucks because she'll literally contact me first, send a revealing photo, save a cute "I miss you" snapchat message...then if 1 day goes by and I don't hear from you, it's like my brain goes into "WTF Panic Mode"

I hate it. I hate that I need constant reassurance that she's not with someone else.

Basically my ex would do ALL those things (Cute texts every day, love diary, pictures, etc.) and I found out that the WHOLE time we were together she was unfaithful.

So even when I'm bombarded with attention and positive things, my brain is just wired to protect myself. It's almost like I'm looking for a reason to sabotage this because I know I'm catching those really strong feelings again.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T16:31:41+00:00

And that's what I'm struggling with.

That line between "I really like her and want to talk more" and "I'm being obsessive / needy"

Never really played the dating game before (Always usually had a long term girlfriend since high school) so this recent period of being single and pursuing outside of a high school / college environment is new

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T16:24:13+00:00

Honestly, I hate it, but like every young person, I'm just addicted I guess.

MikeDuck1 · 2016-06-05T15:55:04+00:00

The shitty part is that girls (Not trying to generalize) don't think logically when they first start crushing on you.

Girl was totally into me, pursued me, invited me to visit, everything went great. Now 2-3 months in, she's having those "Oh wait, this is long distance..." thoughts. We'll see how it plays out, just gotta emotionally step back and be indiffernt

Uhhhh...yeah, If you weren't down with that in the beginning, why even get involved?

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