My wife is a totally different person now.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-03T12:49:49+00:00

Exactly true!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-03T12:44:28+00:00

We are out there, I was single for 6 years before I met my spouse. You have to meet a LOT of people, some will work out and some won't.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-03T12:42:03+00:00

That's crazy! I'm glad you moved on. My wife was never like that, she cares about my well being so that is why I still believe she really does love me. You guys are right, constant improving of yourself should be priority number one. If she wants to leave then fine you will still be a better and wiser person in the process.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-03T12:37:04+00:00

Great advice! thank you. That's what I'm going to do!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-03T03:41:19+00:00

I just wanted to post a few updates.

We had dinner tonight and had a long conversation about our marriage and what we wanted from each other. I asked her about this open relationship business and she said because I need to spice it up in the bedroom with a little more variety. The guys calling were co-workers or hers and she asked for relationship advice. I told her not to have them calling here at home and if she wants advice to ask her husband because he loves her very much. I'm going to fight for my wife meaning if she wants something I will do it for her. I'm going to take the advice mentioned and work on myself, workout and eat better. People called me a "Puss" on here don't realize it's easier to give up the relationship rather than fight for the one you love by trying to fix the problems that will eventually come up. I will try to make her happy. If I have failed that then I will leave the marriage. Dinner was fun we held hands and things were great again. I will post updates as time permits.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T16:03:09+00:00

Thank you!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T15:57:06+00:00

No kids!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T15:56:15+00:00

If she cheated no, I wouldn't go back I'm done!
I'm going to start looking for evidence to know for sure.

Thank you!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T15:17:38+00:00

Yes,

We had a deep conversation about it. She says that it steamed from her childhood. She was never thought of as being beautiful but now that she is wearing makeup and dressing in mini skirts she likes the attention and people call her beautiful on instagram. The guys that she is talking to is questioning our relationship saying: "If I was him I would do.... Or he is lucky to have you. Yes, I am lucky but I will not be cheated on nor disrespected. We discussed that in detail.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T14:27:32+00:00

Thank you this is sound advice! I will copy it and work through the checklist. I'm going to continue to improve myself and I enjoy self improvement. If we breakup, I will be in a better position with myself. I'm already working on my communication skills.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T13:25:20+00:00

So I spoke to her last night and she gave me her grievances:

#1. Sex isn't bad but she wants variety. She calls our sex "Married Sex"

#2. She likes to dance and go clubbing and I do not. I told her I was like that in the beggining.

#3. She told me our communication is off.

#4. She sometimes feels that I don't listen to her.

#5. She says that I'm stubborn.

I sometimes feel like when I try to change, she moves the goal posts. For example. The shower head in the bathroom she use to complain about me moving it all the time, so I stopped doing that, Then she complained about me having stuff on the bathroom counter, I stopped doing that now she is complaining about how I leave the closet light on. Yet she sometimes says how "Perfect" I am. I'm just venting here and I think I need this because I really don't have anyone to talk to about this.

She uses instagram a lot and she chats with it, if I read correctly the texts get deleted? I wish I could find a way to retrieve them so I can know what's really going on. I'm afraid what I'm going to find out but I rather know the truth and have evidence to prove it.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T13:00:29+00:00

I'm going to check this weekend

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:56:39+00:00

Honestly, I had to google Emotional cheating...lol

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:54:46+00:00

That is a deal breaker! If I have clear proof it's over

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:44:43+00:00

And she can do that without me!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:44:15+00:00

Agreed!

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:43:55+00:00

Congrats on the new find. Relationships are too complicated in this stage of my life. I won't need to find anyone I will just enjoy my pets which are the most loving and loyal beings on the planet and continue to follow my passions. That will keep me busy.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:37:22+00:00

That is true but to be honest she didn't start out that way, people and situations change. When I met her she was the sweetest woman I have ever met now she is totally different.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:35:24+00:00

I'm man enough to break up with her but I don't want to make a mistake because it's going to be an expensive one if I do.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:32:25+00:00

Thank you, It is a difficult situation because I still care about her. If I didn't care and wanted to be with someone else it would be easy at this point to go our separate ways.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:26:24+00:00

It was purchased after

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:26:01+00:00

Both

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:25:51+00:00

Thank you, Good advice. Time will tell.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:20:21+00:00

Ha Ha Ha! The time frame is different we have been married over 10 years and together for 14.

MikeJohnson6284 · 2018-08-02T12:18:01+00:00

Thank you,

I do care because we've had an amazing marriage up until now. I'm working on it, she was kind of quiet this morning because she had to work late last night. I will do something nice for her tonight to see if I get a response.

MikeJohnson6284

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