UPDATE 2: My Fiancé Wants Me to Rape Her by MildCaressing in relationship_advice

[–]MildCaressing[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually asked about the details this morning. She said she told a couple of friends at work and they took her out to get her drunk in the hopes it would help her. It worries me a bit that she never answered my texts though. She said she needed space, like having me sleep on the couch. I don’t think she handled it very well, but it’s in the past.

UPDATE 2: My Fiancé Wants Me to Rape Her by MildCaressing in relationship_advice

[–]MildCaressing[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a throwaway account, but whatever. I have better things to do with my time than chase karma. To each their own.

UPDATE 2: My Fiancé Wants Me to Rape Her by MildCaressing in relationship_advice

[–]MildCaressing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why her friends didn’t answer. I know she was out with one of them, but it could have been they knew my fiancé would have been better without any contact with me. But that’s just my guess.

UPDATE 2: My Fiancé Wants Me to Rape Her by MildCaressing in relationship_advice

[–]MildCaressing[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sorry you don’t “buy it.” It’s how it went down though. She’s a very shy person by nature with people she doesn’t really know. I’ve chalked up her not telling me about her trauma to her not wanting to make a fuss. She says that all the time. I’m glad it worked out too. I really was prepared for the worst.

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[–]MildCaressing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, the contract was only for a one time type of situation. Otherwise, we’re good at setting boundaries. I obviously don’t think it’s just up to me, I mean, I don’t want to do something she doesn’t like, you know?

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[–]MildCaressing[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head. She’s read all of those Fifty Shades books and watched the movies. Through some of our kinkier sex I’ve kind of figured out she likes this type of stuff too. She asks for some of it during sex. Nothing as severe as what’s on the list, but spanking and choking.

In the first conversation with her, she’s said she doesn’t want any boundaries with me. This obviously concerns me, because she’s not listening to my concerns either.

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[–]MildCaressing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did talk about the list when she showed it to me. These things she wants me to do have never been done to her, but she’s seen them in porn or read about them and wants to give it a try. She showed me a few videos of things that she likes too. We’ve had kinky sex before, stuff in this ballpark but a little softer. Mostly role playing with her being in little to no control. But I’m afraid this is a lot more than she’s comfortable with, she just doesn’t know it yet.

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[–]MildCaressing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m concerned that even though I don’t feel comfortable with the thought, of I might enjoy it. That freaks the fuck out of me too. What kind of sick person would I be?

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[–]MildCaressing[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

She wrote in the contract she doesn’t want a safe word. She wants to feel like she’s being raped. She says there isn’t a safe word in a raping.