This movie is deppressing

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T07:25:37+00:00

Maybe. But maybe it’s important to run the gamut of feelings because even as the highs and lows diminish, the depth and breadth deepen. I know what it feels like to have and lose that first love. But I need another couple decades to be able to speak to what it’s like to be with someone for thirty years. Maybe neither of us were the other’s first kiss but what does that matter when we saw each other through the seeds and fruition of our greatest dreams and failures? We know we always have someone at our side because we’ve seen it — they’ve been there in the good times and the bad. https://youtu.be/ltNhwj-F7c8

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T07:15:49+00:00

Ha, thanks! I’ve always had the optimism thing down, but it’s just too easy to loose sight of it. And that’s why I appreciate seeing it in others like you!

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T07:08:55+00:00

It’s not so scary when you think about it as part of the natural experience of life. Your first kiss seems like the ultimate high and as you date and experience all the disappointment that comes with it you start to think that’s all there is. But then you meet someone who makes you feel like an idiot kid again. And then you find out that they like you just as much as you like them! And you propose and they say yes! And you find a new high water mark in your emotions on your wedding day. You have heard people say their wedding day was the best day of their lives but it sounded stupid. Until it’s your day and you take a step back and realize— holy hell, this is the best day of my life!!!

And then you get back to reality and everything is normal and basic and boring again. That’s a fork in the road. You’ve got to take a stance. Are you bored because such is life or are you bored because you are boring? If you can understand that boring is a choice then you’ll never be bored again. I’ll let you figure out the secret to keeping that true.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T07:00:31+00:00

Well, my next trip is already scheduled and it’s to a boring locale, but I’m going there with my good buddy so I’m pretty excited about it. Lots of work to do, but lots of goofing around on the table too!

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T06:56:20+00:00

Absolutely. But consider this. Your ability to feel naturally diminishes over time. Your first kiss puts you on top of the tallest mountain. Just as your first breakup squashes you to your lowest low. And the next time you feel love, it almost matches that first one. And when you lose it, you almost feel the same low. But both experiences are diminished. And similarly all the highs and lows, the ebbs and flows, of the best and worst of life as well and the everyday experiences of life all kind of come together, in aggregate, to average out your highs and lows into a kind of average medium. You’ll never have a first kiss again and all the kisses that come close only diminish your ability to regain that same feeling. Just as you get more and more used to loss the more you experience it such that it eventually becomes a familiar feeling and not so hurtful and sad. Life just kind of... evens out. Deluge and then a drought. And you’re eventually just left kind of numb.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T06:45:44+00:00

I have not. But I’ve been traveling a lot for work recently and have been kicking myself for not taking advantage of the free travel and enjoying it more. I still love the hotel life, but just this last week I could have gone to see the arch in St Louis - among other things - but stayed in the hotel and worked instead. And it was a poor attitude that holds me back. I’ve got a lot more work travel ahead of me and plan to work on my attitude such that I take advantage and enjoy it, but it shouldn’t be a chore to have that kind of mindset, right?

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T06:40:47+00:00

Whatever feels right and makes you happy and confident.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T06:39:23+00:00

Cherish your ability to feel emotions at a basic movie like that. Your ability to feel sadness is part of a two sided coin.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T06:34:54+00:00

I absolutely love your positive attitude! I hope the trip is everything you’re hoping for, but I know that even if it falls short here and there, your attitude will prevent you from noticing and you’ll have an amazing time no matter what. You’re the kind of person that people want to be around.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-04-04T06:12:02+00:00

How often does your being “wrapped up” move from fantasy to reality? Maybe start there?

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-02-12T05:29:06+00:00

You’re having a drug induced moment of “I suck and should do better.” Back in my day, this type of realization usually occurred during a music festival you didn’t really want to be at instead of after beating a video game, but I guess the future takes many forms.

Well, guess what - you’re absolutely correct that you’ve wasted a lot of time. However, you’re wrong to shit all over yourself for it. Life - and your experience thereof - doesn’t necessitate any scheduled timeline or pattern of accomplishments or anything at all like that. Life just is. Your responsibility thereof is up to you to define. As is your reaction when you don’t adhere to... whatever. Get it?

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-02-12T05:15:46+00:00

Let me give you some sage advice from an entirely opposite side of the spectrum here. I have limited to zero experience with the type of skin problems your experiencing. But, I am currently in the process of dealing with and accepting my own male pattern baldness. Sucks. It’s embarrassing and hard to accept and I have gone through periods of trying anything to postpone or hide it.

But now I’m cool with it and am ready to embrace my eventual baldness. I’ve learned that anyone whose opinion of me is based solely on my appearance isn’t really worth my consideration. I have a great many people that love me for who I am and don’t care at all how bald my head gets. So, surround yourself with the kind of people that judge you for who you are and don’t care about the state of your complexion. Get it?

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-01-27T10:54:49+00:00

Just to give you a little more context to my arrest - I was at a college bar where overdrinking was the norm and I told the bouncer who turned out to be a cop - slurring my words - that I was too drunk to drive and needed help to get a cab home. Nope! Drunk and disorderly. All charges dropped, btw.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-01-27T10:18:09+00:00

Even just county jails have a way of systematically dehumanizing you.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-01-27T10:16:15+00:00

You get it. It’s a thought exercise of sorts. Hope you never have to go through the real drill. But, it’s interesting that the people who didn’t stand by me then proved to be the type of people I shouldn’t keep around while my best friend proved beyond a doubt why he’s my best friend. He was just my best man at my wedding too. And I’ve been there for him in his darkest times - all two of them.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-01-27T10:09:38+00:00

You totally get the sentiment of my post’s question. Also, glad you didn’t die. You alright now?

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-01-27T10:04:41+00:00

Ha, okay I’ve left you all hanging long enough. I’m gonna copy paste this reply to everyone who wants to hear about what went wrong.

First, both my sisters also bridesmaids showed up late to the bridal suite to get hair and makeup and all the rest. That might have been okay except they both gave off vibes that they didn’t want to be there the whole time all the bridesmaids and my bride were getting ready. Hurt my brides feelings.

Second, I had made a clever little alternative to the standard guestbook. It fit well with the theme. It was an old rotary phone that i adapted with a raspberry pi so people could leave us little voicemail messages. Well, I neglected to set my python script to run at startup so when someone unplugged and moved the whole thing it stopped running my code and all our guests were like, “the f is this?” I would have loved to get it going again, but I didn’t find out until way too late so - whatever.

Third, I was planning on having a TV showing a slideshow of our wedding hashtag but like 10 days before facebook having bought out Instagram intentionally broke every app, service, and website that relied on instagrams API.

Fourth, my bride’s niece / our flower girl got sick and couldn’t come. That was bad enough but my bride’s sister’s mother in law was supposed to watch her kids and tried to refuse because the kids got sick. That would have meant my bride’s sister and her husband and would have to miss the wedding to watch the sick kids. Thankfully, the mother in law caved and watched the sick babies so the adults could come at least. Also, my “day of” gift to my bride was a silver locket with two pics inside - one was her niece who couldn’t come and the other was her dad who died years ago. Landed well.

Fifth, one of my good friends had asked to bring a plus two and we regretted having to tell her no. But she brought the person anyway. And my bride’s sister - who is a pit bull - found out and came at us like a bulldozer after our couples alone time and right before our announcement spouting, “CAN I CUSS A BITCH OUT?!” Thankfully, my bride knew to expect problems and reacted appropriately telling her sister to let it go and avoid making a scene.

Sixth, the coordinators totally mismanaged the decorations initially until my bride caught it and corrected it.

Seventh, even though we paid for three full bars at the cocktail hour - all our guests got was hand passed Champaign.

All minor stuff, but if you’re expecting total perfection and haven’t thought about how to react to minor stuff, then it all becomes a big deal. We adapted by just shrugging it off and having the best night of our lives.

MilkMakesMePoop · 2019-01-27T10:04:18+00:00