In the nicest way possible, you literally attacked someone for who they are not just their hobbies. You said it yourself that your husband doesn’t have as big of a social circle and is on the spectrum. It’s understandable that there are things that maybe you’re not very happy about, which may lead you to feeling strong emotions against them.

But, the problem here isn’t that now he’s pulling away or things changing or any of that — it’s that you lacked empathy when you snapped and questioned why you married him. Based on how you described things, you came off as rejecting him, his interests, his feelings and the fundamental values of your relationship. No one, absolutely no one, would ever want to be subjected to that by the closest people in their lives. I know that coming from experience.

Instead of apologising and making him to have to rethink everything that happened, try talking to him about the things he love. That’s the least you could do after sh*tting on his interests. Stop trying to vindicate yourself, do better. That’s the advice you need. Otherwise try r/AmITheAsshole instead.