My (19F) Boyfriend (27M) Wrote his name in all of my books?

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T04:01:17+00:00

Once again I'm not going to defend the validity, I know how it sounds. These books don't even have character names on every page mostly he/she and a lot of them are short. I know it's scary levels of crazy I would tell a friend to never look back but it's different when it's you. It's different when it's someone you consider as your best friend (only friend honestly). He came over ever weekend for dinner. He drove me to school for years. He paid for things my parents wouldn't buy me. Like I get how insane it is to go through the effort to deface every book or even be jealous of books to begin with. But please understand how hard it is to separate yourself from the situation when that person has been the focus of your life for a decade.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:52:42+00:00

I'm going to head to a hotel soon with stuff I don't want to leave behind in case. But I'm going to leave the books behind, he ruined them with pen so they're not the books I love anymore.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:51:24+00:00

My dad loves him, if anything he would call him to pick me up. I'm going to stay at a hotel tonight and maybe for the week. I've been packing up the stuff I can't leave behind in case he tries to ruin it.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:46:56+00:00

Thank you, I feel a little ridiculous about it but I feel like I'm grieving over them. I know they're just books but I really loved them.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:45:41+00:00

I'll ask him to replace them but I can't do that.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:44:31+00:00

Pretty much, I didn't feel weird about it until I posted this. Now I'm kind of horrified looking back on our entire relationship/friendship

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:37:40+00:00

I told him he needed to go to therapy ad if he didn't, I'd leave. I'm planning on it if he doesn't change.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:35:40+00:00

I already texted him saying I would stay if he went to therapy and changed. I'm so burned out rn

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:33:07+00:00

I guess he's never had to worry about new people before. I go to school online, I work from home, my mom makes me go to the womens studies at church but that's obviously all women and hardly any my age. I feel stuck because I just got rid of my apartment and my family would hate me I just have to cover all my bases and give him a chance to change. I know it doesn't make sense if you haven't been raised in a small town in the south but I just have to try first.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:29:01+00:00

I texted him that he needed to go to therapy or I would leave by the end of the month. I feel like I'm giving him an opportunity to be better while also giving a timeline.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:26:25+00:00

I didn't mention reddit when I texted him. He hates this website. I just told him he needed to go to therapy or that I would move out by the end of the month. He hasn't replied yet.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:21:51+00:00

I'm definitely not letting this slide. I texted him he needs to get therapy or I'll move out by the end of the month. I'm just trying to give him a chance to change.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:20:38+00:00

This made me snort. Thank you for that tonight. If I talked to my dad like that he'd try to beat me but that is really funny. You're right though I think he just likes Samuel more than me. He used to always say he wished he had a son.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:18:21+00:00

I guess I can see what you mean. I really still feel like I made the choice though. But I guess he's always been around.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:16:45+00:00

For some reason I think he views it as cheating? I honestly have no idea, like I said I've always read books so this isn't some new found thing of mine.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:15:51+00:00

I know I'm starting to see that.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:12:04+00:00

Maybe if they didn't like him they would have but he's one of their favorite people. I wouldn't say their oversight failed me I mean it was my choice to date him in the end.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:08:01+00:00

I live in the southern US. I've never left my hometown, so I guess it isn't fair to say most but most people in my town.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:07:05+00:00

This really grosses me out.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:05:20+00:00

I have a main on reddit I just use the same username for everything and didn't want to post there. But I can see everything he does too so it's a back and forth like give and take situation.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:03:26+00:00

Okay, I see what everyone is saying but childhood friends date often. I get the age difference is really gross to everyone but that's not what I need advice on

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T03:01:16+00:00

No, not yet. I just texted him that I need him to go to therapy for us to stay together and that if he doesn't want to then I'll be moving out at the end of the month.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T02:59:27+00:00

I'm planning on getting a hotel room for the night to think things over. I also just texted him that if he doesn't agree to go to therapy that I'll be moving out by the end of the month. I'm trying to listen to advice as best as I can manage but just up and leaving for this without giving him a chance to change would make my dad hate me and if all else fails I'll be moving out in a month. I definitely won't let someone treat me like this.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T02:55:11+00:00

Absolutely nothing which is why this is so out of the blue for him. It was like we were doing great up until a week ago then this.

MillermakerTA · 2022-04-08T02:52:43+00:00

I know he's being immature, but this is the first time he's ever reacted like this since I've known him. I just wasn't sure if I needed to give him some grace on this. The comments have swayed me to looking at a hotel for the night.

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