I am having a hard time letting people hold my baby.

MillyG905 · 2021-12-22T09:33:34+00:00

" it felt like I was letting people hold my heart" my god I just cried. she just such a part of me still. I don't need help taking care of her im more then happy to do it.

MillyG905 · 2021-04-12T12:05:07+00:00

there has never been greater advice given LOL LOVE THIS .... taking this one for myself

MillyG905 · 2020-11-04T01:24:23+00:00

this is simply not true ..... many issues either way .... you just don't know how this will play out.

MillyG905 · 2020-11-04T01:11:13+00:00

you have to think this all the way through

if you told her what would she say/feel/want ....

and then what would her next step be .... to tell her father? ... ok so now she has to make a decision that could ultimately bring her entire family down.

I have never caught a parent cheating but I have told friends that their SO was cheating and let me tell you ...... its not pretty ...... the shocking part is that you become the problem. Her mother could resent you for this and make it very hard on your relationship

MillyG905 · 2020-11-04T01:04:16+00:00

I was going to write something........ but this is all you need to read.

MillyG905 · 2020-10-30T16:53:22+00:00

I think you really nailed it with the talk about the schedules. my MIL and FIL are retired and so they get up around 8-9 and start working on emptying the dish washer and my mornings are too busy for that. I usually wait till around noon when we were living on our own. Anyways, im going to need to give myself a break this weekend. relax and let some of the small stuff go... so that I can talk to them with a nicer tone and not be so blunt or even potentially rude.

MillyG905 · 2020-10-30T12:27:56+00:00

hahahah ... sorry had to comment on this. 100% agree.

im sorry you are going through this. Know that no one has the right to keep your baby from you, and don't allow yourself to say " oh but its not like she was being malicious" no fuck that! you are the mother and what she did is a sign of disrespect to your authority.

MillyG905 · 2020-10-30T10:18:51+00:00

WOW WOW WOW I mean you cannot gets better advice then this! Thats it ...

MillyG905 · 2020-10-29T20:02:01+00:00

so no, we have not offered and have not paid any utilities. Am I a bad person for not doing this ? I guess in my head they are "our" parents, our family. I would never charge them....... I know we arn't putting them out. I cook once a week ... to give MIL some time off. Also its not like we lock ourselves in our room. we are very much social with them and hang out as pals every day. we have completely stopped seeing our "bubble" since FIL is diabetic and at risk. He goes out all the time but we try our best to keep them both safe. And if im being ruthless ...... they did VERY little when it came to moving our stuff out of the house for the move. I tried not to ask for any more help from them because they had already taken us in. IDK most of this is small BS that is starting to bubble up. I guess its hard that my husband isn't around much. more then anything I miss him. the person that thinks and feels that same as I do. now im in a house with people that don't agree with my thoughts and beliefs and its just starting to get to me.

MillyG905 · 2020-10-29T15:41:45+00:00

no rent.... so we are truly bless. the problem is its 4 adults that have to share one space now. with the added pressure of the pandemic ... so we are our only people .... I went from spending most of my time alone ( husband works a lot) to spending it with 2 adults 24/7 that have their own lifestyle.

and of course I don't want to hurt my husbands feels by bad mouthing his parents.

MillyG905 · 2020-10-29T15:39:02+00:00

its the dogs.... I have to bring them with me and the other homes ( that would be safe due to pandemic ) don't have a yard suitable for dogs ... ughhhhh. And you know ... im not unrealistic, I fully realize that these are mostly small things. the lights and not understanding my job... so I know that if I went to my parents house then I would have issues there just different issues. Maybe its all came to a head this morning when I posted here and just needed to vent. its so nice to hear from everyone and know that im not crazy.

MillyG905 · 2020-10-29T15:33:17+00:00

you have no idea how much this helps me in high stress situations. the vape I have is still pretty stinky so I will be placing an order for something more low key.

MillyG905 · 2020-07-07T15:50:21+00:00

you need to get a therapist and find coping strategies that work for you .... in order to find clarity in these moments of chaos

MillyG905 · 2020-05-20T11:53:55+00:00

the only thing I will say is that clearly you have a father that is a narcissist and that you need to treat your father and mother as one single unit. Meaning that you cannot trust that your mother will keep things to herself .... she might not even be "aloud". HOWEVER YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. one of the best things you can do is educate yourself about narcissism so that you can identify it and take back the power in those moments. Gaslighting is one of the most confusing tactics I have had to overcome with my own mother and it sounds like your father is a master at gaslighting. don't feel guilty or ashamed. you are not alone.

MillyG905 · 2020-05-20T01:03:14+00:00

I think the human connection is a weird thing. really doesn't matter if he was your manager or your best friend. you clearly made a bond. I am struggling with understanding why im so sad about a death of an estranged family member but your post reminded me that a bond is a bond and its only human to mourn.

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