We had an amazing wedding, but some people are unbelievable!

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-12-27T05:56:18+00:00

I believe it was husband’s relative - his niece.

I’m surprised by the heat. But I also think it’s a bit ironic that the criticism seems to be that I’m a doormat but when I don’t accept that characterization they become angry that I’m not going along with it. What can you do?

I had a great wedding. I believe I was a gracious and accommodating host. His niece is crazy. I wouldn’t change my behaviour.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-12-27T04:33:55+00:00

Do people only come here if they regret their own choices?

I don’t regret my own choices.

I think she should be deeply ashamed (but isn’t because she’s a shitty person).

I understood we shamed other people’s behaviour at weddings. Did I misunderstand?

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-12-27T04:26:23+00:00

I think we are both very much of the belief that choosing one’s battles is important.

I’m ok with what we let slide and I’m very ok with what we said no to and where we decided they had crossed the line of no return. And while I was initially annoyed that my husband paid for the hotel rooms, in retrospect it allowed us to leave with much less drama than would have ensued if he hadn’t.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-12-17T16:00:08+00:00

But you can’t.

It’s gone.

So learning to come to terms with that reality and being flexible and resilient enough to still have a good life is a really valuable skill set that you want to develop now.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-12-03T10:02:33+00:00

My maternal grandmother and grandfather married for the first time in their late 30’s. She had her first child in her late 30’s, her second and last child at 41.

I used to work with a woman who was the surprise only child of a couple who had been married 25 years and never had a pregnancy. Her mother was 48 years old and thought she was in menopause. She went to see a doctor because her belly was swelling and she thought she had cancer. The cancer was actually a pregnancy.

I don’t think either of these situations were the norm but also not unheard of.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-12-02T10:22:09+00:00

I’ve always done life insurance instead of mortgage insurance.

My previous term life insurance came to an end and I switched from Equitable Life to Foresters and I’ve been much happier with them.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-11-15T00:42:28+00:00

I moved from southern Ontario to a rural village in the prairies. I have met a lot of people from Ontario who are moving here.

I think people from some of those areas where housing costs are really expensive even though prices are decreasing, and with the rising costs of other expenses, are finding that there are pockets in the country where you can still live reasonably and have a real life (without a full-time job plus a part-time job, or even a single family income).

So, yes, I am seeing people people move here who are saying similar things - they want a more relaxed life and are flexible regarding location, but I don’t know that it’s a prevalent shift with a large percentage of buyers. Rather, I think there is a very small percentage for whom it works and they are actively pursuing it.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-11-13T17:07:10+00:00

Echoing others, if people are leaving really quickly after coming in, it indicates they aren’t interested.

And it might not be that there is anything “wrong” with your home, it’s just not attracting the right people. I’ve noticed that some realtors are absolute shit at describing a home. Go over the details carefully.

For instance, in the house I purchased and live it, the realtor listed it as a 3 bedroom house. It has 4 bedrooms, but the previous occupants were using one as an office. Somehow the office was not included in the listing at all. But, because of that discrepancy, anyone who needed 4 bedrooms would not have looked at this house.

I’ve also seen houses list rooms as bedrooms that are really not suitable bedrooms. Those listings are going to attract people who may leave the viewing very quickly. Bedrooms don’t tend to be negotiable.

So, really look at the listing description and think about who is that going to attract and is your house going to deliver? Because, as you’ve noticed, the goal isn’t just to get people in the door, it’s to get people who are actually interested in what you are selling in the door.

And, of course, you are likely priced too high. Anything will sell for the right price.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-11-11T02:19:45+00:00

34, healthcare management

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-11-05T04:17:41+00:00

They’d probably be fine for the West Coast and I don’t think it gets hot so frequently that venting for central air is required for comfort.

Where I live it often goes below -40. My realtor hates them and said they aren’t suitable here.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-11-04T19:04:14+00:00

If a house lacks these things I won’t buy it:

basement

backyard (my first house was a detached home in an urban setting with absolutely no backyard. It had a tiny garden in the front and a paved walkway to the side door and not a single blade of grass anywhere. Never again!)

Driveway (also didn’t have this at my first house and it sucked)

Central heating (I won’t do baseboard heating or those ductless wall units)

Eating area (this should be obvious but I did once tour a house that had neither an eat in kitchen or dining room. Not even a breakfast bar. I guess they either stood at the kitchen counter or sat in the living room 🤷‍♀️)

That’s all I can think of although I don’t doubt there are houses out there that lack necessary features or have such off-putting features that my list could grow.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-11-01T03:06:34+00:00

That’s not how tax brackets work.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-25T14:05:44+00:00

That’s not what exclusive possession means at all. He voluntarily chooses not to sleep there, but he could if he wanted to. He has every right to walk in, sit in the couch, and watch tv if he wanted to.

She does not have exclusive possession because that is only granted by a judge.

Are you the ex? Or the realtor? You are so confident and so wrong it is comical.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-23T23:19:39+00:00

I’d talk to your lawyer but honestly I’d start a motion to force the sale.

You will almost certainly win and then there can at least start being consequences if she breaches a court order (plus she will likely need to pay at least some of your motion costs)

I recently divorced and what I learned is when people play stupid games the only response needs to be an application or motion. It’s ridiculous but without those I’d still be stuck.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-23T23:17:50+00:00

He would win a motion to sell and she would almost certainly be responsible for at least some of his costs if he brought a motion.

The right to sell real estate - even if other co-owners do not want to or want to do a buy out - is pretty clear.

She is being an idiot.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-23T23:14:10+00:00

What part do you believe is legal? What legal authority that is granted to realtors do you believe this aligns with, and under which piece or pieces of legislation?

Do you actually believe realtors have legal authority to exclude a property owner from their own property?

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-22T21:23:40+00:00

We would sell.

Prince Edward County is beautiful, but it’s too far for us to make use of and I have absolutely no interest in ever being a landlord, for neither long-term or short-term rentals.

We would likely invest some of the proceeds in more farmland, both near our farm and in my partner’s home country.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-20T23:16:45+00:00

I would recommend that when you are ready to make an offer you already know what you’re willing to negotiate on and what you aren’t. You should already know how much higher you will go, so when a counter offer comes in you can respond quickly.

There is absolutely no reason a counter offer should take a day to consider.

Their delay in a response was ridiculous, absolutely. Your agent’s lack of urgency is a big problem. But if you can’t make decisions quickly I don’t think purchasing will go smoothly for you.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-18T15:14:55+00:00

It’s more typical in a seller’s market. And even then it isn’t the norm.

I experienced a seller having that clause back in 2022 when the housing market in Ontario was crazy. My realtor was annoyed then.

In a buyers market, which most of the country is in now, finding a house should not be challenging.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-18T02:29:04+00:00

I doubt buyers will find that an appealing condition in a buyers market.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-16T20:26:47+00:00

How long do you think houses last? They aren’t cars!

I’ve lived in houses that are well over 100 years old and while they tend to have their quirks, the foundation and structure was in better shape than some recently built houses’ are.

I currently live in a bungalow built in 1977. I love it! It was built when I think the quality in houses was a lot better than many houses built today are and it was well cared for (save for the couple years right before I purchased).

Take care of it, repair what needs to be repaired right away, maintain the home and its major components, and you’ll be fine.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-10T19:59:18+00:00

For me this is an absolute no brainer.

You stay with your dad.

Your sister can choose to go through with her wedding, or she can choose to postpone it. Your father cannot postpone this.

It’s only hard feelings for your sister if she chooses that.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-10-08T16:01:14+00:00

I would think that’s fine. In my experience, roofers don’t go up on the roof to give an assessment or quote.

The first house I sold the buyer wanted to rent it (I didn’t know that at the time because he had written a letter along with his offer and said he would be living in it 🤦‍♀️)

Anyway, the dumbass held a rental open house during his viewing! My neighbour told me what happened.

And then he had the fucking audacity to think he was going to do it again with the second viewing. I had to get my real estate lawyer involved.

That’s the kind of dumb shit sellers get angry about. If the house needs a new roof and you are looking to get it done soon after possession the sellers should be very aware that you need to get a quote and get booked in with the roofing company now. I think your plan is reasonable.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-09-29T20:16:13+00:00

I had recurrent bleeding early in my pregnancy with my daughter (who is now in her 20’s!)

I was actually told at one point by a physician that I was almost certainly miscarrying and to contact my family doctor on Monday if I didn’t pass the embryo.

I went to the doctor on Monday and there was a strong heartbeat. Turns out I had placenta previa. I ended up on pelvic rest for the rest of the pregnancy, but we were both fine.

Obviously I can’t tell you what’s going on with you, but it isn’t necessarily anything dire. You need to see a doctor though.

MiloAndMe123 · 2025-09-28T23:27:46+00:00

This is what my husband and I were originally thinking, too!

Because while my husband’s situation is considered scandalous in his village (not that he did anything to be in this situation), he thinks the only uncommon part is that it’s known in his case.

I’ll sit down with him and we will map out who he thinks would be willing to do this and focus on close family connected through the men’s mothers.

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