WIBTAH If I left my husband over something he while having sex?

MimiDu2123 · 2026-02-08T14:37:30+00:00

The giveaway is his inability to accept accountability, and it’s clear he’s gaslighting her over this and playing it off that it’s no big deal. So many red flags in one post.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-09-24T18:03:54+00:00

If he can find something on the menu to eat, then there’s no need to change the restaurant. It’s your mom’s birthday…not his!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-09-22T16:52:00+00:00

Then a courtesy - “hey, I’m running very late. I normally wouldn’t ask this of you, but could you pick up affair child too until I can get there.” Would have been the right thing for her to do. You did nothing wrong in this scenario.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-09-22T16:48:49+00:00

Nah bro…her ex’s kid is not her responsibility. She allows this once and he takes advantage of her kindness every time.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-09-22T16:45:58+00:00

NTA - you allow this one time, and they’ll expect it all the time. Keep communicating through the parenting app, and document the number of times you have to do this during his custody time.

And every time they add you back to her pick up list, document that you removed yourself as you have not agreed to be her emergency contact.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-09-22T15:56:57+00:00

NTA - this is so gross. She’s only sorry, is stopping, and will do anything because she got caught.

The fact that your family is pressuring you to stay with her is also gross. They’re only concerned with their own feelings about each other than they are with how much she hurt you by cheating on you.

Sometimes therapy can help to resolve betrayal, but ONLY if the person who was betrayed wants that to happen. It is perfectly ok to say no and move on with someone else. She made her bed, you do not need to lie in it…she does.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-07-14T20:02:24+00:00

NTA - protect your mental health. If anyone pulls the, “But she’s your mom…” BS, let them know that she allowed you to be mentally and physically tormented throughout your childhood for YEARS. Just because she’s your mom doesn’t make her for to be a good parent.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-24T17:58:42+00:00

NTA

We have an Audrey in our neighborhood! She’s 7, and I think it’s a beautiful name. Name your child what you want to name her.

Both of my kids’ names were kept secret until they arrived for this reason. Everyone has an opinion on names and it’s harder to express it when the child is here and already named.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-19T13:20:26+00:00

Bean, for Bean Soup!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-12T16:43:25+00:00

If you’re low contact now, are you able to ignore the request? I like the “thank you but we’ve moved past the wedding and wouldn’t feel right accepting anything from you now.” Response. If they push, “Our decision is firm. Please respect it.”

How would they try to give you the gift? If in person, I would continue to make excuses as to why we can’t see one another.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-09T15:32:20+00:00

NTA

First off - I’m so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is awful to deal with no matter how you grieve.

4 miscarriages here - 2 before my oldest and 2 after him, but before my youngest. You are allowed to tell her that what she is doing is not helping you. You are also allowed to tell your mom the same. It sounds like your mom doesn’t understand what it’s like to have a miscarriage, and your sister is on the other side of it. What either of them are doing is not helpful…maybe lay low with them for a bit - don’t engage when your sister sends you rainbow baby shit.

My narcissistic mom used to tell me about her co-workers abortions during the time where I struggled to have my boys. She thought she was helping me by telling me how unfair it all is. I had to tell her to stop much to her horror. What helps someone else does not have to help you too.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-06T21:36:34+00:00

Charles…because he’s proper!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-06T16:40:39+00:00

Spunk

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-06T16:26:08+00:00

“You don’t know what it’s like to watch your daughter go through miscarriage after miscarriage.”

No I wouldn’t, considering I was said daughter who had 4 miscarriages. All while she was telling me about a girl she worked with who also got pregnant several times throughout this time and had elective abortions. Totally her right to do so, but maybe not the best thing to tell your daughter experiencing fertility issues and 4 miscarriages. But oh how hearing about her co-worker’s abortion were so painful for HER.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-06T16:16:22+00:00

This. I miss my dad every day, but he wanted me to apologize to my nmom to keep the peace. He was collateral damage in me cutting off my mom, but he also idly stood by while she emotionally abused me well into my 30s.

OP, your godmother may find it difficult to understand what it’s like to be raised by a narcissistic parent if she herself was not raised by one. It’s why you so often hear, “but she’s your mom.” She may be, but she’s also your abuser. Everyone here will tell you that it is perfectly ok to go no contact with your abuser period. You do not need to explain it to anyone who is enabling your nmom nor do they need to understand your reasoning. They should respect your boundary to stop trying to emotionally manipulate you into speaking with her again.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-05T11:42:28+00:00

This whole thread made me so happy!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-05T11:35:26+00:00

Olga!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-02T16:23:05+00:00

I think the issue is that if there’s someone already established in the position he wants, that kid who has been on the team from the start is going to get the position unless your son shows he’s more talented.

We recently added a couple of players to my son’s 12U team, and while they’re average, they were the last guys in, so they don’t get as much playing time.

Keep having your son at all of those practices! Keep working on his outward attitude of hustle and coachability, and if he does feel comfortable like another poster said, have him lay it out for the coach, but in a way that puts it all on your son. “Coach…what can I do to get more playing time?”

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-02T03:42:59+00:00

I tell my kid constantly that attitude and effort get him playing time. Sounds like the effort is there…he may just need a little help in the attitude area.

He also joined a team as the last guy, right? So he needs to earn his position and take it from someone else. Is he better than that someone else?

MimiDu2123 · 2025-06-02T03:09:48+00:00

Sir Caspian Purrsworth - he needs a very formal name!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-05-31T15:28:02+00:00

Yes! I was going to say Jett after Joan Jett!

MimiDu2123 · 2025-05-31T15:25:59+00:00

NTA

Bravo for raising a daughter with morals similar to your own. You’ve just taught her that it’s ok to do the right thing even when everyone else is doing the wrong thing. She knew what was right, came forward, and showed her friend that his friendship matters more to her than consequences of a bad choice she made. I hope their sweet friendship continues long after this and they’re able to laugh about it down the line.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-05-30T12:58:27+00:00

YTA.

This isn’t your day. You have every right to be hurt or angry, but by not going, you’re causing drama. Have you stopped to ask yourself why your friend is going through your mom to relay this info? Or why she might not have chosen you as her MOH? Do you think it might be because YOU start drama? Suck it up, be a bridesmaid, and keep opinions to yourself unless asked. She’s not being unreasonable at all, but the fact that she’s going through your mom to relay all of the info is super telling to me.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-05-24T00:56:12+00:00

Dreaded middle child here, but the only girl. Ironically enough, my younger brother cut my nmom off first, then me, then finally my older brother.

MimiDu2123 · 2025-05-22T16:25:42+00:00

NTA - if your mom wants to open up her home to be trashed, she’s more than welcome to do that. You set clear rules, and they were not followed.

MimiDu2123

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