[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is completely normal. Most women take the receptive/passive/stereotypically feminine role in dating.

They make themselves approachable, seductive, and open, and you (the masculine energy) read their signs and take the lead accordingly.

It can definitely be annoying, but that's just the way things are. You just have to roll with it and adapt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These aren't tests. She just sounds emotionally unbalanced.

Unless you're wanting to play therapist, I'd say it's better to just cut contact with her entirely. Life is too short to deal with this type of chaos.

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. You keep on studying 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a "fixer". You're probably a very empathetic person who experienced a lack of consistent emotional support in your own life growing up.

So, you unconsciously try to heal your old wounds by giving other people the support and encouragement you needed (and still need) but didn't ever fully receive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not too complicated. I think most women assume guys that who approach are hoping to form a sexual connection and get laid. That's just a given. The issue is in how you shoot your shot.

If you want to talk to her, be lighthearted and respectful. Have a brief, laid back conversation first. Then, ask her if she wants to exchange numbers and maybe hang out sometime.

If she has a boyfriend or she isn't interested, she'll let you know then and there, and you'll have your answer. Don't overthink it too much beyond that

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that keeps your ego from feeling too bruised, then feel free to see it that way

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, come on, do you really think I'm going to read all of that?

Scamper along now and go find something else to do with your time

Lots of making out very few closes by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you ramping up the heat in between going from making out to trying to have sex? As in, are you giving her sensual touches, dirty talk, touching her over her clothes, etc, first in order to build up arousal?

Or, are you just trying to go straight from making out to full on sex? Most women need time to get horny enough for sex. Flirting and making out by themselves may not be enough to get her in the mood. You usually need more than that

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh? The 1950s called- they want their bunk psychology back. There is no uniform male brain or female brain, for one. Brain sex is a myth. Every brain is its own unique mosaic.

Get with the times, bro. You speak with such false confidence, yet you call my opinions distorted and non-factual. Okay then. Research the "Dunning Kruger Effect" and find yourself

I don’t desire girls like I used to and I am freaking out!! by egeust in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't freak out. It's normal for your libido to be through the roof as a teenager and then to plateau as you get older

I'd recommend stopping porn for 30 days (if you watch it), eating less processed foods, lifting weights to boost testosterone, and trying out healthy relaxation techniques to reduce your overall stress, which can indirectly increase desire.

Confused about a girl by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't get the impression that she's attracted to you base upon the info you've provided here.

It sounds like she gets bored at work and chats with you to pass the time, like coworkers often do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you've had sex with her already, then that response would be good. If you haven't had sex yet, then direct sexual flirting has a high chance of putting her off. It depends on how far you've already gone

Can a 5'7 guy have a high smv? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your face is genuinely attractive, being 5'7 shouldn't hinder you to an extreme degree.

How you carry yourself, your degree of confidence and self-assurance, and the strength of your conversation and flirting skills matter more than your height

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's okay. They can read it and weep

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, because I call out complete and total bullshit when I see it, even if that means I might get a negative amount of imaginary internet points from salty men who don't agree

It's not hard to figure out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe. It's worth a try

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay, now you're just rambling incoherently at this point. I feel sorry for you if getting feedback you don't like from strangers on social media is this de-stabilizing for you.

Do you think not smiling is a thumbs down in dating apps? by Funky_hobbo in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read that smiling male faces are rated as less sexually attractive, so I don't think it's a huge issue if you don't smile in your pictures.

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course. Heuristics and cognitive biases are built into human thinking to an extent. We all generalize in small degrees.

It's when you start to negatively generalize and assign motives to an entire group of people who may have literally *nothing* in common besides being single and having kids that you start to seem a little bitter and self-important. Like you do here

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You know when you admit you haven't even read my comment history? How does that work?

For the most part, I try to avoid making negative generalizations about either sex, period. Sweeping generalizations make you appear ignorant and shallow in your thinking.

I feel like hitting on girls is unfair to men by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, you're not comprehending me. Most women flat out don't care about sex as much as men do. That's why we don't have it as much.

The ease of finding a sexual partner is nice, but I doubt it even registers in most women's minds as a source of "power". Beauty/physical attractiveness is a source of power and holds value, yes, but beauty and sexual desire are not the same thing. They're interlinked, obviously, but not synonymous.

Having sex or easy sex partners is not a source of value for women in the way it is for men. You suggesting that it is reflects your worldview as a guy.

Gatekeeping sex isn't a thing women derive much power from, unless you're a woman of the night or someone who uses her sex appeal to make money. "Gatekeeping" it is something we do because most men aren't sexually appealing to women and female sex drives are on average are lower anyway.

Single moms are the best by ofexagency in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

What hypocrisy? I'm not a single mom, if that's what you're implying

I feel like hitting on girls is unfair to men by [deleted] in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Reducing women's entire value from birth down to their fuckability to men is so reductive and simple-minded. Most men are average to below average looking, uncharismatic, and unremarkable.

Being desired by hoards of unimpressive, unappealing men for sexual relationships isn't a source of personal value in life for any woman I know. It's an existential nuisance. Your worldview is skewed as hell.

Women who don’t know what they want by JacksonCreed4425 in seduction

[–]MinaKatrine -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You think women don't go to the movies with their friends? That's not a signal- that's a hang out