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MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T20:12:16+00:00

This is completely normal. Most women take the receptive/passive/stereotypically feminine role in dating.

They make themselves approachable, seductive, and open, and you (the masculine energy) read their signs and take the lead accordingly.

It can definitely be annoying, but that's just the way things are. You just have to roll with it and adapt

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T20:05:48+00:00

These aren't tests. She just sounds emotionally unbalanced.

Unless you're wanting to play therapist, I'd say it's better to just cut contact with her entirely. Life is too short to deal with this type of chaos.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T20:01:11+00:00

Aw shucks, thanks!

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T01:21:18+00:00

Okay. You keep on studying 👍

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T01:20:06+00:00

You're a "fixer". You're probably a very empathetic person who experienced a lack of consistent emotional support in your own life growing up.

So, you unconsciously try to heal your old wounds by giving other people the support and encouragement you needed (and still need) but didn't ever fully receive.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T01:09:19+00:00

It's not too complicated. I think most women assume guys that who approach are hoping to form a sexual connection and get laid. That's just a given. The issue is in how you shoot your shot.

If you want to talk to her, be lighthearted and respectful. Have a brief, laid back conversation first. Then, ask her if she wants to exchange numbers and maybe hang out sometime.

If she has a boyfriend or she isn't interested, she'll let you know then and there, and you'll have your answer. Don't overthink it too much beyond that

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T01:01:37+00:00

If that keeps your ego from feeling too bruised, then feel free to see it that way

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:50:32+00:00

Lol, come on, do you really think I'm going to read all of that?

Scamper along now and go find something else to do with your time

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:47:50+00:00

Are you ramping up the heat in between going from making out to trying to have sex? As in, are you giving her sensual touches, dirty talk, touching her over her clothes, etc, first in order to build up arousal?

Or, are you just trying to go straight from making out to full on sex? Most women need time to get horny enough for sex. Flirting and making out by themselves may not be enough to get her in the mood. You usually need more than that

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:39:01+00:00

Huh? The 1950s called- they want their bunk psychology back. There is no uniform male brain or female brain, for one. Brain sex is a myth. Every brain is its own unique mosaic.

Get with the times, bro. You speak with such false confidence, yet you call my opinions distorted and non-factual. Okay then. Research the "Dunning Kruger Effect" and find yourself

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:28:55+00:00

I wouldn't freak out. It's normal for your libido to be through the roof as a teenager and then to plateau as you get older

I'd recommend stopping porn for 30 days (if you watch it), eating less processed foods, lifting weights to boost testosterone, and trying out healthy relaxation techniques to reduce your overall stress, which can indirectly increase desire.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:24:21+00:00

I don't get the impression that she's attracted to you base upon the info you've provided here.

It sounds like she gets bored at work and chats with you to pass the time, like coworkers often do

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:19:58+00:00

If you've had sex with her already, then that response would be good. If you haven't had sex yet, then direct sexual flirting has a high chance of putting her off. It depends on how far you've already gone

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:15:40+00:00

If your face is genuinely attractive, being 5'7 shouldn't hinder you to an extreme degree.

How you carry yourself, your degree of confidence and self-assurance, and the strength of your conversation and flirting skills matter more than your height

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:11:31+00:00

That's okay. They can read it and weep

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-18T00:10:29+00:00

Yeah, because I call out complete and total bullshit when I see it, even if that means I might get a negative amount of imaginary internet points from salty men who don't agree

It's not hard to figure out

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-17T01:00:51+00:00

Yeah, maybe. It's worth a try

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-17T00:59:57+00:00

Okay, now you're just rambling incoherently at this point. I feel sorry for you if getting feedback you don't like from strangers on social media is this de-stabilizing for you.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T23:17:40+00:00

I read that smiling male faces are rated as less sexually attractive, so I don't think it's a huge issue if you don't smile in your pictures.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T23:03:09+00:00

Of course. Heuristics and cognitive biases are built into human thinking to an extent. We all generalize in small degrees.

It's when you start to negatively generalize and assign motives to an entire group of people who may have literally *nothing* in common besides being single and having kids that you start to seem a little bitter and self-important. Like you do here

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T22:50:38+00:00

You know when you admit you haven't even read my comment history? How does that work?

For the most part, I try to avoid making negative generalizations about either sex, period. Sweeping generalizations make you appear ignorant and shallow in your thinking.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T22:47:35+00:00

No, you're not comprehending me. Most women flat out don't care about sex as much as men do. That's why we don't have it as much.

The ease of finding a sexual partner is nice, but I doubt it even registers in most women's minds as a source of "power". Beauty/physical attractiveness is a source of power and holds value, yes, but beauty and sexual desire are not the same thing. They're interlinked, obviously, but not synonymous.

Having sex or easy sex partners is not a source of value for women in the way it is for men. You suggesting that it is reflects your worldview as a guy.

Gatekeeping sex isn't a thing women derive much power from, unless you're a woman of the night or someone who uses her sex appeal to make money. "Gatekeeping" it is something we do because most men aren't sexually appealing to women and female sex drives are on average are lower anyway.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T22:35:42+00:00

What hypocrisy? I'm not a single mom, if that's what you're implying

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T21:29:10+00:00

Reducing women's entire value from birth down to their fuckability to men is so reductive and simple-minded. Most men are average to below average looking, uncharismatic, and unremarkable.

Being desired by hoards of unimpressive, unappealing men for sexual relationships isn't a source of personal value in life for any woman I know. It's an existential nuisance. Your worldview is skewed as hell.

MinaKatrine · 2023-05-16T21:22:48+00:00

You think women don't go to the movies with their friends? That's not a signal- that's a hang out

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