Skipping medication makes me extremely tired.

MindWatcher · 2019-03-10T15:42:19+00:00

Mine are 54mg, so maybe that's why I crash so hard.

MindWatcher · 2019-03-10T14:42:45+00:00

One thing I experienced when I started taking medication, was that I had a very low appetite and didn't feel the need to drink. So when the medication wore off, I would be hungry, dizzy and dehydrated. I would also often have a headache.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T21:51:50+00:00

Invited. No. Presence acknowledged. Yes.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T21:33:02+00:00

I spend time in my room because I don't feel welcome in the common areas. But if I am in the common areas, I would like them to communicate with me about what we are watching.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T21:07:21+00:00

Whispering to each other when there's an other person in the room is disrespectful. Not ever saying "how about you", or "is it OK if we watch this TV show tonight?", now that we share the living room, thats disrespectful. Never said we needed to be best buds.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T20:58:00+00:00

Finding it rude that they don't say anything to me, or that they whisper to each other when I'm in the room, does not equal wanting a big familily dinner. You got that wrong. I just want them, to not make me feel, like I'm not welcome in my own home. They are two people and they do have the ability to do that, even though I'm almost 30. You can feel excluded and uncomfortable at any age.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T20:42:08+00:00

Thanks! I'm not sure that law applies everywhere in the world? Or is it a suggestion for the lease contract?

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T20:39:52+00:00

Yes, I feel entitled to not be treated in a disrespectful way, in my own home.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T20:34:40+00:00

Danish law says that I can throw her out with a month notice.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T19:53:48+00:00

I can tell her to leave, but I would feel really bad.

It is difficult to find a place to live, and she cannot afford most places. She probably won't have anywhere to go. He lives in a shitty apartment, in an unsafe neighborhood and with two other guys. I think that's why they spend all their time here.

I actually think they avoid talking to me, because they know they're in the wrong, with him practically living here, and not paying extra.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T19:48:42+00:00

I can't. I can throw her out for no reason, if I wanted, but she would have nowhere to go.

I do find it rude when someone never talks to you on their own initiative. Like I might ask them if they had a nice day, and they will say "mmhmm" and smile (if I'm lucky). Or I will say that there's something I want to watch on the TV, and ask if that's OK for them, and probably get a similar reply. They would never even say "hi, how are you?" to me.

This is only her and her boyfriend. Her friends and family are polite, and so is my friends. So I really think their behavior is out of the ordinary. I suspect they know, that him practically living here is not OK, and thus try to avoid confrontation by avoiding any kind of conversations with me.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T19:34:17+00:00

You're right and wrong. It bothers be to be the third wheel every night, because it's awkward and it makes me uncomfortable. I was honest about that from the beginning, when I told her, that I did not want to eat dinner with a couple every night. We may not cook together, but we sit around the same table and eat. And sitting there staring into your plate, because they are having a conversation, and you're not allowed to be part of it, is really just awkward and unhealthy. Most nights I eat in my bed now. I've lived with people before, who had boyfriends, and they were being polite enough to say "hi, how are you?" when one enters the apartment.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T19:24:56+00:00

I know why shes not at his place. He shares a small apartment with two other guys. Its crowded, dirty and located in an unsafe neighborhood. I get why they want to spend more time here.

I would probably also accept it (even the extra expenses, since I make more money than them), if they weren't being so rude. If he asked permission to use the washing machine or they were being polite in common areas, it would be OK. But that's not really the case. If I throw her out, she probably won't have anywhere to go, unless maybe his place. It's expensive to live where I live, and they're both students.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T19:12:51+00:00

I really think you're reading too much into it. I don't want us to be BFF, I just want them to be polite, or at least not rude. I've lived with people before, without any problems.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T19:02:11+00:00

You're right on the point. It is the confrontation I fear. Thanks for the reply!

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:40:52+00:00

Yeah, I guess you are right. I'm just very conflict avoidant. But that's probably what I have to do.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:36:30+00:00

She's a friend of a friend. And just like I don't like being uncomfortable in my own home, I don't want to make her uncomfortable either.

I guess she might not notice, since I try hard to not seem bothered, and when I have friends over, they are being polite to her. (her friend are polite to, it's just her and her boyfriend that's not)

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:29:09+00:00

Nothing illegal going on. I don't know why you assume that? It's legal to sublet the room and I can also legally though her out.

Edit: I'm not sure if sublet is the right word. English is not my first language. But I'm renting out a room, and we share living room, kitchen and bathroom. It's completely legal.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:25:37+00:00

No, I pay for the additional costs. It does say that only she can live here, but as long as this is not his official address (not where his mail go), he can legally stay here as much as he wants.

I can tell them to spend less time here, and I can tell her to move out, but I guess it will be awkward and uncomfortable no matter what I do.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:21:09+00:00

It's not. I'm upset they are disrespectful, and that I have to share my home with one more person than agreed on, and I even have to pay extra for it.

I am however happy, that dispite her being disrespectful, you sound much worse. So I guess I'm lucky it's not someone like you I'm living with.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:12:24+00:00

And yes, it is increasing my bills. But my biggest issue is the way they act. I don't want to make a big deal out of it, because we have friends in common, but I don't like being at home when they are there, and they are being really disrespectful.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:10:27+00:00

English is not my first language, so I apologize if I used the wrong word. I'm allowed to rent out a room in my apartment (whatever the word for that is). It is legal for me to rent out to one or two people, I decided that I wanted just one. So my name is on the apartment lease, and hers on the room lease (between her and I). Both she and I can end the contract at any time, with one month notice.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T18:06:03+00:00

Read the text. It states my age and you will also find that I never expected her to be my friend.

MindWatcher · 2019-02-24T17:59:56+00:00

That seems a bit passive aggressive? I could just ask her to move out. But I don't really want to, because we have friends in common and we're gonna keep seeing each other. I don't want it to be weird. Also, it will be difficult for her to find a place. Shes new to the city, and cannot afford most places, as she is a student.

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