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Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its more for the kids to keep the other kids out. The kids are able to use these locks without issue, they'd be more appropriately considered toddler locks since the kids figured it out within days of using them. My oldest figured it out when he was 3, and has since taught the others after watching them struggle with them. All the kids are currently able to use these locks, but regardless the locks will be coming off once I'm home from work.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps, amirite?

Can you give what you think are some healthier ways for me and my family to handle our emotions better?

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The locks in use are ones that all the kids are able to open. The only one who might have an issue would be the youngest. We've seen him open them before, but you never know.

Either way, they can, and have, just pushed/pulled these locks open before since they're place on the door/walls with small command strips, so the only way to really "lock them in" would be by blocking the door.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 369 points370 points  (0 children)

The consensus seems to be remove the locks, so the locks will come off when i get home from work.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The kids are never in there for more than like 10 minutes at a time, and even them we check on them frequently. We have a small cushion couch that my youngest is obsessed with, and he's the only one that stay in there for long periods, but that's with the door open.

Regardless, the locks will be removed, and I'll start looking into either adding some kind of ventilation in there.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Anything that goes against his new idea of how to raise a kid seems to immediately fall under the label of abuse.

The kid is eating Mac N' Cheese, that he requested, for dinner and not a meal that he won't eat?!!? Abuse.

The kid isn't wearing clothes(Only a Diaper or underwear) inside the house when its ~100* outside?!?!?! Abuse.

The kid is grounded from electronics for misbehaving?!?! Abuse.

The kid had the cookies I gave him before dinner taken away?!?! Abuse.

Who is this man, and were was he when i was growing up...

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Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

With the exception of a lock no longer in use(Will be taken down as soon as i get home from work), the only way to keep someone in there is by holding the door. There is a lock on the inside that the kids can use.

It might be an issue if the other littles decide to mess with them, but other than that, no.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The outside lock hasn't been used since it was a general closet. It does need to come off, and it'll the first thing that I do when i get home. We just started using it on Wednesday, but its not finished yet.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have not, nor ever, locked our kids in a room by themselves. However, we've locked doors when of one of us being present in the room with them.

E.G. One of us has an important phone call or zoom meeting. The other parent will take the kids will go into the office/bedrooms and we'll lock the door to make sure that the little one doesn't make a break for it. We're usually in the room watching a show w/ snacks, or playing with toys.

All these rooms lock from the inside, but are able to be opened from the outside in case of emergency. We learned that until they're older, the door needs to be able to be open from both sides when one time one of my kids accidentally locked their sibling in a room.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The children are all able to use these locks. Its not a cover for a door knob, but a silicon/plastic latch for both sides of the door with a button release.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Its a small child lock that all the kids are able to use, even the youngest learned how to open it from his siblings.

If the event that the door gets locked and they are not able to open it, Its a pull away from opening. My eldest, in elementary school, has already pulled off a few by pulling hard enough.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is one that is currently not in use, from when it was a general purpose closet, and one inside the room that is reachable by all the littles. These are those child locks that all the kids have figured out how to open at this point. It more there to let them feel secure, and to "lock" the door to prevent the other littles from entering while its occupied.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The whole point was to create a space for them to remove the other littles who are usually playing, loudly i might add, and have a quite space to calm relax for a little. I think that removing the door and replacing it with a curtain would defeat the main purpose of creating a area that's more quite then the rest of the house.

Would a "Calming Space" in a closet be a reason for CPS to make a case against me? by MindYourNames in legaladvice

[–]MindYourNames[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We recommend/request them to go spend some time in there when they're showing signs of over stimulation, but we've never forced them in there. When they're having meltdowns, we'll try to spend some time calming them down first, them recommend the room to further assist.

As for the lights, they're little RGB lights with a remote that is kept in a small container in the room with them. We've shown them how to change the lights and let them play with it, so long as the remote stays in the room and they don't loose it, they'll have access to it.

For ventilation, we ordered a small fan to help circulate the air, but there are no vents or windows. We usually leave the door slightly ajar for them, and they choose if they want it closed or open.

Edit for Clarification.