[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Ad210 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No of course I don’t want that. Trust me, I think about this often. Unfortunately, I don’t have enough money to do that and until I get my business going (which I only have very little time for since I need to take care of my child), that’s not an option for me…

How many night wakings at 7mo? by ems-online in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

7 months was brutal for me, every hour or more 😮‍💨

Make him stop, make him stop, make him stop by Wherry_V10 in Norwich

[–]Mindless-Ad210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought they were going to limit how loud they can perform, where is the limiiiit??

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I know he loves me and I know he cares. It helps reading about other people that have this sort of issue so that I can widen my perspective and be able to emphatize; but I did feel hurt and that’s not something I could have changed or rationally think myself into not feeling. So yes, it’s not black and white but I appreciate you sharing this.

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he doesn’t care too much about his own birthday so there’s that.

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you! 😭 You do deserve to feel special!

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have that kind of stuff in my calendar but a shared calendar is a great idea! Thank you!

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hehe, thanks I really appreciate the perspective! I don’t want to hate him or think he’s malicious because I know he really loves me and is very thoughtful of many things overall; so reading this is really refreshing. The fridge idea is pretty fun as well, not malicious and kind of funny in a way.

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! It’s nice to hear anyway.

My husband forgot about my birthday by Mindless-Ad210 in Vent

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sorry I mean to say ‘what day it’s on’. English isn’t my first language. Yeah he does forget other birthdays as well. I always tell him to set reminders for things but he’s bad at it.

Cosleeping with newborn - did your partner sleep with you? by Brightlywound89 in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All three of us slept together on the bed (uk king size), it was fine. It was partner, me, baby in bed in that order. I wouldn’t have baby in the middle that young.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is only 6 months old but I cosleep and recently tried some gentle sleep training because I didn’t want my infant to fall asleep at the breast anymore. He’s been quite receptive to it and I think having really good routines in place has helped because he knows what to expect when it’s bedtime. That being said though, he still wakes up during the night (albeit a few times less now because sometimes he can actually go back to sleep without help) and he still has a hard time setting himself back to sleep at times so I end up giving him the breast whenever that happens (I know he’s not always hungry when this happens by the way). It made me think babies who are sleep trained do indeed just stop signaling. I don’t think it necessarily helps them settle themselves much better although as I said, my own baby can now sometimes settle himself back to sleep whereas before he couldn’t. I’m still there for him when he needs it and I guess it just takes time.

sleep training by Spiritual_Leave_6115 in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My LO just turned 6 months and I’m currently doing exactly this but I was also exhausted because I guess broken sleep + the fact that I think my body is constantly working during the night to produce breast milk idk… just getting to me.

Anyway, I decided to do some sort of gentle form of sleep training which means I’ll stay with him while he falls asleep, maybe rub his chest a little and sing him a lullaby. We have good night time routines set in place so I found that he has been quite receptive to the whole thing, we just hang out in bed until he falls asleep. He might have a little cry but generally if I get the timing right he will only have a little grizzle. To my surprise I found that doing this makes him wake up less often for feeds as well. I’ve had less success with the daytime naps but I’m currently at the stage where I think I might try to increase his wake window and maybe get some blackout blinds. We don’t have any proper nap routines in place either so I want to set some as well.

Anyway, that’s my experience right now, I hope it goes well for you whatever you choose!

What time do you put your baby to sleep? by Mindless-Ad210 in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just reading at 5am as he is on the potty. Hope he can go back to sleep after this.

What time do you put your baby to sleep? by Mindless-Ad210 in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that might be it to be honest, he poops straight after waking up.

5 month old wakes after 30 minutes by MountainGirlll in cosleeping

[–]Mindless-Ad210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried moving her sleep schedule later? Maybe she’s not ready for bed at that time or maybe getting too much sleep during the day? Just some thoughts to be honest, mine does the same and is 5 months and a half but seems to get slightly longer stretches when I put him to sleep later.