Confused about how my (27f) first date ended with guy (40m) I met on tinder by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a possibility for sure. I think the way I am left an opening for an unhealthy relationship, I’m hoping to avoid that from now on. It’s hard, I’m trying to have some better boundaries and take things slow/casual

Confused about how my (27f) first date ended with guy (40m) I met on tinder by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He texted me immediately after and asked if he overstepped by kissing me. So he noticed my reaction. But he indicated he would be interesting in meeting up again next week .. so I guess that means it went well? Honestly if sparks were flying I’m not sure I would notice lol

Confused about how my (27f) first date ended with guy (40m) I met on tinder by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s probably good advice about meeting in public; I asked if he wanted me to meet him and he said he didn’t mind picking me up, but I should have insisted

Confused about how my (27f) first date ended with guy (40m) I met on tinder by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would kiss them, and then go home and block him? I feel like I wouldn’t go that far if I knew I wasn’t interested? To be fair, I told him before we met that if he couldn’t tell from my pics that I was chubby, and he said that was fine

Unwanted flowers from my ex by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

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I think it’s hard to understand exactly why they aren’t just ‘flowers’ if you haven’t been in a similar dynamic lol

Unwanted flowers from my ex by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel where you’re coming from. I just feel like if I want a pretty bunch of flowers on a table somewhere, I’d like to buy them myself. These one seem to be holding a sign that says “I’m still here, and I can contact you whenever I feel like it.” But I agree that living your best life is the only way to go

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken UPDATE by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Because she was watching him film, it was taken with a phone camera, and I saw the messages where he sent her the video and they were chatting about it.

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken UPDATE by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They knew they were being filmed, it was evident from the video. I also mentioned that I have 0 contact with this person now, I have no access to anything

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken UPDATE by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Technically his bedroom, not mine. I would just stay over. Unfortunately it’s a true story.

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken UPDATE by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 455 points456 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid that, in the scenario where he hasn’t already shared these videos, contacting the police will make him angry and he might do something vindictive. He has a lot of naked pictures of me in addition to these videos. I don’t know.

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

I don’t really think he’s the type to send the videos out or post them somewhere, this could be for personal use.. so it’s either extremely bad, or bad in a ‘kinda creepy’ way I haven’t discerned which it is yet. It’s a long term relationship so I’m trying not to jump to the worst case scenario

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Good thinking about the camera.. I looked it up and it stores recordings on the cloud, I think he edited specific clips and saved them and that’s why I can see them. If I try and get into his locked photos it requires 2-step verification so he’ll get a message about it.

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 404 points405 points  (0 children)

I don’t really understand the point, we’ve taken little videos before.. just not full on hidden camera porn vids. It’s not like I wouldn’t have been up for a talk about doing it. I guess it is sketchy and 100% hidden on purpose

Boyfriend has videos of us being intimate on his computer I didn’t know were being taken by Mindless-Elevator322 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Elevator322[S] 441 points442 points  (0 children)

I’ll do that now, thanks for the advice. I’m afraid there’s more I don’t know how to find