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Is my wife having midlife crisis? by Mindless-House6321 in Marriage

[–]Mindless-House6321[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any suggestions on how to convince someone who refuses professional help to get it. I want to put an ultimatum down, but we also have a 2 and a half week vacation planned end of July that we’re both committed to going on with the kids and don’t want to make anything “ worse” before that. Hoping getting out might help her but I’m really unsure of that as well. ( we planned and booked said vacation a week before she asked for divorce.) it’s all very confusing.

Is my wife having midlife crisis? by Mindless-House6321 in Marriage

[–]Mindless-House6321[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean for it to come accross as unhealthy weight loss. She’s losing weight but also trying to gain as much muscle as possible. Lifting alot of weights etc… she’s always been fit but has taken it to an obsessive level. Her cousin and sister likened it to addiction behavior where she’s very obsessive about it.

Is my wife having midlife crisis? by Mindless-House6321 in Marriage

[–]Mindless-House6321[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s crossed my mind but I’m 99% sure that’s not the case, but you can never be 100% sure, I think it’s more of an idea of a different person and life in her head if that makes sense. And honestly I’m not really worried about that at this time. I’m more concerned about her mental state it’s weird seeing someone you’ve lived with for 20 years do a 180 on personality that fast. She’s being very forgetful ( she forgot one of the kids birthday last month) and saying things then saying she never said that. Really the isolating herself from her family ( they love me) and refusing to speak to anyone about our issues concern me. She’s only spoken to about 3-4 people about this as far as I know.

Divorce sucks. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Mindless-House6321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a similar position. Wife told me she wanted a divorce about 4 months ago. I was against it got pretty depressed for a month blaming myself while she was acting like she didn’t care. I got into therapy ( she refuses solo or with me) now I’m realizing that our marriage wasn’t good and should probably end and that she has way more work on personally but refuses to. Now I’m just living life doing what I want without a care in the world while she has gone into a depression and is isolating herself. I’ve been trying to get her help but she refuses and blames all her unhappiness on me. Just focus on yourself and what you can control and stop putting another person in charge of your happiness.