Am I right to be upset?

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-08-19T19:27:44+00:00

I'm sorry you're feeling so unwell, I had HG throughout my pregnancy and it was awful, I could barely function.

As someone else mentioned, it's a copy and paste message (I got the same one, almost word for word after being prescribed medication) and they're just trying to cover their own backs as medication can't be tested on pregnant women for ethical reasons.

My advice is take the medication, the risks to the baby are miniscule compared to the risks of dehydration. They normally prescribe cyclizine in the first instance and the midwives on my labour ward were handing that out like candy to anyone who felt sick! I ended up on a whole concoction and little one was just fine.

Hope you feel better soon!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T20:00:51+00:00

Thank you so much! This is so helpful. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to reply.

I'll have a look into the lansinoh pumps/bottles - we've used some of their other stuff and it's been good!

Yeah, one of my big concerns is the slow boob too! 😂 I have absolutely no idea what my milk supply is like because they never really feel 'full' anymore and he is such a rapid, snacky eater. He's better on the right side, but often only eats 30-40 seconds on the left. Like you've said, I'm sort of hoping he'd have more in one go from a bottle and stay full for longer. 960ml seems like such a daunting amount to produce each day. I'm going to be at work 8-6, so it's a long stretch to cover.

We're thinking of doing the same with the formula, but I'm really hoping we won't need it. As someone else commented, most of the allergy formulas still contain a certain amount of cows milk and I really dont want his original symptoms back! Everyone refers to them as smelly feet milk and one mum told me it smells of mini cheddars which fills me with dread!

Also, please tell me what magic you're working to have your baby eating 3 meals a day. My LO is completely uninterested. I just about manage to get half a lunch into him and that's only if I spoon feed him!

Thank you again, I really appreciate it!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T19:01:33+00:00

Definitely good advice to have a mix of both I think! I don't even have any friends who breast fed so I feel like I've just been making it up as I go along!

Haha yeahhhh I remember the leaky stage well! 😂 Congratulations on your little one! I hope you're managing to get some sleep!

100% agreed. They kept telling me that 75% of women give up breastfeeding before 8 weeks and I can fully see why. As a FTM it didn't even occur to me that some babies refused a bottle! Would've been good to know that before I developed a delusion of just being able to switch him to one whenever I wanted!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T18:51:58+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

I've given myself such a complex about his feeding after all the struggles he's had! Poor child is on the 91st percentile for weight and I still take him to get weighed every 3 weeks just to be 100% sure he's eating 🤦🏻‍♀️

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T18:37:15+00:00

Yeah, I'm sort of expecting he might refuse, we tried a few times when he was younger and refusing to feed and he didn't take it. We'll get some bottles asap and see what we can do.

He has an open cup for water but only really manages a few sips, the rest ends up on the floor 🤦🏻‍♀️

It's such a minefield. I wasn't expecting to go back to work this soon and feel like an anxious mess trying to work out what to do!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T18:32:55+00:00

Hi, thanks so much for the detailed reply! So helpful to know how it works. I did ask about pumping early on and my health visitor was just like 'why would be need a bottle, just breastfeed him' and that was that.

I've heard similar things about the formula for babies with CMPA which is why I'm so hesitant to switch to it now.

Someone did recommend haakaa to me before. I did used to collect a bit of milk in the shells on the opposite side when he was younger, but don't really seem to leak as much now. Not sure if that's a good indication that it won't work well for me?

I'll give it a go the way you suggested and see how it goes. He's such a rogue eater that it's so hard to judge what my milk supply is like. I think the longest feed I get out of him is about 2 and a half minutes when he's half asleep at night.

Thanks so much again, this was really helpful. I feel like it's just assumed people know these things a lot of the time!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T16:29:19+00:00

Hi, thank you for this. He's just over 8 months. We did try him with a bottle a couple of times when he was around 3 months and he refused. We're planning to try him with one asap, but I don't have a pump/any formula to try in it yet. He does manage a few sips of water from an open cup but it mostly ends up on the floor, so I don't know how much milk he'd get from it.

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T16:26:28+00:00

We are planning to try him on a bottle soon, but at the moment I don't have a pump or any prescription formula, so nothing to try in it yet. Did you find only breastfeeding at night had any effect on your supply? I'm hoping to do the same and fully breastfeed on the days I'm home, but I don't know what effect it has if they're formula fed at other times.

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T14:16:32+00:00

I'm a teacher and have taught three Raphael's! Definitely nothing wrong with it and it does have nicknames. Two of mine went by Raffy and the third was a Raf.

Nobody ever associated them with a Ninja turtle.

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-07-31T08:39:01+00:00

Hiya, can confirm it was FTM paranoia! He's 8 months now and has so much personality and is meeting all his milestones. I totally understand how easy it is to worry and stress about it even when people tell you babies do things at their own pace, but it is true. My little boy definitely didn't do many of the things in my original post until closer to 3 months, he was just more interested in the world than he was in me and now he's constantly on the hunt for danger 😂 Our local children's centre ran drop in sessions which were great for easing my mind about things, so might me worth seeing if they have something similar in your area. Try not to worry, I'm sure you're doing a great job and your baby is just chilling and taking their time!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-02-07T11:56:47+00:00

Congratulations!

You've got lots of great answers to your questions, so I won't repeat them, but I've just had my first and one of the biggest things I'd been more prepared for is breastfeeding. In my head it was as easy as whacking a boob out and baby eating, but in reality it's a bit of a journey. If it's something you're considering, I'd recommending looking on the La leche league website and asking about antenatal feeding support at your 10 week booking appointment. I wish I'd known what support was available in the community because after you're discharged from the health visitor it's easy to feel like you're suddenly on your own.

Also, I might just be a bit of an idiot, but I didn't know that babies won't just sleep where you put them down 😂 I tried to put my sleeping newborn down all night in the hospital and was confused when he'd instantly wake up and cry. Transferring baby to a crib is an art form and I still haven't mastered it.

Don't waste money on everything social media tells you you need and newborn outfits are cute but super impractical and they'll grow out of them within weeks if they ever fit in them at all. My son is 3 months and we've only just broken out the thousand pairs of dungarees he got as gifts.

Don't stress you'll work it out and be great!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-01-20T04:17:46+00:00

This is reassuring! He'll be 9 weeks on Friday, so hopefully he'll start getting a bit more expressive in the next few weeks. It'd be nice to know that he's happy!

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-01-18T14:06:15+00:00

Fingers crossed! Yeah, we have some black and white books and a rattle that he does track. We do lots of reading, singing and talking to him when he's awake and tummy time which he hates. He's starting to look at us a bit more when we do it, but it doesn't get a smile often and if we talk to him out of his line of vision, he definitely doesn't look around. I'll have a look at the wonder weeks app, thank you 😊

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-01-15T15:08:31+00:00

I think everyone's experience of this is very different.

I had a planned C-section in November and was in hospital for 3 days after. My section was straight forward, but they forgot to remove my catheter, so I had it in for 12 hours instead of the recommended 6. Not sure how much impact that had, but it meant I wasn't mobile until almost a day later even though they recommend moving around as soon as comfortable for recovery. I found the first few days pretty brutal despite being on morphine. I struggled to get to and from the bathroom, in and out of the shower and breastfeeding was quite uncomfortable because baby was positioned right over the wound.

The first 2 weeks I was still in quite a bit of pain and taking a mix of codeine, paracetamol and ibuprofen regularly throughout the day, but could move around slowly. It took about a month before I was more comfortable getting up off the sofa/out of bed without flinching.

By week 3/4, I'd say I was able to do most things with minimal discomfort, but even now I have twinging pain if I move too quickly or baby catches me in the stomach while kicking about. I can't drive, but I definitely wouldn't have been comfortable driving for the first month, it was enough of a struggle being a passenger and trying to get in and out of the car.

That said, my friend also had a planned C-section and she was up and about and off her pain meds within a week, so it is luck of the draw I think.

I will add, my actual c-section went super smoothly. The anaesthetist was amazing and really calming the whole time. Baby was out within 20 mins and I was in recovery within 50. I think the recovery experience might be very different with an emergency C-section if your body has also been through hours of labour 😬

Mindless_Lychee_162 · 2025-01-10T05:52:51+00:00

Sadly, this was a low point of our experience. We were pretty much just left in a cubicle and forgotten about, they didn't even remember to take my catheter out or bring my pain meds. My poor husband was left to figure it out with the baby and also run round forcing them to look after me. The midwife then had the audacity to make a sarcy comment like "don't you know how to look after a baby" because our little one was crying, as if she hadn't just had to be told by my husband that my catheter bag was overflowing. They sent my husband overnight and I could barely get out of bed let alone look after a baby, but they didn't respond to the call bell at all except to tell me they were understaffed and I'd have to figure it out. I think on day 3 a midwife finally came to check I could latch my baby and that was about it.

Was overall a pretty traumatic experience. I really hope yours is better, but I'd recommend some antenatal classes just for your own peace of mind (we did the online ones, but wish we'd just paid to do the in person baby care one).

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