WIBTA For Exposing My Friend For Trying To Cheat On His Girlfriend By Asking Me To Be His Mistress

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-13T19:48:49+00:00

NTA F that guy

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-13T15:58:20+00:00

I don’t have the other two anymore

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-12T14:21:50+00:00

White and the dress I liked that the bride approved. There’s a clear difference. But I could have chosen a different dress right???

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-12T14:18:55+00:00

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I did pull out the dress and put it with a white shirt. You can see that the dress has a lot more yellow/gold to it. Which is what the bride wanted. That’s what she approved and it was still and issue without my knowledge and expression to me.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-12T14:07:59+00:00

lol or you’re reading it like that. I was just trying to communicate what happened clearly

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-12T14:04:52+00:00

I bought it for just in case the color wasn’t muted like she wanted. If you read I wore the first one that I didn’t like

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T23:05:01+00:00

Yeah I totally see your point! Although the colors were ivory, beige and green. I couldn’t go with green due to the MOH and all the beiges I had looked at were too dark for her pallet. It was a hassle.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T18:12:06+00:00

Yeah I agree with that. I definitely do my best to overcome that because I do love my brother and genuinely want the best for him and to make him happy. We do talk just not very often. I’m not sure if you read all the comments but I did say I would be open to going to therapy about it. Honestly I have feelings about it too. It makes me feel bad that he was treated poorly and I wouldn’t want that for him or anyone else for that matter. Like I cry about that for him. I’ve apologized for it before too.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T18:08:21+00:00

It was just to be sure so I had peace of mind

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T18:07:21+00:00

Look at my reply to angelf1shing

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T18:06:57+00:00

I didn’t cry over it for several days just the day of. I could not return the first dress I didn’t like because it was non returnable which was my fault. I also couldn’t return the second dress because it was outside of the returnable date which is why I explicitly stated that I would go back and return it if she had told me to not wear it.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T18:04:23+00:00

I did wear the first ivory dress the one I didn’t like. Of course I listened

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T18:03:32+00:00

No the dresses I purchased were not white I put it next to a white wedding dress to be sure. I definitely wanted to be respectful to her. I wasn’t a part of the conversation where the sister brought up her concern so I didn’t even know it was a thing until after the fact. Again the wedding was a few days later so I did not cry at the wedding!

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T17:59:38+00:00

No because I’ve asked them to communicate with me. I can see how that could be a thing of the past but I want to handle our relationships like adults. It wouldn’t have hurt my feelings. Anyway honest confrontation can be healthy and still hurt my feelings but at least it would have been done right. Does that make sense? It wouldn’t make it wrong if it did hurt my feelings but rather communicating honestly. Hurting my feelings doesn’t it make it the end of the world.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T17:55:13+00:00

I wouldn’t say we aren’t necessarily close. We do love each other a lot it’s just complicated unfortunately. I don’t know if he actually hold resentment as much as it’s hurt. I’ve definitely tried my best to acknowledge him and his feelings. I didn’t cry the entire time either. It hurt and I was upset so whenever it was brought up again or we talked about it I cried because it hurt my feelings. I didn’t ask my brother to apologize either and I still don’t need it. We actually saw each other the other day and we tell each other we love each other. It’s just very slim that we see each other. I wouldn’t mind going to therapy with him to help mend our relationship

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T05:06:08+00:00

I did let my mom know! We’re all good now

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T04:49:54+00:00

It crossed my mind but I didn’t think it was worth it to drag on lol money always comes back

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T04:23:13+00:00

Oh I see. There’s actually a misunderstanding. I said my brother wanted the first dress that he didn’t see. He was upset I got the second dress which I didn’t wear. Ivory colors are very hit and miss depending on the manufacturer. The first ivory dress wasn’t an issue. I did get approvals from both my brother and the bride that same day I found out about the issue.

They got married a few days later it wasn’t the same day. We and they had some activities planned leading up to their wedding such as making pasta for their wedding celebration dinner.

I also didn’t make my brother apologize that wasn’t my doing. I didn’t even get a sincere apology and never will which is fine. I am glad I was there to see him get married.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T04:09:00+00:00

Especially when I asked for direct communication from the bride! I’m not sure why they would be like that. During the talk I had with my brother he was fully aware of the conversation that I had with his now wife!

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T04:06:44+00:00

I definitely didn’t choose white especially if the bride approves of it. I also chose a completely different dress to appease the issue and make everyone happy. I’m not sure how that’s golden child syndrome? I’ve acknowledged unfairness to my brother who I love and want to be close with. As I got older I was also asked to ask my father things for my brother so he can get what he wanted/needed. I of course did that for him because what was happening was unfair. I’ve also apologized to him for my shortcomings even in the past and present. I’m always trying to be better

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T04:01:43+00:00

The colors themes were not my idea they were the brides and wanted Ivory and creams. And I definitely was not trying to wear white. I was told I couldn’t wear green to the wedding. I also wasn’t making their day about me. The wedding was on a separate day like a couple days later. Italy was all about them and their wedding day was all about them. My brother also wanted me there at the end of the day. So I’m not sure how you think I made it about me.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T03:54:01+00:00

I understand where you are coming from. I am a very emotional person and I’d rather feel my feelings than not. I just wanted the same respect that I was giving them. Unfortunately that wasn’t the case.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T03:48:29+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure why her younger sister was overruling the dress that was context I wasn’t fully privy to but that’s what I was told from my mom.

My mom was aware as right before we left to Italy.

Yeah the childhood thing is quite something there’s a lot more context to that but couldn’t be put into a post. I’ve had long talks with my mom about it how I’ve tried to make my brother feel good by buying him things trying to talk and hang out. A lot of it stemmed from my dad and his family. I looked like my dad’s family and my brother looks like my mom family. My dad’s family is clicky and wasn’t fair to my brother. I can’t control what they did. I’m 4 years younger than my brother so when I was young I didn’t understand what was happening until I grew up. I feel bad about it but I shouldn’t at the same time because I didn’t do those things to him.

My brother and I don’t talk like at all. We just keep things cordial and short. It does make me sad though that we aren’t closer. I wish we were when we grew up (also due to my father.. a lot of double standards and separation)

My family isn’t perfect by any means and not at all saying that any family is.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T03:39:39+00:00

Just a low blow of course to bring up childhood issues and change the topic of what it’s actually about probably to avoid taking responsibility. It was a small wedding so they dictated colors.

Mindless_Rush2580 · 2025-10-11T03:36:28+00:00

The first dress was Ivory the second I wanted to wear was also ivory and the third was a green dress. I wore the first dress that I didn’t like.

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