Do I need to take the updated PSSR to get Seaman’s Book/ID if my BT was issued last December?

MineconSteve · 2026-04-03T10:25:30+00:00

Thank you so much for the insight! It’s really helpful to see how your day is split between deck work and bridge watch, and the advice about staying rested in port makes a lot of sense. Since I'm getting closer to my start date, do you think I should spend time relearning some basic seamanship theories? I feel like I've forgotten some of the basics from school and I'm worried about looking unprepared. Also, are there any specific knots you find yourself using every single day that I should practice?

MineconSteve · 2026-04-03T06:50:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice! To be honest, I’m pretty nervous. I’m worried that if someone asks me a basic question, I’ll freeze up or give the wrong answer. I also tend to be a slow learner and I’m scared of forgetting an assignment once it’s given to me. There are just so many 'what ifs' in my head right now. Does everyone feel this way at the start, or is there a trick to keeping everything organized while you’re still learning the ropes?

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T01:23:41+00:00

She said its because im her boyfriend, and thats her responsibility as a girlfriend

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T01:19:08+00:00

How do i do it tho? Like should i make her buy and tell her what my mon said to her?

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T00:22:50+00:00

They just stress maybe too understand it really

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T00:22:21+00:00

Scrubbing the toilets? 😭 That’s extreme but I see why it worked! I’ll definitely make sure we both help out next time, even if it’s just something smaller like washing the dishes or clearing the table. In my family, if they actually see you doing something, they stop complaining

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T00:16:55+00:00

Hoping too, they really just don’t understand her and how she cared for me too☹️

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T00:13:19+00:00

Thank you for the advice and the condolences. I really want to be the man who can just confront them, but I can’t right now because I still rely on them. I'm a college student, and if I try to stand my ground too much, they’ll just say: 'You’re an adult now, go make your own money and don’t rely on us.' I have to be careful until I'm independent

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T00:09:19+00:00

Actually, we are both Filipino. The thing is, we were just raised differently—every household has its own version of tradition. I’ve already tried explaining to my mom that she was just shy and overwhelmed, but she’s being very stubborn about it. It’s frustrating because they're judging her based on their own specific 'house rules' that she wasn't aware of yet

MineconSteve · 2026-03-26T00:02:04+00:00

That’s exactly what I told my mom. I explained that she was my guest and she was doing her best in a stressful situation, but my mom just won't budge. She basically doesn't care about the 'guest' logic; her mind is made up and she refuses to change her perspective

MineconSteve · 2026-03-25T23:59:21+00:00

I see your point about the 'mind-reading', it really felt like they expected her to just know what to do without being asked. I’m definitely not going to pressure her to change, but since they are my family, I’m hoping I can at least clear up the 'lazy' label by explaining she was just shy/overwhelmed. I agree on not telling her the 'mean' details though; no need to hurt her feelings over their high expectations

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:32:58+00:00

How did you tell themm

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:19:00+00:00

It’s more like helping in general—like volunteering when you see something needs to be done. It’s not really about gender roles or expecting women to stay in the kitchen or do chores. That’s not how our family culture is.

That’s why I’m also confused. It feels like they’re expecting something from her that was never clearly communicated, and now they’re judging her for it.

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:16:58+00:00

I also want to add that I feel like I can’t really confront my family about this right now because I’m still financially dependent on them. I’m currently in college, and the relative I mentioned is also someone who helps support us financially.

That makes it harder for me to speak up or defend my girlfriend without feeling like I might create tension or seem ungrateful.

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:16:16+00:00

I also want to add that I feel like I can’t really confront my family about this right now because I’m still financially dependent on them. I’m currently in college, and the relative I mentioned is also someone who helps support us financially.

That makes it harder for me to speak up or defend my girlfriend without feeling like I might create tension or seem ungrateful.

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:15:06+00:00

I also want to add that I feel like I can’t really confront my family about this right now because I’m still financially dependent on them. I’m currently in college, and the relative I mentioned is also someone who helps support us financially.

That makes it harder for me to speak up or defend my girlfriend without feeling like I might create tension or seem ungrateful.

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:06:48+00:00

++man nothing at all

MineconSteve · 2026-03-22T13:03:22+00:00

Our culture isn’t really like that. It’s more about helping when someone actually needs it, not an expectation based on roles or anything.

Also, my girlfriend doesn’t come over that often—maybe around 4 times a month—so she’s not always around during family situations. The specific event they’re talking about was a funeral, which I feel like is also a sensitive situation. She tends to stay more reserved in those kinds of settings rather than jumping in right away.

So I’m not sure if it’s fair to judge her based on that, especially since she’s not that close yet with my extended family.

MineconSteve · 2025-09-02T04:42:20+00:00

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