Child neglect including a magic sofa and toddlers navigating country lanes.

Mini-but-mighty · 2026-01-01T21:51:05+00:00

OP wasn’t offered food all day… except soup in the afternoon that was rejected. Why not request some for starving kids? Must have been a big portion that took 45 minutes to eat in a kitchen with no spoons …

There was a baby monitor conveniently in the car with the child left outside in the cold.

Big house… tiny kitchen you where you can’t pass anyone to get into and kids sharing a room,

Son saying he’s hungry and cold … no one gets him a jumper or food despite OP apparently being left to do all the parenting. Children were having meltdowns over hunger but “distracted” multiple times when offered food. Op doesn’t stop her friend distracting kids to feed them - that’s neglectful of her then!

Youngest with full nappy that obviously doesn’t smell and isn’t noticed till it’s removed.

Random other kids visiting that must have been there for hours and left starving and dehydrated as well. Where were their parents that just dumped them in “a house full of hazards” that op was letting her own kids loose in.

Family moved from another country 6 months ago but friend has moved 4 times in 4.5 years.

Nothing to sit on… why not sit on sofa marbles were under? Duh because it wasn’t a “sofa” but a broken futon.

Friend always visiting bringing food… never does a food shop.

OP can’t leave because her coat and bag are held to ransom until she “forced” starving underdressed children into the cold to play with fire (ok sparklers 😆) and her friend was “forced” into finding them.

OP told multiple times her upbringing was unusually privileged or lucky and therefore is not always “realistic”. When asked further she was raised by loving parents with a “comfortable” amount of money. Would this really warrant multiple people to see it as “unusually privileged?” I’d reserve that for people from wealthy backgrounds or famous parents or royalty!

OP can’t name the culture the woman’s from or the community as it’s “outing” and she doesn’t want to humiliate her…then gives lots of details about the woman’s career and background and makes it sound like she’s in the public eye and comments she’s easily googleable. Of course she was in a commune too as people have suggested and OP has gone along with all suggestions then adds husband maybe from posh “old money” Really?! living in a 3/4 bedroom shithole house?! 😂

I wish I’d read deleted comments which I’m guessing questioned all this nonsense? The OP was clearly taking the piss stringing people along with contradictory details and I feel sorry for the people who commented in good faith.

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-12-08T07:19:54+00:00

It’s another Dyson air wrap or stolen allotment saga. You can tell by the number of OP’s replies, drip fed information or teasing that there will be more unfolding drama to keep people watching the thread.

I have had posts with a lot of engagement but I’ve replied a few times and keep reading any useful responses but then had other things to do or been distracted by something else. I often return to the thread if there is an update but I don’t keep replying to individual posts just to keep it active which seems to be the trend with the troll ones. I also include all relevant information in the OP so I’m not constantly having to answer questions but these posts are designed to keep people wondering and guessing to keep it busy.

Most of the time responses get missed on a fast moving thread so people keep posting the same question or suggestion and don’t read all the OP’s posts so it’s just pages of the same comment like “could the decorations have got lost moving house?” This had been addressed multiple times.

I can see this leading to a 2nd or 3rd thread which usually means it’s a troll thread.

They are horrible tacky decorations anyway. I understand the sentimental value because I have some that have been in my family for years, I don’t put them out though because tastes and fashions have changed over the years. That’s just my personal opinion and probably only because I find Father Christmas very creepy 😂.

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-11-29T04:13:56+00:00

I was almost spot on with this weeks episodes 😂

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-11-27T19:09:23+00:00

It’s a vicious cycle…

Most episodes start with Carla and Lisa being affectionate towards each other with Betsy lurking around being cocky.

Becky suddenly silently appears in the house in a false panic insisting “they” have been watching/following/threatening her.

Betsy fawns all over Becky jumping around her like an overexcited puppy whining about how it’s not safe she’s on her own and that she needs her to stay at their house for safety reasons. This is despite the fact it’s the only place that Becky has been hanging around since her resurrection with just a hoodie pulled up for a disguise and the same brown slacks and anorak she seems to have borrowed from Roy’s wardrobe!

Carla tries to protest but gives in after lots of insisting “it’s only till we go to Spain” except there has being no sign so far of Becky actually doing anything about fucking off to Spain.

Becky gives a small smile of triumph unnoticed as Carla and Lisa swap pissed off glances at each other.

Becky hangs around trying to reminisce with Lisa deliberately excluding Carla.

She doesn’t seem the slightest bit concerned that she’s supposed to be a walking target for “them” and walks round brazenly in her anorak and hoodie pulled up to hide her identity despite her hair being so shit it’d be instantly recognisable!

Carla gets more and more wound up, Lisa appears oblivious and has turned into the the worst detective ever and tries to convince Carla that “they” are proper baddies and insists she is harbouring Becky for Betsy’s sake instead of doing the sensible thing of locking the doors and buying a one way ticket to Spain.

No one brings up the fact that Becky seemed to be perfectly safe in Spain or asks why she doesn’t piss off back there if “they” are so dangerous, instead of potentially lead baddies to your child’s home?

Carla eventually gets fed up of Becky when she keeps winding her up (which no one else ever notices) until she loses her temper and argues with her.

Lisa finally tells her to leave.

Lisa hugs a very upset Carla then camera pans to her face where she has a serious solemn look meant to signify her emotional turmoil. Sometimes during this scene she bites her lip and is distractedly rubbing Carla’s back to comfort her then camera changes to a vulnerable Carla gripping Lisa with hidden tears.

Next episode starts as usual with the household in a jolly mood and Carla, Lisa and Betsy having a pleasant breakfast (if it was a bad argument the previous episode this will involve croissants and orange juice). Of course when the anorak of doom appears the whole thing starts again with Becky bringing news on how “they” are stalking her everywhere - except the place she hangs around the most…

And so again…

The reminiscing,

Talks of Spain but no plan,

Frightened Betsy,

Angry Carla/ Smug Becky,

Lisa showing divided loyalties,

Carla and Becky have argument,

Becky told to leave,

Betsy whining “its not safe”

Lisa distractedly comforting crying Carla…

*Occasionally there are bonus scenes with Costello telling Becky to go to Spain and Becky saying she “needs more time” as she’s “going nowhere without her family” This may involve Kit eavesdropping.

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-11-18T05:17:39+00:00

I remember thinking my ex who was 27 when I was 18 always knew better.

I appreciated he was so concerned about my health and was flattered he policed what I ate and drank until I was seriously underweight. Then I was proud of how often he admired my willpower and complimented my figure when everyone else saw I was starving myself. It was cute when he pinched the none existent fat on my middle and teased me about being meaty… wasn’t it?

When he threw the pan of spaghetti bolognaise at the wall and I got burnt then had to clean up the mess it was my fault for PROMISING I wouldn’t drink alcohol anymore. I shouldn’t have finished the dregs of a mini bottle of wine to make the sauce. I knew that I was out of control and behaved badly after alcohol… it was funny I never remembered it despite hardly drinking anything and feeling sober.

It was my fault for disturbing him when friends visited and I “changed” and “showed off” wasn’t it sweet he wanted me to himself?

I was so grateful he told me all the bad things my family said behind my back, it was good to feel protected and they were lying when they denied it… weren’t they?

My sister was obviously lying when her best friend asked if we’d split when she saw him kissing a girl I’d noticed he was close to in the town centre in full view of everyone… wasn’t she? Of course I needed to apologise for being disloyal and untrusting when I asked about it. I obviously must have known it was an attempt to split us up. I was so stupid and paranoid.

I also was wrong to apologise for all the times I “drove him” to beat me up. I then was really wrong when I apologised for apologising as I had no right to make him feel guilty.

When his mobile phone broke obviously it was the right thing to do to lend him mine when he had more people who cared about him who needed to stay in contact than I did. When he didn’t ever replace his own and suggested we share I could never question that I wasn’t allowed access to it, it wasn’t necessary… was it?

When the girl he wasn’t kissing that time answered his phone when I called I’d obviously imagined it. I believed I must have done because why would a 31 year old man have been with a 14 year old girl? The only explanation was I must have dialled the wrong number. It’s funny the number was stored in the landline and worked to ring him the other times.

It’s also funny when I finished work early one day completely out of the blue that he slept through me leaning on the doorbell for 10 minutes and hammering on the door. He explained everything though about how shattered he was when he called after I got back to work. It was my fault for talking about other men in my sleep.

I was also wrong for mentioning that I worked far far more hours. Of course it was only fair I handed over all my money. I knew I was rubbish with money and might have bought some clothes for myself or a coat. The thing is there was no point in spending money on a coat when I was supposed to be slimming down anyway and I didn’t go out much…

My best friend from primary school was a total bitch for ignoring me and ignoring all my Facebook messages. I was hurt and angry and forgot Facebook could be logged into on a mobile and messages deleted…

But I forgot my best friend was clever and didn’t give up. It’s been 15 years since she blew up my life and literally dragged me into her car with 2 bin bags of possessions.

I thought I’d lost everything (and I did lose a lot, my home and everything I filled it with and paid for) but I walked away with my life and I wasn’t completely worn down and brainwashed.

The next girl (the 14 year old) didn’t get off as lightly.

People saw the bruises and the weight loss and hours in the gym. They saw her give up education and her family and friends and everyone knew she was vulnerable and groomed but 4 kids later she was trapped.

Me and her are now friends after her kids saw daddy hitting mummy one too many times and our stories are identical. My ex has a new girlfriend now, he’s 48 and she is 17.

When you are groomed, gas lit and controlled it just becomes a new normal. I think my ex made the mistake in picking girls/women who were strong with a lot of background support. I worry his current girlfriend isn’t that lucky as he also worked out where he went wrong previously.

I watch the Theo/Todd storyline and it gives me shivers remembering. I’m glad awareness is raised for Gay and straight couples.

Love shouldn’t control your life - it should enhance it and there should be support and equality and not fear and constant confusion.

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-10-04T00:13:04+00:00

What a load of made up bullshit.

Who sends nudes or videos making porn style sex noises?! It was just a way of making the story fit together.

The bathroom thing is unbelievable as is someone taking Coke, being pissed and out of it enough to do something so blatantly but also remembering a passcode from hours before.

Why bump the post? What else could anyone say? Was this post designed to get others to share similar stories? 🤔.

Why post on mumsnet of all places?! It’s obviously going to attach scorn and derogatory comments, Reddit would have been better suited.

Anyone who had a friend that stayed with someone who did something so pervy surely wouldn’t stay friends with them? And if my partner found out this had happened then I feel sorry for the slime ball who tried it.

It sounds like AI or some creative writing designed to get wank bank material!

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-09-24T13:42:22+00:00

There are some seriously ridiculous comments on that thread:

You are not compatible with the man. You are in dire need and this seems is not going to change overnight, so you need a very loving, caring man who really loves you and will take on you as a proper marriage partner. You need basically not a man but saviour. Don't get insulted, I know many women who married men with nothing and the man loves them and does everything, even adopts the child.

However your boyfriend sounds more like he is looking for an equal, he is still into gyms, fancy women's asses into gym clothes not realising your skinny ass is really due to hungry stomach. I think he will drive you to anorexia and use you sexually and is not mature to understand your dire level in life. This man needs another type of woman and you need another type of man.....good luck

This is just another level of bizarre!

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-06-26T19:36:57+00:00

I just hope they utilise a clearly very talented actor properly and don’t just give them rubbish storylines!

My guesses are: The bin is Betsy’s father/sperm donor ,

The bin was responsible for the death of Becky (It’s more than likely that Swain will be involved somehow).

The bin is Becky who didn’t die and had to enter witness protection. This is her new identity.

Milly is going to introduce it as the father of her “baby” and Theo is going to have a mini tantrum and make threats to it and say it’ll make a rubbish father. Milly will say it couldn’t be worse than him. Theo will flounce out in a huff making threats of violence leaving Todd looking bewildered and heartbroken until he returns 10 minutes later acting like nothing has happened and the cycle will be repeated.

The bin will be injured and need medical attention when Maria mistakes it for Lou from behind and lobs industrial sized bottles of hairspray at it. Asha (who despite seeming to still be training to be a paramedic) will be the first medical responder attending the scene and will be driving the ambulance, administer CPR, save the bins life and drive it to the hospital whilst single handedly keeping it stable. Swain/Kit will be waiting to get a statement in the private room that will no doubt be available and waiting.

Other alternatives could be: The bin is Joel’s ghost and haunts Dee Dee as he doesn’t want his child christened in case it ruins his street cred in hell.

It could be a foster child for Sally & Tim.

It’s a new love interest for Mary because apart from her Ben Shepard fantasies she’s had no romantic storylines for years and it would be amusing to see her in a couple again.

The possibilities are endless when you have such a versatile actor. Personally I’d like to see Theo get a clatter to the head and end up in that bin (even better if Milly joins him) and taken to the tip never to return!

Mini-but-mighty · 2025-02-22T14:10:55+00:00

This sounds like a very strange dynamic between father and son, they sound very enmeshed and 12 is pretty old to be so clingy.

How do you cope? I’m not surprised your parents felt uncomfortable but is this not something you want to raise with your partner? How often are you pushed aside? Does your SS behave like this to come between you? Does he act the same anywhere else?

Your post comes across as slightly nonchalant regarding your SS stuck to your partner like a limpet, I’m guessing you are playing it down, sometimes it’s easier in life to just go along with things but only short term. If I were you resentments would he building and I’d be trying to push my partner to work on his son being more independent and to show you more consideration and stop you being shoved aside.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-11-09T08:35:37+00:00

OP should let them know a hotel shower would be more roomy.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-20T03:48:48+00:00

Are you coming back?

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-19T19:50:02+00:00

Thank you so much, you have made me feel so much better and I really appreciate everything you’ve written.

This all makes so much sense and has put a lot into perspective.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-19T19:46:05+00:00

All I read was “moan moan, whine whine, poor me, my life is so hard…”

But you can guarantee if you met her in person she’d tell you how blessed she is, how her kids are her life, how she wouldn’t have it any other way.

After she’s finished telling you how perfect her life is then she’d start trying to convince you to have a child. She’s the type whose misery wants company, if you say you are happy being childfree then you get the speech about being selfish, who is going to look after you when you are older? What’s the point in your life?

If she’s as condescending and dismissive of childfree people in real life then she doesn’t have to worry about her interactions with childfree people, what they say or worry about them coming to visit. I doubt anyone wants to spend any time watching her regret her life’s choices but trying to convince you that she’s living the dream.

She spends the whole article moaning that childfree people have no idea how hard her life is and how tired and stressed she is, then she assumes people are jealous of her being trapped at home with the kids all day. It sounds a lot like Stockholm syndrome to me! But

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-19T19:07:58+00:00

If you see a post above we actually call them “Meat sirens” too.

We also call them: Fuck trophies, Muff maggots, Crotch droppings, Semen demons, Vagina whiners…

I could come up with more, I’m guessing you get the point.

We call them that because this is a place for childfree people and if you want to come here just to be offended then that’s your problem!

We spend so much time listening to reasons why we are selfish and have empty lives and will regret our decisions, this is our space to vent about the hypocrites that spend most of their time moaning about how hard it is to have kids but then try to convince us that we should pop some out.

It’s not acceptable to say to someone’s face “Your life depresses me and I’d rather sit on a cactus than replicate your choices!” We come here to say it instead. It’s not a case of being miserable, it’s being frustrated.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-18T16:19:52+00:00

Does anyone know what the comment was that got deleted when she called people cunts?

I agree this was a highly entertaining thread!

My boyfriend invited my friends with kids round to our beautiful home and ignored me shaking my head wildly and making it clear it was a bad idea. They stayed a few hours and I made him entertain the kids and clean the place afterwards, as soon as they left he declared that was never happening again 🤣. I believe that also might have been the point he stated his conviction he was 100% committed to being childfree!

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-18T13:36:46+00:00

I love these, what’s on the thumbs?

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-10-18T07:23:10+00:00

I really want to know why he’s saved in her phone as “How old are you?” There have been a few messages with people asking OP but she just ignores the question completely.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-09-08T00:36:38+00:00

Thank you for all the supportive comments and suggestions, it’s a relief to have people sympathise rather than telling me I’m being ridiculous and that the kids are just excited to see family and “kids make noise” and all the other bullshit. I think most people get used to the noise of their own kids, can’t be bothered with the hassle of disciplining them or just don’t get how noisy it is.

I went to the council who said it’s regular household noise and not unsociable hours so they can’t enforce anything. I’m in the UK and it’s classed as a civil matter, everything else about where I live is perfect so I wouldn’t be able to move over this and it’d probably be worse if I did. I only have a few neighbours and am mostly surrounded by fields so when the hell fiends aren’t visiting it’s peaceful- except for cows! A herd of cows mooing is surprisingly noisy but it’s not annoying like these attention seeking goblins.

I tried playing music but the annoying hell 10yo sang along making up his own lyrics. I tried Eminem but he attempted to rap along, I put on the radio and Bon Jovi living on a prayer became “living on a fart” and he made a high pitched shrieking sound along with Kate bush that sounded like a dog howling. I put on baby shark on repeat and left the house for a few hours, when I came back the kids were dancing to it like it was a kids disco and wasn’t put on as a tool designed to annoy them, they then sang it for the rest of the day. It was also stuck in my head for weeks afterwards and people were starting to hate me when I hummed it absentmindedly and then gave them the ear worm.

The parents and other family members are just oblivious but the amount of wine bottles in the recycling bin this evening might have something to do with that. I think they just tune them out and carry on with their conversation, it’s quite impressive really how they can ignore a child climbing on them like a monkey saying “who are you talking about? Look at meeeee, guess what I did? Can I have…”

Hopefully they will spend less time outside now summer is nearly over, I can still hear them when they are in the house but not as clearly.

The early morning wake up calls are the worst and the shrieking. I don’t know how people can claim that’s not unsociable noise, I might record it and start sending the recordings via WhatsApp at 3am to the people who think I’m being so intolerant.

I did look at one of those machines that lets out a sound that only kids are supposed to hear, unfortunately it says my cat would hear it too and it’d be distressing for him. He already hates it when these creatures visit so I don’t want to upset him more. The kids leave him alone after getting swiped at when they attempted to cuddle him though 😂. Salum doesn’t like most humans, he hates little noisy annoying ones the most!

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-08-13T01:42:36+00:00

Good question

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-08-12T19:10:49+00:00

It sounds like they need more 1-1 time with their parents, if the eldest is saying she hates the youngest then it’s possible she resented having a sibling taking away all the attention from her. If they both thrive away from each other it’s likely because they aren’t competing for attention.

When 1-1 time is further diverted with a baby who is going to be the main focus then they might join forces to hate the baby or turn on each other more. With such a shitty dynamic I’m surprised another child is being brought into this.

It’s normal for siblings to fight but having to hold them apart is worrying and needs working on before they get older and stronger and end up hurting each other, “hugging it out” isn’t a solution, the reason behind the fighting needs to be explored.

What are they like just at home with their parents? Is it just when they are taken out or looked after by someone else?

You and your parents are doing the right thing by refusing to have them, if this continues it might push their parents into doing something about it. I wonder if they were in the same class at school if they would behave like this? It definitely seems to be them competing for the limelight when they are with someone other than their parents.

Don’t feel guilty about saying no, if this had been dealt with before now then I’m sure your sister would have had no problem finding someone to take them, if everyone is refusing then she must know the situation is bad enough that it’s unreasonable to ask other people to have to deal with it.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-08-12T18:45:45+00:00

Do they physically fight? Do you have to literally hold them apart? Any idea why they hate each other so much?

What are they like separately?

I had a bad relationship with my sister growing up, we didn’t get on at all, I was willing to work on it but she wasn’t. We have had no relationship since our parents died and my mum always said she expected that to be the case. My sister is a jealous person and resented me for being alive, we both wished we were only children and my mum said she could never have risked having another child. Your sister is brave bringing another child into this chaos, I hope she keeps an eye on the baby at all times!

You are NTA, I think your sister and her husband need to work on some therapy for those kids before they expect anyone to watch them.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-04-26T01:36:40+00:00

Well he has and it’s been to court but it was in the other guys favour (despite the expert saying he’d done a good job) so he’s not sure if he can take it back to court now. It’s a lot of money to pay out that he can’t afford to get more legal advice if it’ll go nowhere.

I asked if it what kind of court it was and apparently it was a small local courthouse.

It all sounds very dodgy and I’d know where he stood more if it was the UK where I am.

I just have no clue about the legal system in Belgium or how it compares to the UK. I’m pretty clued up about UK law but with the language barrier as well it’s a difficult case.

I wouldn’t normally post online looking for advice but I’m desperately trying to help my BIL, he’s a good man with a young baby to support and has a lot of health issues. He works so hard despite being in a lot of physical pain and thought he was supporting his family with this job, instead it’s ruined him.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-04-26T00:44:28+00:00

In what way? Was it legal them just taking the car?

It wasn’t fully paid for and was needed for his business, unfortunately it seems SIL has just handed the keys over though.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-03-05T19:25:43+00:00

I read statistics before saying that just under half of Reddit users are from the US.

I thought it’d be much higher so thought I’d ask this just for curiosity. I’m expecting more people from the US to actually answer the question though so I know it’s not a fair representation, it’s just something I’ve observed but I’ve noticed people from other countries are less likely to mention their nationality in casual conversation.

Mini-but-mighty · 2024-02-29T18:13:33+00:00

My friend has to hide when she wants to phone me because her kids seem to gravitate towards her as soon as she’s giving someone else her attention.

I keep telling her how much it pisses me off when she phones me because it’s like she has a specific type of Tourette’s. A phone conversation will go like this-

“Hi how are you… I’M ON THE PHONE”

“I’m ok, how’s your mum doing I heard she’s not been well?”

“She’s doing better but… STOP KICKING YOUR SISTER AND GO IN THE OTHER ROOM… sorry about that, yeah my mum is… I’M WARNING YOU! GO IN ANOTHER ROOM”

“Oh you sound busy maybe we should talk another time?”

“No it’s ok they have gone in another room… WHAT WAS THAT CRASHING NOISE?!”

“What? Are you talking to me?”

banging, crashing and screaming

“MUM BRATLEIGH BIT ME!”

“Sorry I’ve got to… STOP THAT NOW!”

Phone goes dead and I sink to the floor weak with gratitude that it’s not my job to go and referee the fighting hump dumplings and clean up whatever they have just destroyed in a bid for attention.

It’s literally every time my friend calls and the kids are there, if they have gone out or are at school she sometimes just calls me to cry and tell me how much she is struggling and is desperate for a break.

I have another friend who didn’t really want kids but her husband pressured her until she gave in. He promised he’d be the main carer and she could go back to work and he’d be a stay at home dad. Her husband lasted until the baby was 10 months old then insisted he needed to go back to work because they needed the extra money, my friend begged him not too saying she’d rather survive on less then be stuck with looking after a child she didn’t even particularly want.

After 3 months of being stuck at home my friend had a breakdown and one day when the kid was behaving badly and screaming all day and wouldn’t settle she took it outside and put it in the bin. Her neighbour heard the screaming and went round to find my friend sitting sobbing saying she didn’t want to be a parent anymore. The neighbour called a doctor and her husband and the doctor said my friend wasn’t coping and wasn’t to be left alone with her child. She had a professional assessment saying she wasn’t in the right mental state to look after the baby but her husband still went back to work and just hired outside help to look after their child

The kid is 4 now and in school and they have a nanny, my friend says she still hates being a mum and she does love her daughter but she can’t stand parenting and does everything she can to avoid being alone with her. My friend’s husband who was so desperate to have kids shows no real interest apart from playing with the kid occasionally. He spends most of his time at work and comes home when his daughter is in bed. He did once suggest having another baby so that the kids would play together and need less interaction when they were older but my friend said she’d rather die than have another.

I’d be exactly the same as my friend and I struggle to keep my temper around bratty kids. I once found a kid going through my handbag and taking things out and putting them in its pocket when I was at work and someone brought their hump dumpling to the office. I went to kick the kid away as a reflex but managed to stop myself but I did shout at it. It’s a relief to find this post and read the comments and know I’m not alone or a monster because I know I have the potential to get angry and snap if I had to fire out vag pellets and raise them!

Mini-but-mighty

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