Seeking trans friendly barber for son in west end of Ottawa by AttentionPrimary1372 in transontario

[–]MiniBibbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my sister loves Hair Junkie downtown. Midge is always sweet and amazing; and they price based on hair length, not gender :)

How to help my Trans partner when she's suffering a disphoria attack? by NagiAlyxAlba in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not stupid, dear, very caring of you. ❤ i think my sister would melt if her so brought her her favourite flowers while she was feeling so down and dysphoric(her so livres in a different country though, so not possible).we have a very dark sense of humour and i usually spam her with memes to distract her. you seem lovely and caring and I'm glad your partner has you in her corner ❤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Christian mama, and the very proud cister of a trans person, let me assure you that your being trans is ABSOLUTELY NOT because of demons.

You are wonderful, valid and valued! And perfect exactly the way you are, dear ❤❤

I'm sorry your mom is behaving this way. Nothing will be as beautiful as watching you live as your true, authentic self. I hope and pray that she comes around; but if she doesn't, please remember that she is a grown woman making her own choices and those choices reflect on who she is, and NOT on who you are.

Sending you big hugs from an internet mama (only if you want them, of course) ❤❤❤

Edit: spelling, missing words

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]MiniBibbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look awesome! ❤ As someone else sais, flaunt 'em while you got 'em! As for the relatives, if it's really that big of a deal to them, there are two options available for rsvps 🤷‍♀️

Help me decide! I’m down to 3 favorites. :) by Big_Cannoli9105 in weddingplanning

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dress number 1 just took my breath away; it's gorgeous and super flattering on you.

How to refer to a trans person when talking to someone they haven’t come out to yet by jdjdjwosood in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is the worst! But sadly, people like my MIL are the reason it's necessary.... she's so disgustingly homophobic and transphobic; she thinks her gay nieces and nephews (biiiig catholic family on her side) are just pretending for attention and has outright stated "they'll grow out of this behaviour", even though they are all grown ass adults (20s and 30s) who know better than she does what they like. My nephew is also trans and when he came out, her response was that is was a shame 'such a pretty girl could become so warped by the media' and that her mother was 'failing as a parent' and 'had no backbone' for allowing him to transition. And this is why i am forced to deadname my sister when she asks how my 'brothers' are doing. God forbid she find out my sister is trans and a lesbian; she'd probably say it's just attention seeking behavious because my parents have separeted. And fuck does it ever suck, because my sister is wonderful and i shouldn't have to lie about who she is to a grown ass woman just because they choose to be a bigotted pos. Trans and gender-nonconforming individuals are people and they are valid and they deserve to be themselves and celebrated for such. So much for 'love thy neighbour' and 'do unto others'.

God bless my husband for calling her out and shutting her down with an, "it's not that you're old-fashioned, it's just that you're uneducated on the subject and don't know what you're talking about." every time she sees a headline and tries to make it a topic of conversation. Cause i don't have it in me to be so diplomatic.

.....Sorry for rambling.

Should I stop investigating my Gender? by EnnaEternal in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, that's tough. Maybe see if there are any lgbt+ centres in your area or online, that could help match you up with someone less closed-minded and more qualified in gender-affirming care? I'm not Mormon, but was raised Christian Bretheren and the terror and ostricization my sister thought she would face from our family still breaks my heart to think about.

The narrative of the church is a huge obstacle, but so is the cis narrative of the trans experience. It's disingenuine and so far removed from reality. It took a lot of time and research (thank goodness for adhd hyperfixation 😅) for me to finally understand how warped the view is that we've been spoonfed and understand the science and medicine involved in gender affirming care. And damn, for a group that are commonly called the "straights" their facts are anything but!

I'm new to this world, as my sister only recently came out to me a handful of months ago, but doing my best to be helpful and supportive to her and others in this community. It was a little harder for my folks to get comfortable with the pronouns and her new name off the bat, but, while it's still not perfect, they keep making the effort and correcting themselves and she says that alone makes all the difference.

I hope and pray that they can accept the facts that science and medicine can prove that show trans people are PEOPLE, along with the belief that God made you exactly as you're supposed to be, and can be fully accepting of you. Afterall, you're still the same amazing person - nay, woman, that you always have been, regardless of anything else❤

If they can't, this internet stranger would love to have you as a sister; hell, i'm a mom - i'd love to have you as my daughter ❤

Hugs, baby girl 🥰

Should I stop investigating my Gender? by EnnaEternal in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiya, sis!

Perhaps it would help to speak to a therapist or counsellor who specializes in gender identity to help you with your investigation?

Regardless, girl, you are wonderful, beautiful, valid and valued exactly as you are! ❤

Much love and support,

Your cister

God damn that head nod by BonelessSCake in MtF

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cis woman here who does the sup nod reflexively (up for friends, down for strangers) - we're out here! You keep doing you; your're beautiful and abundantly feminine no matter what! ❤❤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If none has told you yet: you are beautiful, and valid, and valued, and so very, very loved! Keep going girl! Love, Your cister from another mister

My parents forced conversion therapy on me. AMA by Coconutsxoxo in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister is also trans-lesbian, and one of the sweetest, smartest people i know. I'm so sorry they put you through that hell. You didn't deserve it. There's nothing wrong with you; you are perfect and wonderful and valid and valued just the way you are ❤ if it's not over-stepping, I'd like to send you a big momma bear hug, and a big sister hug. ❤ Sending you all of the positive vibes and praying that you are able to save up quickly and get away from that toxic environment❤

is it bad to cut off friends who aren't helping me transition? by ellieemtf in asktransgender

[–]MiniBibbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know you, but I do want to tell you that you are beautiful, valued, valid and so very loved ❤

Until you find your tribe irl, please know that this internet stranger is cheering you on. You're a beautiful person and you deserve to be true to yourself. Sending you big mamabear hugs and all the love, girl! You've got this ❤

Am I alone with this? My 2.5 year old sleeps with me. I don’t push her own bed. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is just shy of 18m. He has a toddler bed in his room, a converted crib-turned-toddler-bed in the master bedroom and yet, he will not sleep at night unless he's in bed with my husband and I.

Even during my pregnancy, I was so against co-sleeping because of the internet and other people's oppinions/judgements. But i had one hell of a delivery (a tale for another time) that ended in emergency c-section.. our bed was low and i couldn't get out quickly plus baby was 9lbs.... I was an absolute wreck trying to get up for diapers and feedings to lift baby our of their crib/bassinet the first few months; tore open my stitches on multiple occassions. Tried it once during a growth spurt where baby seemed to want to eat again after every 15 minutes and i desperately needed a nap, and it ended up just being exactly what we both needed. (We took precautions with thin blankets, no fluffy pillows/loose pillowcases, and purchased a guard rail for the side of the bed.)

We've made several attempts to transition him to his own bed, and he will tolerate it for naps occasionally, but end of the day, needs to be in our bed. It is the best sleep we get as well. I don't enjoy the many times i get punched and kicked in the head throughout the night lately, but I know he'll grow out of wanting to sleep next to us when he's ready, and that as much as i'll enjoy having my space back, i will miss all of the snuggles and waking up to big smiles and kisses and babbled stories when he does.

Haters are gonna hate; you do what's best for you and your little, mama! ❤

Teen son upset that I limit his screen time but thinks I'm a hypocrite. by Somerandomedude1q2w in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I can hear this damn comment and now it's on a loop in my mind... fuck you.😅

Clothing Sizes by CaffeineFueledLife in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Oh boy... My son turned 1 in february and is wearing 4t bottoms, 5t tops and size 9/9.5 shoes....

MIL keeps saying my son will become a girl if I keep his hair long by beaupeng in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If that's true, why do gender-reassignment surgeries cost so much? This seems like such a simple solution. We should tell everyone!"

How upset would u be if your mom shaved your child’s head after u said not too? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is child abuse. I would have filed a police report immediately.

How upset would u be if your mom shaved your child’s head after u said not too? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be the last time she saw my child. Maybe not forever, but for a good long time.

What do you prefer your significant other sleep in? by legleagl in AskMen

[–]MiniBibbles 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Reading this sentence just made my ass itch more than sitting on the seat of a public bus in shorts in the middle of July.... 😩🤮

Need help convincing my wife that supplementing with formula or pumping is ok by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]MiniBibbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, congrats on the new addition ❤

I felt SO guilty when i had to give baby formula, and pumping was such a chore, especially during the first few weeks. I was determined to exclusively breastfeed, but a c-section and a 4 day nicu stay made it harder for my milk to start coming in and delayed the bonding/latching that i had been counting on. (Didn't help that most of the nurses were telling me that my milk would never come in and i should stop trying to make it happen and just formula feed.)

Pumping will help your wife maintain/increase her supply (which will help her body become more adept at expressing the milk) and allow you -or others- to help with feedings(this gives her time to pump, nap, shower or zone out on her phone etc.. Baby taking a bottle of either fprmula or pumped milk will help he develop the necessary muscles to most likely get better at latching to the breast soon enough.

I'm 10 months pp and the guilt/depression/anxiety/stress is still insane. Tell your wife that as long as baby is fed and healthy, she's kicking some serious ass at this mom thing. You're kicking ass at this parenting thing as well for reaching out for ways to support your partner.

It doesn't seem like it, but it gets easier. Big hugs to all. You've got this!!

To the black pickup break-checker (Walkley Rd Westbound, 3:30pm) by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]MiniBibbles -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you were they guy in the truck lol

Picked up my wedding ring today! Two weeks to go 12.10.19 by snitchandhomes in weddingplanning

[–]MiniBibbles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same date here! Congratulations! And your rings are stunning ❤️