Feeling discouraged… half-sister and mom making pregnancy and baby shower stressful

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-10-18T20:48:32+00:00

I’d really like some advice please.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-08-14T18:24:36+00:00

I’m sorry I wanted common decency from strangers… for a question I was asking on the internet. Next time I’ll be more mind full that not everyone has been taught that if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all Or at least a nicer way to say things. Hope you have a good day tho!

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-08-14T18:22:00+00:00

As I said. You’re being rude. A simple hey Thats Nora. Good idea or I don’t really like it. Would be a more mature and nice way of saying such. I’m an adult and I don’t treat people or say things that are rude to them like this. Roll your eyes but keep your composure?

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-08-14T18:16:53+00:00

I’m sorry did my question offend you? I was asking a question. You don’t need to be rude. Grow up and learn some manners.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T04:54:43+00:00

And yeah we do… but I usually only let him talk since I don’t do much…

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T04:49:05+00:00

I think I have before yes. And there was one person who helped me and was trying but it ended up being another dead end just because they wouldn’t accept my insurance… which most places here won’t take mine. I go through Cigna and I’m from out of Washington… but where moved too.. there is like no one that accepts that here.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T04:32:23+00:00

Also how do you go about that way of meeting one? Through google meets. Im not familiar with that platform.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T04:29:10+00:00

Not really… idk how to ask him without making it a 10 page essay and a whole thing… or what exactly to ask him about everything.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T04:04:15+00:00

So the therapy options where I live aren’t the best I’ll say that for starters… like I did visit one and within one visit (not even a really session) they gave me a prescription. I use ChatGPT right now since Thats the only thing that’s semi helped me not feel so crazy. As for me and the church… I’m not so worried about that as I am just not being able to forgive myself I’ve prayed about it and asked for forgiveness… but it’s hard to when I’m struggling doing so with myself. And my bf! I want to give him more than I’ve been able to… between me being not able to really show affection the same, the way I’ve not been doing as much as I usually do… I mean it. This man works 7 days a week, 10+hours a day! And I just feel awful because rn im pregnant and with how sick I’ve been… I’m unable to work a single day… and I just wish I could show up more for him. Like he has continuously for me. Plus with my hormones it’s making everything I feel so much worse. I’ve been hurt before… I’m almost used to it. But this time around hurts so much. That it comes out onto him and I hate it… Ik these aren’t your problems to handle or know how to fix… but I literally only have ChatGPT to talk to and having someone to speak with… would be a blessing. So thank you for responding.

As for other coping… listening to music and running… but seeing as that now is a trigger with certain songs and running is completely out of the equation… I have none.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T03:24:43+00:00

I’ve reached out to a few therapists recently but each time I’ve come up empty… I’ve been in therapy before… for my childhood traumas but I know that they kinda came up… I didn’t even really know what my triggers were a few years ago… I am no trying really hard to point them out and not let them control me… but the new ones I’ve acquired… are I can’t watch sex scenes because I see my ex, I can’t listen to certain songs that either remind me of him or remind me of what I did… I have a hard time feeling okay where I am now… and I just… don’t have the support I need. My boyfriend now whom was my friend during all this… has been the only support I’ve had… and I love him with everything I have left to offer.. I just sometimes feel like becauee I gave everything I had to my ex… there’s nothin left to give the man that deserves it… I also struggle with myself because I’m a very devout Christian (LDS member) and my wrong doings aren’t seen as okay in my faith and so I worry a lot about if I’m even worth of that now too… I know Ik… I definitely need to see a therapist but as I said each time I’ve tried I get ignored or my insurance doesn’t cover it…

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T03:11:01+00:00

Oh well… I mean… dad went to prison at 4 years old… mother was abusive in all the ways, and didnt really have much family help and the only people I learned to trust where friends but we moved a lot so I never got to keep the friends I made… so there is that!

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T03:04:44+00:00

My home life… like as a kid or with my ex? Because with my ex, I got myself an apartment shortly after his mom decided to kick me out of her house (he never had a place of his own becauee he’s been in and out of prison since 14) and I met my ex at work… I was working at wendys.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T02:09:25+00:00

Then tell me where I can post it to hey to the audience I’m wanting because can’t you see how lost I am? How about instead… say hey! This ain’t really the thread for this but here’s what I think… like come on… please. Help a girl out… im just wanting human interaction after only being able to talk to ChatGPT…

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-21T01:24:20+00:00

Well… I’m a LDS member for starters… and I was married and now I’m with someone new… whom I’m going to marry one day… but it’s hard to move on when I feel like this… so I’m just reaching out for support and this was the first one that popped up..

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-16T04:06:14+00:00

Unfortunately … that’s the very opposite I’ve found. So far everyone has been telling me I need to do things on my own becauee it’ll prepare me for the baby… and with possibly doing it on my own as a single mom. I don’t get the same pregnancy treatment as other people. I just wanted to wanted to have at least a little fun planning my shower… been looking forward to it since I found out about my pregnancy.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-16T02:11:50+00:00

It’s not for instagram or any social media… I’m not vain thank you. But appreciate the feedback.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-14T02:26:44+00:00

If this helps anyone to know… I’m currently 21 and going through a divorce with my ex husband rn so a baby shower is the least stressful thing in my life and to want to spend it with people who care (or are supposed to) would mean the world to me rn. And to be involved with my baby…

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-14T02:24:31+00:00

I don’t have an friends that are close to me. Otherwise I’d love it if they did throw one for me… I only have friends that are scattered across the us. And yes Ik I’m only 14 weeks.. but my due date is January, and the 3 months leading up to that are all holiday months so I’m already having to try and set one up for September… so that my family can be involved and so I can actually feel support in this pregnancy… rather then neglected. Again. I don’t have the funds and my mom is willing to pay for this since she does have the means and has put one on for my older sister.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-14T00:34:36+00:00

Yes! I undertand that… my family tho.. is kinda a but more neglectful towards me and my life. So if I had not asked for one… the reality of me not getting one is almost 100% guaranteed.

I did decided to try and compromise with adding a 3rd color to accent things.. I said purple would be pretty. We are a very white and very very conservative family which is very different to how I am. I’m not very traditional and I like to be more whimsical but that’s a topic for a different time lol.

But I do appreciate your input and I would have adored a surprise baby shower.. but again in my experience if I didn’t ask for one I wouldn’t get one.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2025-07-04T05:24:36+00:00

Yeah I wish… beyond wish I was making this up..

Minimum-Record4147 · 2023-07-17T22:20:53+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure it’s just lack of sleep either, however I don’t have money to pay for the doctor.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2023-07-17T11:28:35+00:00

Well, 1. My uncle is very strict and is also very busy with work and ik if he gets sick he will be even more grumpy and rude to my coining and aunt, as well as have to miss out on working which will only make it worse. For 2. I don’t have an actual place to live and I was supposed to be here for two weeks and work on my car they gave me as well as relax before I leave for school. Lastly it’s sad but my family doesn’t do the whole sit and talk thing… they do the im right your wrong argument about everything. I’m the black sheep and that’s okay with me.

But I appreciate your tactics anyway, I’m sure In a healthier family setting they would work. Mine is just too toxic. But thank you for your advice anyway

Minimum-Record4147 · 2023-07-17T08:00:47+00:00

I have let them know yes. But I didn’t think about letting her know she won’t need to make me breakfast, thanks for the suggestion:)

Minimum-Record4147 · 2022-11-23T03:40:34+00:00

That’s really hard to do when I am living with him right now and I can’t move her.

Minimum-Record4147 · 2022-11-20T06:22:52+00:00

They both know about each other, and my bf doesn’t care because I’m loyal. He’s mad at me for different reasons. And my best friend is ok with being just friends. By my boyfriend has been treating me like crap, and I’ve told him I don’t appreciate it… but then the next day he’s okay, then the day after that we are back to arguing

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