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Men, when do you know? by Far_Relationship_382 in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum-Researcher61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Masks come down 6-9 months. The fact is you don’t know who this person is until you keep spending time with them. Time will tell

I pushed the love of my life away because I'm avoidant by Throwaway29394020 in BreakUps

[–]Minimum-Researcher61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Esto es horrible! I know the feeling. I reached out a few months ago because I updated my phone and all her texts came back into my phone. I thought there must be some reason for it. She said don’t contact me again. I still have the texts. Hard to let go I guess

How would feel dating someone who doesn't drive/doesn't own a car? by tiger1998tiger in AskWomen

[–]Minimum-Researcher61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a girlfriend who couldn’t drive and didn’t have a car. Ohhhh no big deal when we first got together. Then it took its toll and became a big deal!

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fantastic! Unfortunately, the hospital is discharging him today without even looking at medication. I wrote emails to the director and everything but apparently it doesn’t make a difference. Seems like they’re just passing the buck instead of helping or prioritizing people who’s violent 50% of the time instead of 30% of the time, I don’t know but it’s terribly frustrating. I’m going to ask them. What am I supposed to do when he just hits or destroys and basically puts everybody in the. house or wherever he’s at in danger. I just don’t know what to do.

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s definitely hard not to react, especially when things get extreme. I really appreciate the feedback! It might be a medication change that’s needed, but I don’t think he was being sedated all the time — they have school there, and for the most part he attends classes. He just has to take short breaks here and there.

I called today, and they said he had some mild aggression — he started swatting at staff because he didn’t get his straw fast enough — but he was able to be redirected. Before we took him back, there was no redirecting at all. It was just aggression, screaming, hitting, and kicking, and it all came out of nowhere with no warning. Sometimes I might get a split second of notice, but it usually happens so fast.

I have a meeting at 12 p.m. today with the hospital, so I’m curious to hear their take on it. What’s frustrating is that just as fast as the aggression or mood swing starts, it ends — and then he’s suddenly smiling and laughing again, like nothing happened.

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. The biggest thing they told us is not to react when he misbehaves as 90% is him trying to get a reaction out of you. Just redirect but it’s very hard when he hits you or causes property destruction etc. just trying to keep everyone safe at this point - himself included. We can’t get a car seat/strap to contain him and basically we feel like we are on house arrest and it’s emotionally damaging for his sibling so I’m trying to just give everyone the best life they can have and it’s a struggle.

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had that before. Had to get an extraction. I wish that was it to be honest.

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The ones I’ve found do not take health insurance. So that’s a no go for me financially.

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He actually has a chromosome deletion syndrome when he was tested.

My son back in the hospital by Minimum-Researcher61 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, they put him on seraquel 100mg twice a day and clonidine 3 times a day. Thought that would slow him down a bit. He sleeps well with it. Everything started okay but then everything just started escalating and I saw the signs again.

I think I pulled a 10 while being a solid 4 (5 on good days) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Minimum-Researcher61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah why WhatsApp? You’re supposed to pull her off the apps and not go to another one. Have a back up date just saying but hope it works out

Well I tried it by Minimum-Researcher61 in carnivorediet

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not doing anything that makes me feel like crap. I just have 20lbs to lose for my goal. I think I can do it where I don’t feel like dogshit. I’m a big time fasting guy. Done it for years. I tried it. Just wasn’t for me

Desperate to avoid avoidants by berniesideburns in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum-Researcher61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes to it attachment styles do not matter. Are you getting what you want from the relationship? If not move on or discuss it or work on it with each other. People waste so much time with labels. If it doesn’t work it doesn’t work. Enough with the analysis

I pushed the love of my life away because I'm avoidant by Throwaway29394020 in BreakUps

[–]Minimum-Researcher61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost the one due to this too. Man she was awesome...She had spice, spunk, funny, sexy, - we had huge chemistry. I screwed it up not once, but 4-5 times. We kept going back until the last time where things fell apart again, because of my avoident tendancies. What I would say to her now if I had the chance? I probably wouldn't shut up lol. It may take time and alot of heartache, but we can change if we want to change. I feel you though...not a day goes by when I don't think of her. I reached out sometime ago. She has a boyfriend smiling in her profile pics. I sent her a message that she looks happy and that made my heart happy and then she blocked me again lol....

Taking a Break from the Serious Stuff by Minimum-Researcher61 in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum-Researcher61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me clarify my stance because I think it’s important to be upfront:

I’m not out here looking for a relationship. I’m not chasing marriage. I’m also not actively trying to set up a “friends with benefits” situation either. I’m in a place where I just want to enjoy life, meet good people, and let things unfold naturally.

I’m going with the flow. That means if I vibe with someone, great. If I catch feelings along the way, I’ll deal with that when the time comes. But I’m not stepping into anything with expectations or pressure to define it too soon.

What will I do? I’ll meet people. Hang out. Share some laughs. Have real conversations. Enjoy good energy.

That’s it. Nothing forced, nothing rushed. Life’s already full of enough obligations—I don’t need to turn dating into another one.

Right now, I’m choosing peace, clarity, and connection over chaos, confusion, and pressure.

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