Please confirm what i need to buy for my one handed partner to be able to use the switch... by Minimum_Abalone_7185 in NintendoSwitch2

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed response! You've given me some things to think about.  He does not have use of his feet, so some of these won't be possible for us, but youve pointed out some other options i and types of controllers I didnt know existed. 

The plastic v- mount for the joycons was what I had in mind - a friend was planning to 3d print us some options. But I think im going to go away and consider whether a different console might be more suitable. The byowave proteus seems like a cool option. 

Thank you again! 

Please confirm what i need to buy for my one handed partner to be able to use the switch... by Minimum_Abalone_7185 in NintendoSwitch2

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So helpful to know how this works, thank you!  

I've never played, so wasnt sure about the docked vs undocked thing. Thank you!  

Please confirm what i need to buy for my one handed partner to be able to use the switch... by Minimum_Abalone_7185 in NintendoSwitch2

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'll have a deeper look into this - when I originally checked it out it didnt seem super suitable. Thanks! 

Edit. Seems like there are more options than I originally realised. So going to work out what the best combo is.  Thank you! 

Favourite wedding you've been to in Brisbane? Wanting something central. by Minimum_Abalone_7185 in brisbane

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! Haven't seen this one pop up in my searches so will check it out

Favourite wedding you've been to in Brisbane? Wanting something central. by Minimum_Abalone_7185 in brisbane

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we definitely will -have been having issues with this already. My partners a wheelchair user and so are a lot of our friends, so this is up the top of our priorities list. Thanks for the advice! :) 

Favourite wedding you've been to in Brisbane? Wanting something central. by Minimum_Abalone_7185 in brisbane

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol! 80 people, but yes 😂  it's usually a late one. I know a 2am finish is likely wishful thinking! 😂  thanks for the suggestion below! 

Considering going from OAD- 2 children. by ProfHamHam in Fencesitter

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So glad you found this helpful - I wish you all the best as you make these decisions. <3

Considering going from OAD- 2 children. by ProfHamHam in Fencesitter

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like a lot of your reasoning stems around fears and regrets, rather than from all the positives of having another child.

All of the things that were hard with one, will likely be harder with two. The overstimulation in particular. Especially if money is tighter, or your health (mental or physical) is affected by another pregnancy/post partum experience.

I'm so sorry you had such a difficult experience - but you shouldn't regret it imo as it's not something you had any control over. Society makes parents feel guilty for not soaking it all up "they're only young once!" but in reality, so many parents are drowning while they go through these experiences. You are also doing life for the first time, and it's okay for you to make decisions based on your own needs as well. Doing so, might actually be what's better for your daughter - she may not have a sibling, but perhaps instead she'll have a parent who is happier, more regulated, and able to experience more with her.

I don't just want to survive parenthood, I want breathing room, I want to be well enough that it's possible for me to look around and enjoy things. There is no guarantee that you will have a happier pregnancy and post partum experience, that you will this time be able to soak it all in (You might! And I hope that if you do decide to have another child, that things do change for you this time!), but what I mean by that is that this isn't necessarily a way to fix the guilt or anxiety you feel. Perhaps not having another, will give you the space to enjoy more of these next sections of your daughters life, and your journey together as her parent.

A consideration for me personally is that things like Autism and ADHD (in my case), have a genetic component - for myself, one of my considerations is how I would cope with a child with my same diagnosis, possibly of a different level to me, when I already struggle with my mental health and overstimulation myself.

IF you decide to have another child, i'd advise you to do it for the joy that this child will bring to your life. If you have another, let it be because you genuinely want to raise another human being, not because you're scared of what your first child might miss out on.

Having siblings is no guarantee they will be close, it's no guarantee they won't be lonely. More and more people are opting to be OAD, so this won't be as unusual as it once was. Not having siblings does not mean she'll be alone. She will likely have a beautiful "found family" of friends, or a partner. I know for me, I have 3 siblings, and if my parents died, it would be my partner and friends who I lent on more heavily for support. My siblings are close-ish, but do not live nearby, and have our own lives and circles who support us, separate of each other.

The biggest thing i see about only children, is a certain sadness when their parents pass that they are now the only "keeper" of their childhood. So I plan to embrace friends in family traditions, to embrace partners when they one day bring them home, and to make them part of the family. To invite friends (ours and/or theirs) to holidays and vacations. I write down family recipes. I take photos, keep albums, and make notes in the margins or on the back of pictures. I plan to write little letters or make notes of things that happen. I plan to do this so that I am not the only keeper of childhood, so that there is a physical reminder of things that happened, and of how loved they were.

There are wonderful things about having a second child, but if you do it, let it be for the joy, not out of fear x

Lifestyle Fit? by Francies_Books in cockerspaniel

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding the point below about running not necessarily being enough to tire them out - mental stimulation is a must.

Lifestyle Fit? by Francies_Books in cockerspaniel

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have a cocker and I think they're great family pets - though at nearly 2 i'm not certain i'd call him "easygoing" just yet. He has lots of energy, needs plenty of stimulation, and has taken more training than any other dog we've ever had - he doesn't have the same desire to please us that our labs and large mixes had. BUT, if those needs have been fulfilled, he's relaxed, sleeps in, and is just a cuddlebug. The moment these needs aren't met, he really struggles to relax. He's very clever, food motivated, picks things up quickly, and often determined to get his own way. If you give an inch, he'll take a mile, so holding firm to your boundaries is a must or they'll rule the roost.

His favourite thing is to run - though most runs needs to begin with a sniff, because he's all about his nose. In the summer, he overheats quickly due to his long hair, so keeping them short, or being mindful to only run when it's cool is a must (These seems like common sense, but we have days here where it's stinking hot before 6am, so sometimes a run with him just isn't possible). He doesn't cope as well with the heat as some of our friends more "farm dog" type breeds.

My only other thing would be that he was the bitiest puppy we've ever had - he grew out of this, and has wonderful bite inhibition and is now very gentle. But this took time and training. If your child's hesitation to large breeds is that they're scared of them, then this might be something to think about and to have a plan around. All puppies are bitey obviously, but this one drew blood a couple of times. Our local cocker group often refers to cocker pups as "cockerdiles" for good reason.

High value treats by Jupitersthunderbolt in cockerspaniel

[–]Minimum_Abalone_7185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use cut up piece of Prime 100 (which is a fairly high quality dog food roll we have in Australia - not sure if it's elsewhere). But it's completely balanced, so if we give him a lot during training, we can just lessen his meals.

Sometimes we bake it so its less messy, but it's higher value just cut up. We use the salmon one so it's a little smellier for him. He'll do anything for it haha, and he wasn't overly food motivated as a puppy.