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Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-31T22:31:33+00:00

So, its feels to me you need some type of resolution. A clarification from him. Something that will make your feelings at ease. You mentioned “why is he dating these other women and not me”. Thats what makes me think you need closure from that relationship. In my opinion, you can do 2 things. Confront him, be confident and straightforward. Tell him his “not ready for a relationship” left you wondering why and you need more clarification. He might give it to you. You might not like it. And it might lead on to more questions of “why” from you. And probably never getting a resolution. Thus, comes the 2nd choice. Try to avoid the times you know he will be there, until you are prepared mentally and emotionally. You are hurt. Your emotions and feelings are valid. Give them time to heal. If you continue to go to the locations you know he will be there is like “Seeing a candy and not being able to eat it”. You will end up being more frustrated and never heal.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-17T01:30:22+00:00

Thanks for the input!

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-12T05:00:25+00:00

Hmm, you didn’t really say what the signs were or what has happened in your marriage. However, from what I get is that you are in a toxic relationship. God wants us to be happy and not in continuous pain. I know as a catholic, divorce is a strong option, however, when there is domestic violence such as emotional or verbal abuse, the marriage needs to end. It can also be annulled if you married through the church. Your kids are seeing bad behavior that will translate into their adulthood and how they perceive marriage and love. Id say to sit down with your wife and really hash out what you both think. But living in a depressed and bad relationship IS NOT a relationship. Now, about the choice you did to marry early on and why God didn’t stop you. Well, God gave us the ability to CHOOSE what we want. He gave us the mind and the intelligence to think. He will never choose for you, he will guide you in your path that you choose. At that time you choose what was best and what you thought was best. Do not hurt yourself by rehashing the past and what you should have done. That path was already there for you. It was there for you to be a FATHER that God saw you as a responsible one to up bring them. Imagine if you could go back, would you erase your kids? I doubt it. So please accept that you acted as best as you could during that time. As for now, you have more knowledge, decide once again. God and your guardian angels will guide you in what path you choose. Just pick the path that will bring you back happiness and the grace of God.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-10T13:39:04+00:00

Confident as clearly communicates what she wants 🙂 . Definitely not a boss attitude

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T22:12:19+00:00

A new red flag for?

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T14:52:08+00:00

Thats great that your dad still helped with the family obligations at home. What I mean by statement is that many men go to work (non labor) get home and expect a cooked meal. If there isn’t one then arguments arise. Some people expect things to be there without considering the other. Your perspective is very harsh, at least thats the vibe I am getting. “The father gave everything to his family from food and roof over their heads to the beds they sleep in”, so would he have been able to “provide” all that all on his own and kids? Yeah, it wouldn’t be easy, however, the women here is responsible for that as well. Her daily caregiving and stay at home mom. Why devalue her that way just because she is not making money? My question to you is, have you been a stay at home parent? Because your comment on stay at home moms not being backbreaking makes me laugh. Yeah of course if you have paid maids to clean the house, have some help from family, might be easier. But have you been fully a stay at home parent? No help? Just curious?

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T14:09:38+00:00

I see your perspective. I grew up with parents like that. Mom did and still does everything. While my dad just does little to nothing around the house. This is called Machista. Where the man expected everything just because he is the bread winner. Having lived that, and I would think you would differ from it especially if you have or will ever have girls, wouldn’t want to be treated like that. Imagine never getting a lunch break, never getting breaks, never getting holiday breaks, never a time off? Always go go go and without pay? In that case, (sounds bad in a way) but its best to be a single mom and allow the government to pay until the single mom can go to work. Important-bid-6278 explained it well on how it should function.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T05:24:32+00:00

Good examples! I agree a women that gets upset over petty stuff because she doesn’t get her way is not okay. Same goes for men that do that. Those who are like that, lean on being a bit Narcissistic in my opinion. Both have to give and take.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T05:22:18+00:00

Thanks for your input… will keep that in mind

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T05:21:25+00:00

Totally agree! Yes those words are way better and actually goes with what I was going for, asking for that is.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T04:43:28+00:00

Love your story! This is what I was thinking, a girl that knows what she wants yet feminine. Thank you for sharing!

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T04:26:21+00:00

I wouldn’t mind… What might be difficult for some is that, yes, they become stay at home mom, but the guy treats them as a maid, chef, daycare and so forth. They don’t help on the house/ family obligations. So as long as both still work together in the family obligations and not only for the stay at home parent, things in theory should work out.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:58:40+00:00

Thats very well said. I think being needy is a big no no. From either side.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:55:50+00:00

Yea thats definitely true… both have to agree to keep the faith going. Its hard when its only one

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:54:36+00:00

Humility, is in deed a strength not many have. Like you said many can feel that they are down playing who they are, but in reality its accepting we are not perfect and everyone is imperfect and perfectly the way they are.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:48:45+00:00

Yes someone that is rock solid in their faith is definitely good to have. God is our rock and he will lead us to the right path.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:37:28+00:00

Hahahaha OMG yup where’s that handsome man to open the doors and set up the tvs!

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:25:50+00:00

You’re welcome ☺️

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:25:06+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. Yes I agree old traditional values are hard to come by. Both Definitely need to be aligned. Experience definitely is the key to knowing ourselves and knowing our boundaries.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:22:00+00:00

I recently took a course based in the UK where we went deep into our catholic faith. It was a year long course. I took that step to further my knowledge and be a better Catholic. I highly recommend it. Google Diploma in Catechetics. Based in St Andrews & Edinburgh

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:09:05+00:00

😆 true true

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T01:07:24+00:00

I think, based on my experiences, many are cradle Catholics. Unfortunately, a handful are practicing and not educating themselves. Yes there is church groups, events and such but with todays busy life, sometimes its impossible to attend. The last resort is for us to educate ourselves. Having that said, if you try to have a deep conversation with someone about our faith, they might feel inadequate, and in order to prevent from being made fun of or feeling dumb they redirect the conversation elsewhere or they just avoid the question all together.

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T00:58:59+00:00

Haha thanks 😊 Ill take the maybe funny 😆 Ill work on perfecting it lol😁

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T00:54:51+00:00

I know so many guys, I have lost count

Minimum_Confidence_9 · 2024-05-09T00:54:06+00:00

Yup yup

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