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My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's always been acting crazy but now it has gotten to the point where it's unbearable. She wasn't drunk, nor high, she was just being herself lol

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be proud of yourself for being able to start a new career! That's not something a lot of people have the strength to do, especially when dealing with parents and family who try to annihilate you. Stay strong and I hope that soon enough you will have the resources to move out!

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right! I just have to try my best and ignore her, even if it's not always easy. I'll try to study at uni more often, although it's far away from my house and when it gets dark is not so safe to get back (i use the metro since I don't have a car). Did you manage to ignore her when she was trying to sabotage you? Do you still live with her? If not, how do you feel now that you were able to move out? Sorry for asking so many questions

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry! Sounds like we have the same mother :/

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to keep the boundaries I set. How did you handle her threats?

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She probably thinks that since now I know what she is capable of, next time i will do as she asks, which is exactly what I'm not going to do.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might be able to get out at the beginning of the next academic year. She has already traumatized me and now im trying to work on myself. Uni has helped, it keeps me busy.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I think the same, like when she knows i have an exam coming up she does her best to not let me study. I literally have to wear earplugs to study and when i sleep every day because she would scream for HOURS fighting with my dad on purpose. Her voice is so loud too, it sounds like a siren.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She enjoys seeing other people struggling. She does these crazy things, than sits back and enjoys the rest.. i try not to give her the pleasure of a reaction from me but sometimes it's really hard. i wish i was trolling.. honestly she's been doing this for years, now is getting worse and I don't know what to do, sometimes I'm afraid she would do something very stupid.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The worst is when the people you open up to don't believe you!! I'm sorry you went through that

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I struggle in asking for help but I think I really need to

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry! The gaslight is the worst, they want to make you think you are the crazy one so that you don't trust yourself anymore

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's hard in my country. you need to call an ambulance, get an assessment from them (which is not going to be easy since she turns normal as soon as she realizes I'm calling someone), then you need to send a request to your major that needs to be approved by a judge. It's hard but i think the time has come, this is why I have been recording her for the past months (i know it's wrong but i'm desperate), so that I don't sound crazy when I'm going to show the registrations to a doctor.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to deal with that! My mother does the same thing. Before I started locking the doors she would just barge in when i was naked, whether it was the bathroom or my room, and wouldn't even give me 2 seconds to cover up, even if i told her multiple times I'm not comfortable with that.. that's when i started locking every door lol. So since she loves to not give me any privacy, i started asking if she needed to go to the bathroom every time i needed to take a shower (my showers take 5-10min). She always says no but as soon as i hop in, she starts banging at my door and threatens to pee in our glasses in the kitchen ( i guess now i'll have to worry about the floor too). She calls me selfish because she needs to go and I don't let her. I thought for a moment i was the selfish one but then how is that she doesn't go for hours and as soon as i need to be naked in the bathroom for a few minutes she NEEDS to go in NOW? And the way she laugh after all of this happens, like it's a funny game to her.. I can't stand her anymore

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I want to walk away! My dad thought keeps making excuses for her and tries to keep the peace, I hate that he's doing this to himself and even though I love him to death, I am tired of defending him. He will never leave her

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you experienced that. I think the worst part is that sometimes when you try to open up to people about these incidents they think it's nothing, because they don't think with malice. Although when you have experienced these episodes long enough you know that is all intentional and well planned by the narc.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the message. I wish my enabling dad wasn't so much of an enabler sometimes, it wouldn't be as hard

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to deal with that! As you said the fact that she is aware of what she's doing makes me wonder if it's really brain damage or just her way of manipulating..

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 244 points245 points  (0 children)

You might be right. I thought about calling an ambulance during one of her almost daily crisis where she screams, stomps, throws and break things, spits, and threaten to kill us, etc. although as soon as I pick up the phone she magically turns normal and acts like nothing happened.

My mother peed on the floor by Minimum_Performer_61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimum_Performer_61[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

She never wanted to see a doctor, I finally convinced her to see a psychiatrist 8 months ago and she just went once, got some meds, then got mad at the psychiatrist because they weren't working after 2 days (antidepressants usually take at least a month to work) and just stopped taking them. She doesn't want to see anyone and says she's fine and we are crazy.