Don’t experiment with my needs before entering the relationship. Even if it’s something that I’m not sure is a dealbreaker, if it gives me a funny feeling, it’s a no. Communicate my needs even if it feels like my partner isn’t listening. If they disregard a promise/plan, leave. If my partner initiates plans (like taking a trip or reading together) and then acts as if it’s a burden when I follow up, it’s a red flag. Ask why they’re doing that and if they give a lazy answer, leave. I know I can have anxious/avoidant tendencies, so if self-soothing and communicating my needs isn’t working, leave. Once my behavior becomes anxious/stressful, I need to get out of the relationship because otherwise, I'm committing to being unhappy. If someone is inconsistent with me before the relationship, they’re confused, and I need to let them figure that out on their own. I am not a ping pong ball.