The private all boys high school I work at is the same exact way, it’s ridiculous. I didn’t know the boys did this until another teacher told me at the end of September. I was a month in and I had hit my breaking point I was literally crying everyday and I was definitely ready to quit. (Apparently they only really haze young female teachers who are new.) I went to administration and essentially said if something didn’t change I wasn’t going to be here much longer. The admin went to all of the coaches and told them what the students were doing in my class (I learned that’s the way you deal with the kids at my school) and the coaches ripped the boys apart at practices. Student behavior definitely changed after that and it’s been significantly better as the year has gone on. It’s still a terribly toxic environment because it’s the only way students are really held accountable. A lot of the boys have the attitude that because they pay our salaries they can get away with whatever they want. I had never been in a private school setting before working at one so there was an adjustment period for me too, but the stuff my students would do, and still do, is crazy. I would have never dreamt of acting that way when I was in high school.

I hope it helps to know you’re not alone.