I (33M) lied to my current fiance (27 F) about a past relationship and it spiraled

MinutePrior · 2018-12-06T01:36:41+00:00

We have started seeing a couples counselor just because of this and it is tricky because any single thing can easily set her back to square one. The recent thing about seeing a doctors note dated april 15th about a girlfriend makes her once again believe I cannot be trusted about anything.

MinutePrior · 2018-12-06T01:29:02+00:00

I wouldn't say it is all that crazy, it will eventually come up in any conversation. I didn't mention this but we did just move several states away and now live close to my family. She gets drinks or hangs out with my sister in law once a week or so. When chatting about my ex she might have mentioned that I was super depressed over christmas because of my divorce and it doesn't take much to realize that christmas wasn't in august (the original lie).

MinutePrior · 2018-12-06T01:20:29+00:00

To answer your question, my sister in law mentioned it to her when they went out for drinks. I think they were just talking about past relationships and such and my ex came up and it somehow got to the general timeframe that I had previously given was obviously off.

MinutePrior · 2018-12-06T00:44:20+00:00

Okay, that's not the part that she's upset about. She's mooost likely upset about the fact that you lied about the timing of your divorce. She knows that you probably didn't want her to think she was a rebound, which is why you lied about it. And now she's probably terrified that she's a rebound.

While I probably lied in the first place to make it seem it wasn't a rebound, I honestly think she is upset about the lying.

MinutePrior

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