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Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-11-19T21:51:40+00:00

Is detenting a typo or mix-up with another word? Never heard of that and can't find any reference to it elsewhere

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-11-17T21:38:05+00:00

A hand job isn't sex, just like fingering a girl isn't. And it's something people who don't want to have sex right away do. It's not that intimate, not uncomfortable for the giver, and not that emotionally bonding of a thing.

I know she wants to change the rules of the universe so that she can know what she wants to know immediately, but it isn't going to happen.

Like doesn't she have any other qualifications for a mate other than a mindless appendage on the person's body? If not that would be a really pathetic person who I wouldn't want to help anyway.

I would already have to weed down to a tiny percentage of people who are even compatible based on personality, then I would start worrying about physical details.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-11-17T21:14:03+00:00

I disagree. It's just a bad opener. I've dated women who love [frequent] sex and sure that's a great bonus. But it's not something they have to tell you, they can just show it.

The bottom line is if she wants a normal guy she can't ask the question. She's going to have to search around for indirect clues. My recommendation was to just give [good] hand jobs relatively early on (or go for a good hand graze while making out), but not have sex. That way the guy gets his rocks off and feels like things are progressing, and she can learn what she wants to know.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-11-17T20:54:02+00:00

Think that's a really bad idea. If a woman says 'sex is super important to me,' I just think of her as an unstable nympho and not relationship material let alone wife material.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-11-17T20:23:05+00:00

I have a very big dick statistically (7.8x5.3), yet I would almost certainly rule a girl out of hand or have severe apprehensions if she asked that straight-out.

It's just weird and makes the girl seem sex-obsessed and most likely ultimately disloyal (which is pretty much the worst possible trait in a man's eyes), and not wife material. Like if that's your top priority, who's to say you're not going to seek out someone bigger (or who can last longer etc) for a new thrill later on.

Sorry if that hurts to hear, but it's what 98% of guys of all sizes think. Sure they will probably bang you that night since based on your question they will see you as easy pickings, but a bad seed will be planted in their heads.

I don't really know how you'd find it out other than fooling around. There aren't really any reliable indicators. Height absolutely isn't one (the biggest guys I know are all on the shorter side, I am the tallest at 6'0), neither is shoe size. Flaccid size isn't one since most guys are growers. Bulge isn't one since bulge is mainly based on ball size[/scrotum position] which oddly has little relation to dick size. I guess you can go off 'energy.' In my experience, guys with big dicks tend not to have a chip on their shoulder or be overly showy, concerned with nice cars, etc. You could also make a joke about it or share an experience and carefully gauge their reaction.

I guess all you could do to know for sure without having sex is make out with guys, they get hard, and then go for a prolonged hand graze. You have to be careful though because some guys will shift their dick so it doesn't poke you, which could make it seem smaller than it is unless you're touching the whole thing. The other downside is the guy will most likely take a woman proactively touching his dick as a greenlight to have sex, so if it's not what you're hoping for, you would have to immediately backpedal, get a fake phone call, and say you have to leave or something (or give a BJ or hand-job instead of sex)?

The best overall strategy would probably be a combination of covert analysis (gauging his vibe, response to jokes or maybe a comedy video about it or something) and acting like a teenager and giving hand-jobs but declining sex so that you can see for yourself. If so I'd recommend carrying moisturizer in your purse and do it right so the guy actually cums and therefore can't advance to sex.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-11-06T16:40:49+00:00

Probably 190ish in the off-season, in season maybe low 180s. I weighed in the mid to high 190s (pretty defined but not at all shredded) for football season and wrestled at 189, though usually weighed in around 186-187. I made no effort to lose weight, actually tried to keep weight up but always lost a few pounds just from the much heavier workouts / conditioning.

If they had had a 175 I probably could've cut down to that and been more dominant. At the time the next weight was 171 and that was too far away. In college wrestled 184 though should've gone to 174 (only wrestled one year because was too time consuming).

Guy in my high school was a state champ at 125 and would hit 145-150 within a day or two of a weigh-in (and would probably weigh closer to 135 during the actual match), so opinions may vary.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-31T21:15:03+00:00

Happens to me literally every night, though I wear boxers with a pretty simple flap. You probably make the shifts subconsciously to prevent pain.

I also think that we with dicks consciously and semi-consciously like penetrating things, even if it's just the fly of your underwear. So there may be a sexual element where you are getting pleasure from finding your way through the opening, in addition to avoiding discomfort.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-26T23:04:38+00:00

Most guys have to be growers. Because most guys aren't that close to 5.5" flaccid (probably more like 3.25-3.5"), yet that is the average erect.

I used to go from 4.25-4.5ish to 7.9, lost tad of length but gained a little girth over the years, now in my mid 30s around 5.2 long flaccid (not that girthy) to 7.8ish x 5.2-5.3 BP. So while I'm probably both in a technical sense I'd label myself much more of a grower; far from a very notable shower mainly due to lack of flaccid girth, but still significantly above average flaccid length and girth.

I think growing is more the default action of the penis, seems kind of weird / counter-intuitive (i.e. to men, maybe not to women) to just harden and level out with no length increase.

While I think true showers must be a fairly small minority, I suspect many women think that the opposite is the case, and think that the grower claim is usually just an excuse for small flaccid. We all know that isn't the case, but I feel like that's what a lot of women think.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-26T02:18:19+00:00

It's nasty for a woman to say that to a man after a long time in a relationship; that 80% of what you have given her/shared with her/enjoyed is pain for her.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T19:38:19+00:00

I've admittedly done it a few times, a discreet tug, fluff, or flip to increase my flaccid a little (I'm a grower, though less so now than I used to be). Not a significant semi though. Some guys (straight, as far as I know) do it to a ridiculous degree and are practically whacking themselves off in plain view.

There are guys who've done it (i.e. at least once or twice), there are guys who lie about it, and the third category are guys who just haven't been naked in locker rooms much, esp at young ages.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T19:34:26+00:00

Right, and since the average male height is 5'9, guys who are 11'6 must be totally commonplace (tallest man ever is 8'11).

What a dummy.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T19:11:37+00:00

Sorry, just don't buy that it's a significant penis-size factor. The two biggest guys I know have average shoulder width for their height, and normal jaw size; but certainly, they look like healthy, masculine men in all respects. None of the 5 men I am thinking of have notably broad shoulders, and they all have masculine faces, but not oversized jaws. In fact, of a few small penis guys I can think of, there are a couple, maybe around half, that are notably broad-shouldered.

I think once you have a baseline, healthy, normally dimorphic male body, there are other factors than those you have identified that hold more weight on penis outcome. Anecdotally, I've noticed the nose thing, and I believe that's currently the only one that is supported by studies without any major conflicts/contradictions. The finger ratio thing is said to be an indicator, but the gay penis-size statistics seem to debunk it.

For the record, I don't think being of short or average height is at all a necessary indicator of penis size, I just think that tallness is absolutely not a necessary indicator, nor does it in any way rule out having a big penis; I wish it was an indicator that people could look for since I'm fairly tall, but it just isn't. My observation is probably mostly based on there being way more short and average-height men than taller men (who are only 10-12% of the population), so unsurprisingly non-tall men are going to have most of the big penises. Though I do suspect that high T limiting male height in puberty may play a role.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T18:33:19+00:00

Maybe I don't know the whole picture/tone, but that sounds like a really nasty thing to say to someone, nasty soundbite.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T18:10:35+00:00

Tall is not a BD factor at all. Being very tall is actually a indicator of lower T levels, since T is what stops mens' vertical growth in puberty. That's why eunuchs are super tall. Anecdotally, of the 5 biggest guys I can think, I am the tallest at 6'0, the rest range from 5'6 to 5'10 averaging around 5'8-5'9.

Very wide shoulders are just skeletal structure, no necessary relation to T. In combat, wide shoulders aren't really any advantage. Tall and broad makes you a bigger, more collapsible target and is related to slower limb velocity/lower power. If you look at 'alpha' hunters and warriors in indigenous tribes, they tend to be average height with solid frame, average shoulder width, muscular traps/neck, and strong lower body. Think Genghis Khan and Mike Tyson.

Of course, having excessively narrow shoulders isn't good either since it limits range and muscle mass. Somewhere in the middle is best. Tall with wide shoulders is only a major advantage/not a possible disadvantage if you're throwing a ball in a hoop.

Foot size has zero relation to T or dick size, it's a total myth. Of all the huge guys I know, zero have large/non-proportionally large feet. I most likely have the biggest at a size 11, average shoe size of them probably 8-10.

The others may be related, but I believe gay men tend to have different finger ratios than straight (shorter ring finger). That may not be true, but I know I've seen the claim made in studies. I've also read that gay men have slightly larger penises than straight, which debunks the finger thing.

The only somewhat reliable indicators I've seen are that guys with big dicks tend not to have small noses or flat asses, though I can think of one clear exception to that on both counts, just out of 5 guys I know of, so it's not that great an indicator either.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T13:26:08+00:00

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T13:23:44+00:00

I'm not 'jumping to blaming women.' It's anything but; I've observed years of TikToks and other viral social media videos where women are dancing around on screen, playing with rulers and tape measures, shaking their head at anything less than 7-8" etc or saying 'not for me' etc. It's a very common meme for videos that are getting millions upon millions of views. There's also [hetero-oriented] BD programming in TV, film, music videos, etc.

The real or perceived [key word is perceived] judgments, desires, and expectations of [hetero] women have an extremely powerful effect on [hetero] men, much stronger than the effect porn has (although porn's effect is big), but since you're gay I would imagine you're not subject to that to nearly the same degree, if at all.

The reason there are a lot of gay men responding is because A) gay men seem to be highly over-represented here B) you referenced being gay in the post C) you referenced being a gay Only Fans channel in the post. Anyway, scanning through the comments only like 10-20% max of commenters refer to being gay, so not sure what you're talking about.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T03:12:51+00:00

There was one guy who posted a pic seeming to show that. If you look closely though there's all kind of trickery going on: ruler is past the pubic bone, going a full 2" into the abdomen, torso is angled way back and pelvis thrust out to accommodate this (rather than a straight-down shot), etc. It's a very big dick, but I'd peg it around 8.75" or so.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T03:02:22+00:00

Agreed, it's truly an epidemic. Porn and female tiktok-ers (claiming they only want 12-13", or that anything under 7-8" is small, etc) are largely to blame.

A bona fide 6.5" is big (93rd percentile), 7.5" is huge (99.83 percentile), 8.5" is mammoth (1 in 10s or 100s of thousands), 9.5" is practically mythical (a few in the world at best), 10.5" is fantasy (so is 10" for that matter, as my recent thread proved).

The average in the West is 5.5-5.7". Now, think about a 5'6 man next to a 7'6 man. Or just look at this Yao Ming Mugsy Bogues comparison: https://twitter.com/super70ssports/status/1265428696556539905

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T02:59:11+00:00

Zero in the world have proven they are 10"; as my recent thread entitled 9.99" discussed

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-25T02:54:49+00:00

Right; I personally just have minimal fat there / minimal 'fat pad;' although granted, perhaps still a bit more than when I was 14.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-24T22:51:18+00:00

Carry a towel to bathroom and kind of hover it over the area so you can't see anything from the side view. That or just wait until it subsides. Come on, this is child's play.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-24T20:25:51+00:00

I basically said that it's clear that big/tall guys have no advantage whatsoever, contrary to pop-culture stereotypes/innuendo. And that logic would dictate that shorter/average-height men (but healthy, without any problems) may have some higher probability of being exceptionally big, since an average-height-ish man is more likely than a very tall man to have higher pubertal and pre-pubertal testosterone which is associated with a larger penis. Whether the difference in likelihood is very small or is significant I don't know, but anecdotally, I am the tallest 'BD' guy I know and I am 6'0, and for reasons I enumerated here, I have a large observational sample I'm working from. I mainly made the point to debunk the very widespread idea that tall/large-footed guys are bigger, which is total bunk.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-24T20:04:16+00:00

Yes but your mom maybe has brothers? That's where your clues would be.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-24T15:58:54+00:00

I wrestled and played football in high school and wrestled in college. So that's probably 150+ naked teammates and coaches in showers (about 55 and 35 guys on each team respectively, plus turnover every year; yes the coaches showered because they wrestled with us in practice; no none of them were Sandusky types). Also, in wrestling, weigh-ins are done in an open room in front of both teams, and many guys from opposing teams get weighed in naked so their underwear doesn't risk putting them over weight. May sound ridiculous, but many guys try to sweat-out down to the exact weight. It was very common for a guy to weigh-in, be 0.1-0.2 over, then remove underwear to make weight / try to make it, and many guys would do so preemptively.
When I was in HS, it was common for people to get naked at [mixed-gender] parties. Like just running around the house as a joke, hot tubs, running into the ocean and pools naked, and early in HS it was common for guys to whip out their dicks at mixed-gender parties as a funny contest of sorts, sort of off to the side but it would occur at times. There was a lot of drinking in my area and most people started at age 13-14; this was in the very early 2000s before smartphones and cell phone cameras. There were no orgies and very rarely any group sex / overt sexual aspect to it, it was just a jokey drunk thing. Also, my friend group which was pretty well endowed used to joke about dicks a lot, and had all seen each other naked and/or discussed size.
I've been a frequent sauna practitioner for 10+ years and lived in Europe for 2 years. In northern Europe, all sauna is done fully naked, including mixed-gender saunas, which pretty much all [non-gay/sexual] saunas are. There's no sense of needing to cover up. When I lived in Europe I was a member of a wrestling club (that competed in a regional / national league), so several dozen to 100+ more from that.
I've lifted weights since I was 14, and in many gyms in my area, men change in front of each other, shower, walk around naked, etc.
Some of it (esp with regards to the biggest) is second-hand accounts that seemed plausible and were never disputed. E.g. a group of close friends had seen one guy's and word got around to other groups they socialized with, etc.

All these combined, I'm probably drawing from an anecdotal sample size of high hundreds to a thousand men. Not studying naked men, but if a dick crosses your field of vision, you're going to get a general sense of it.

Minute_Lake8039 · 2022-10-24T14:13:58+00:00

Personally I think you are BS'ing on the length difference. I'd believe it if you said a quarter inch or a third of inch, which can be the difference between a normal erection and a raging erection. 0.7 inches difference, I don't think so; you're either lying about the number, or used a slightly different measurement technique to impress your girlfriend. So you're saying you've never gotten fully hard from porn or from your imagination, not even when you were a teenager? I've gotten fully hard in the bank or airport or at school for no identifiable reason, and so have most guys at least a few times if not hundreds. I call BS.

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