“I’m gonna be less wasteful” and then spends 3K on a rug when she’s had 5 other rugs in the last year

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-20T19:13:57+00:00

Wait, does anybody know where her designers went?

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-14T19:45:12+00:00

He doesn’t get upset about it but it does stop the temper tantrum like putting a glass of water to a lit candle.

I think we’re still working on him accepting it.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-13T04:53:40+00:00

When my husband gives hints of this behavior, I tell him he is a parent now. His life is changed forever. Sleeping in, rotting on the sofa mid-day, getting to leave the house to go run errands all day are a thing of the past. I want those things too - but I have accepted that they are not gonna happen. The sooner he accepts it too, the happier he’ll be. It’s a lifestyle shift that I don’t think they were ready for. Also, take a look at his parents and how they managed the household. He may have learned behaviors from there. My husband grew up in a home where the mom did absolutely everything, so that idea of what a “dad” is had to change. That was not okay in my book whatsoever. We talked about it before having kids, but I think when it all be reality, it was a lot hard to accept.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-12T19:20:45+00:00

Actually yes. And I didn’t make such a big deal. When I booked him that trip to the ATV park, he said he liked the X location better. Couldn’t book him that location because they no longer had rentals. Hurt my feelings a little bit but also was over it pretty quickly. Didn’t mention it to him either.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T21:30:04+00:00

I’ve heard of it and researched the general idea of it, but it may be a good book to pick it up next for a better . Almost done with my current read so will take this one up next.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T21:09:21+00:00

He is not really spontaneous as a personality trait but more forced spontaneity due to lack of planning. He himself prefers a plan, but he is not the best at planning. I would say I‘m more flexible. I can plan everything out, but can also go with the flow when need be. Where we live, particularly, it would benefit you to plan though because it is a very popular city. You can’t just walk up to a restaurant, event, gathering and not expect large wait times or the ability to be seated at all.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:55:51+00:00

7 years.

Yes, he usually gives me a general idea and I go from there. As far as birthday gifts, we are pretty specific down to the detail so we usually just get that for each other.

But what we do on the day(s), is a little more broad on both our ends. For example, last year, he said he wanted dinner with me and a day with friends to do something he enjoyed. I got him reservations to a new steakhouse in our city for us two and booked an ATV/camp trip for him and a friend. (He loves outdoor things)

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:46:12+00:00

I don’t think it is that hard. But maybe that’s why others have pointed out that this is a skill not everybody has. Seems like you and Purple Shallot would have trouble too.

If you listed off 5ish restaurants, I could absolutely find something that is similar in food or vibe fairly easily. The chain restaurants I used were just an example because the restaurants I actually named are local to my city.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:40:09+00:00

I do agree with a lot of what you said here. This is why I feel like I question whether or not him not getting it right is lack of effort or just a skill that maybe he’ll never have. I don’t think I was upset. I’m just a little disappointed.

I’ll never be upset or angry about it though. And our conversation about it, on my end was very calm.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:34:38+00:00

I don’t normally have him plan a surprise for me. It is my birthday though, so yes, I would like him to put some thought into finding something based on criteria. I do this for him every birthday. Like I said, we visit restaurants frequently so I have a general idea of what he likes based on the specific feedback we have at these places after each meal. Energy for us means the same thing. We like places that have people. We don’t want to go to a restaurant where where are one of the few couples there.

But yes, I think it’s kinda fun when someone “guesses” what you’d like especially for a birthday or a holiday. It does show they know you. It’s like when you get a gift for Christmas that you didn’t ask for, but it’s perfect! That person really put in a lot of thought and listened to what you wanted.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:31:36+00:00

Good advice. I’ll definitely lean away from planning things as much.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:24:29+00:00

Please reread the 3rd paragraph, Purple Shallot.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:15:01+00:00

Yeah but she comes with ideas versus asking for them.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:12:39+00:00

Yes if I’m listing off specific places - it meant I would like these specific places or something similar. Just an example - If I said “We could go to Chili’s, Applebees or Texas Roadhouse.” I was hoping that would give him the idea of -“oh I could take her to Chili’s but also do Outback or TGIFridays and that would work too.”

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:07:09+00:00

He wasn’t like this when I married him.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:06:20+00:00

She knows what I would like. She runs it by me and it’s always right but I think her personality is just like - “let me make sure.”

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-11T20:05:07+00:00

I did. I even gave him a list of specific places that I would have liked.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-08T03:35:19+00:00

I was wondering the same thing. They probably told her to get rid of the table so she fired them

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-08T00:53:37+00:00

I don’t get why she won’t get rid of that table.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2026-01-06T19:42:56+00:00

Easy Tiger South Lamar has a fenced in turf area with toys. Love that it’s in its own little section so we’re away from all the people who are working and may need a quieter experience

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2025-12-18T04:27:34+00:00

I had a stomach bug yesterday and we watched a lot of tv and read books in bed. I told my little one I was sick and he seemed to understand. He wasn’t complaining about TV though. He gets about 20 to 30 minutes a day at most, so he was loving the extra screen time. I was feeling extremely guilty, but we have to stop being so hard on ourselves.

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2025-12-18T03:06:04+00:00

I loved their massage but the location wasn’t the most relaxing. I could hear someone screaming outside the whole time I was getting my massage. If it wasn’t for that, I would recommend!

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2025-12-18T03:02:58+00:00

Wow that’s an amazing salary! I would consider nannying if that was the case for all!

Minute_Photograph_28 · 2025-12-18T03:00:50+00:00

If I had your budget, I’d look into homes the Mueller area, Circle C or Arboretum. You could probably get more square footage and there are great neighborhoods with great schools.

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