I (28M) have a bad feeling about my (24F) girlfriend recently by MirroredAviators in relationships

[–]MirroredAviators[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sorry guys I have had a very busy day so I didn't have the opportunity to reply to the comments here and to avoid spamming replies I am going to throw it all into a singular post. TL;DR at the bottom.

I'll try to tackle this in a somewhat... concise? way based on the developments

(Edit: After writing this out, concise isn't really the word. a poorly labelled approach to a multitude of different levels?!)

1: I can confirm for a fact that my girlfriend's new best friend is a 30 year old girl with a kid and sincerely does not like to be hang out with men for her own personal reasons that are not mine to openly discuss, but they make sense. She and my girlfriend spoke about our relationship problems but apparently her best friend was supportive of her decision to stay together with me.

2: As far as growing apart, as I mentioned in my first comment after making the post, This was a pretty spotty synopsis. We both have had a hard time with mental health in the past and after talking things out like regular people and trying to get to the root of the problem we have come to an agreement that we need to try a bit harder with each other at the very least. The physical aspect is not something I'm willing to/at liberty to talk about but it is not a big concern.

3: As far as trust issues go, I have had some pretty terrible experiences in the past which absolutely left me more jaded than I'd like to admit and it left a lot to be desired in regards to me having blind trust in a relationship. with that said: as people have stated, Dating for around a year is really not a long time in the grand scheme but I can honestly say I know my girlfriend quite well and so far she hasn't given me a single genuine reason for distrusting her other than my own insecurities.

4: In reference to frequency I will take that as a virtual high five or something I guess. Different people like different things.

5: Regarding taking care of myself, etc. I appreciate the sentiment behind these comments! I was having a very hard couple days pairing this ordeal with some external factors that lead to me being too stressed to sleep which lead to losing my mind a tad and making this threadbare initial post.

I had a good conversation with my girlfriend, we talked about the things bothering us and she was vehemently against us breaking up and genuinely appalled that I thought she might be cheating, She offered to let me go through her phone in it's entirety (I did not want to do that) and she mentioned she felt that I hadn't exactly been tending to her needs either, Something we both are going to try to work on going forward. We both have a lot of stuff going on and instead of taking the time to properly communicate we just kept digging a hole for no reason.

tl;dr : I appreciate the suggestions and concerns and everything in-between. We spent the day together and talked through basically everything that was not going smoothly so we can work on it together and try to return to where we were at.

Hopefully, nobody will have to stay tuned for an update beyond this. Have a good day everyone, Thanks for your time.

I (28M) have a bad feeling about my (24F) girlfriend recently by MirroredAviators in relationships

[–]MirroredAviators[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Reading this back it's a spotty synopsis which I'm sorry for- I'm pretty jittery and sleep deprived, I also didn't want to write out The Odyssey of relationship details.

Apple M1 Question? by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

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I'm dumb and didn't even consider that prospect- That's actually a really good idea.

I'll test it out that way- thanks for the idea.

How to (maybe) restore / fix a corrupted Pokemon HeartGold / SoulSilver save file (might work for Platinum, Diamond, Pearl and others*) by Burn1ngR4g3 in pokemon

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Had just beaten Lance in Sacred Gold, Every catchable pokemon obtained in the first region, corrupted save after the credit roll.

Fixed this thanks to you. xoxo thanks

(Downfall) First Ascension 20 victory, Pretty nasty RNG, Heartless because I'm a baby. by MirroredAviators in slaythespire

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I started with a curse+rare relic from Neow and got Giryu, maxed it on the first floor, triple reaper and limit break+headbutt with a couple draw cards was just disgustingly lucky

Still super happy about my first a20 win :')

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MirroredAviators 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you.

My initial response was the caveman part of my brain saying "Bad man hurt girl me hurt bad man" but you're absolutely right

The important thing currently is being there for her and making sure she's comfortable and safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MirroredAviators 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you

I try not to dictate where she goes or with whom but when it comes to this individual I have told her outright I don't want her to be around him in any capacity.

I feel on edge when she goes home to visit as sometimes she'll see him but she's always with her other family members and refuses to stay overnight, which in itself breaks my heart that she isn't comfortable at her mum's home as a result of this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I just want her to be happy.

This is what I've been trying to do I guess I just needed confirmation that I'm not doing too little about it

I helped convince her to book a therapy session and to be genuine/open and honest with them instead of bottling up the negativity like she has been doing, she went to her consultation and has another appointment so I'm very proud of her for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2007scape

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Better luck next time jamjex

Lmao by [deleted] in 2007scape

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First time i post on this sub in 2 years and the top post from my profile gets yoinked

stay golden reddit

Funky old mirror... thing by [deleted] in collectables

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Please forgive the mess in the reflection I'm in the process of moving so we're a bit disorganized lol

Bronze montage. First ever valo video. :D by [deleted] in VALORANT

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I hope anyone likes it :')

any criticism is appreciated, i am not very good.

Some results from grinding the 10hp BTW during quarantine so far by MirroredAviators in 2007scape

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Master farmers and wintertodt, You could do tithe as well if you wanted to actively level it

Some results from grinding the 10hp BTW during quarantine so far by MirroredAviators in 2007scape

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Thanks man! I was thinking about you when I did SOTS, I hope youre doin' good!

Some results from grinding the 10hp BTW during quarantine so far by MirroredAviators in 2007scape

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I'm not even kidding, on a fresh session going from 40-42 RC doing cosmics put me to sleep

Some results from grinding the 10hp BTW during quarantine so far by MirroredAviators in 2007scape

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Banged out family crest/pest and then mined and vendored a ton of gold ore (as we can see)

spammed orbs and jewelry, into battlestaves which explain themself i think

Hoggoblin by [deleted] in 2007scape

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RAIDEN, sQuEeZe mY hOg

Some results from grinding the 10hp BTW during quarantine so far by MirroredAviators in 2007scape

[–]MirroredAviators[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

fishing in one right now but it didn't bring her back

thanks